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Aardvark69 -> RE: Multidimensional BDSM relationships (12/5/2006 6:35:01 PM)
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I can only add to some the existing comments.
These sorts of sites naturally attract those with a fetish focus - which I assume is helpful, at least in so far as this is one of your requirements. So there is probably some value in using such a site - I for one am sick of the reverse problem - namely otherwise attractive/compatible women without the sensually dominant streak that I also desire.
As the fetish interest is therefore something of a given (and you can always focus on the D/s details later), I would aim your profile at other the other things. Your profile does this well in part e.g. the interest in music. Some of your posts also reveal parts of your character.
However you may want to think about the follwoing (especially numbers 1 & 4):
- Expanding on your other (non D/s) interests. You must have more of them, and there are lots of "interest" options here on other things. They may attract men with similar interests, and if nothing else give a man an easy non D/s topic/lead to contact you on. Remember we follow the easy path.....
- What sort of relationship(s) you are looking for. Is pure friendship an option? This also starts to move the balance of the profile away from pure D/s.
- Do you expect 24/7 or lifesyle control? Yes I know this is D/s, but you may deter some of the trolls. If so be clear about some of the practicalities of this.
- Think about changing your main photo to a pure face shot. Yes the existing one is stunning, but it is also quite "physical" and will attract a lot of the people that you may not want.
- Posting more in the forums. It makes you more visible to (and possibly attractive to) the sort of men that you may want. b.com used to be good for this.
That said, you are still going to get a lot of chaff with the wheat. Men are generally more orientated to "activitities" over relationships, and the web both selects for people with poor social skills, and lowers normal inhibitions to otherwise crude approaches (the downside of failure is much lower....).
So ultimately, even if you can improve the ratios, most of your e-mails will still be poor quality. Only you can decide if it is worth it.
I hope things go well.
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