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agirl -> RE: "Forcing" someone (12/25/2006 8:56:34 AM)
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ORIGINAL: MasterFireMaam
thetammyjo posted a great discussion about life's paths. In a later response, she said, "I did want to say that for me I do not feel I could force someone to stay with me because of my personal moral code." It got me to thinking and I didn't want to hijack her thread.
What's everyone's opinion about our ability as Masters and Dominants to force someone to do something? Can we really, truly, force anyone to do anything?
How about the flip side: if you truly didn't want to do something, could you be forced to do it? Edited to add: Do you feel that you have a choice about what you do?
My thoughts: In the end, we cannot force anyone to do anything, nor can we be forced if we truly, truly don't want to do it. There are consequences for choosing not to, but, we can choose those. Case in point: you can hold a gun to my head and tell me I have to do something in order to live. I have the choice to do it or be shot. Same thing if you help the gun on someone else and told me that they'd be shot if I didn't comply. It would all depend on what I was willing to "sell" (doing whatever) in order to get what I wanted (life) that would define my willingness to be "forced". But, in the end, it's MY choice to do, or not...not your choice...you've merely uped the ante and have, or haven't, convinced me that it's worth it.
Master Fire
I, rationally and philosophically, know that I have *choice* about most things (maybe all things).
When we say we *had no choice* aren't we really describing the FEELING that the choice we made was better than the alternative?
In life in general, I can FEEL forced to do things because I'm human and am susceptible to *pressure*......when it's presented in certain ways....But feeling it and it actually being the case are different.
If I have enought time to evaluate a situation, I rarely feel *forced*, in the pure sense of the word.
In my relationship.......I'm coerced at times because I am most certainly unwilling to do some things, they might be good for me, they might enhance my life in the long term, but I still don't want to DO them at the time.
agirl
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