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Submissive Frenzies - 12/6/2006 4:52:35 AM

LotusSong

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http://www.leathernroses.com/submission/steelefrenzies.htm

Do you have them?

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RE: Submissive Frenzies - 12/6/2006 5:08:32 AM

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Wow, what a great article! i can identify with that when i first discovered my submissiveness. i was in a very frenzied state and yes, common sense was the first thing i gave away, twice. Fortunately, i met several Doms here on collarme that recognized that and mentored me thru the frenzies, they still do :-)
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RE: Submissive Frenzies - 12/6/2006 7:17:09 AM

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Not really. Once I understood and acknowledged what had been there as long as I can remember, I set about doing what comes naturally to me........ reading, researching.... and even more reading and researching.

I'm 44, never married. One reason I believe I never married and even walked away from the dating scene for years, was because some part of me knew that I needed something I wasn't finding, and I wasn't going to settle just for the sake of being in a relationship. So once I figured out who and what I was, I certainly wasn't going to settle for just any guy that claimed to be a Dom. Yes, I've gotten to know some so-called Dom's online, but only one I would have been interested in meeting in real life..... (planned to, until he decided he really couldn't deal with a submissive who was 3 inches taller than him

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When I put up my profile on CM, I was inundated with emails from Dom's. I never sent out a single email as a first contact. They all contacted me first. Out of the 60 or 70 Doms that contacted me at first, maybe 5 met my basic criteria. Something about Him, felt different than the others, which lead us to multiple emails, chats, phone calls and meeting in person. I chose to submit to Him.

I can certainly understand the sub frenzy situation. The feelings are overwhelming at times, and once acknowledged and understood, you really want the other part of the equation (the Dom/me) to feel complete.

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RE: Submissive Frenzies - 12/6/2006 8:16:45 AM

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I *had* them, almost every novice does.

And I occasionally go through "climbing the walls" times now when I just get a craving for something- I think almost everyone does that also.

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RE: Submissive Frenzies - 12/6/2006 8:39:21 AM

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I have "had" them, and they were fun in an obsessive sort of dreamy kinda neurotic way.....

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RE: Submissive Frenzies - 12/6/2006 8:45:03 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LotusSong

http://www.leathernroses.com/submission/steelefrenzies.htm

Do you have them?

of all of the experiences in this slave's life that she could describe with the word "frenzy", none of them were driven by the need for or realization of some form of submission, d/s, s&m or sexually related.

a few this slave has experienced:

Birthin' Baby Frenzy: a real pressing need, after a few hours of hard labor...lots of irrationality, mental agitation, etc and doing it sans hospital pharmaceuticals really added to the euphoria/ mania associated with a frenzied state.

Self-Preservation Frenzy: after coming to the realization that this slave's life was in danger, she gave in to jumping out the window of the second story when that was the only way out after some pretty intense mental agitation and physical abuse that worked this slave into a frenzy!!!

Backpacking Frenzy: it's pretty irrational to get so worked up about all that natural beauty that you put yourself in cougar territory and keep on climbing and walking until you can't feel your feet...yet, it's pretty euphoric out there!!!

Chocolate Frenzy: however, this slave feels it was directly related to the nine month period that went on directly before the Birthin' Baby Frenzy mentioned above.

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RE: Submissive Frenzies - 12/6/2006 8:48:38 AM

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Oh yes! i get these frenzies all the time!

quote:

ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

Backpacking Frenzy: it's pretty irrational to get so worked up about all that natural beauty that you put yourself in cougar territory and keep on climbing and walking until you can't feel your feet...yet, it's pretty euphoric out there!!!

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RE: Submissive Frenzies - 12/6/2006 9:46:19 AM

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That was a very good article. And yes, I can say I have experienced most all of the emotions that were presented. To me, my submission to the ONE Woman I love is a driving force in my life. So yes, you could say that my passion for Her, my love for Her is in fact like a frenzie in of itself. My desire to love and serve Her is what keeps me happy.

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RE: Submissive Frenzies - 12/6/2006 9:58:43 AM

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I wn through them and even though i am no a novice anymore i still get thos frrling evey time i look into my Masters eyes i don't think i will eve got over them 100%

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RE: Submissive Frenzies - 12/6/2006 10:17:22 AM

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Oh yes!
I was in a frenzy about reading everything I could get my hands on as well as asking as many questions as I could think of.

I was in a frenzy to have my first experience.

I was in a frenzy to find a Dom (which I still don't have), but that's quieted down a bit.

I'm in a frenzy of sorts..or perhaps like LA has stated...climbing the walls right now, for play time.

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RE: Submissive Frenzies - 12/6/2006 10:46:57 AM

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I like your approach here. :)

I've done submissive frenzy, but I get other frenzies as well.

I've done the "birthday baby frenzy." It came to a head when I actually gave birth, but in the year or so prior to that, I did an enormous amount of research and thinking about everything having to do with childbirth and babies.

Then I did "child with a disability" frenzy when my son was diagnosed with cerebral palsy and I devoted myself to learning how to take care of him, meeting other mothers with disabled children, helping out with his programs and volunteering for various agencies and sitting on committees where they wanted parents involved. Eventually, I tossed common sense aside completely, and decided to go back to grad school with a concentration in disability studies. :)

My favorite is "new idea frenzy." Sometimes, after a period of intellectual lassitude characterized by feelings of emptyness and melancholia, I come accross a new idea that totally grabs me and I move into high gear and begin digging up everything thats ever been written on that idea I came accross. In this process, I often go through a period where all other ideas seem pale in comparison to my new idea and I can't imagine ever having another idea. This is followed by a period of dissillusionment when I begin to sense that the idea isn't quite as perfect as I thought. And, finally, I realize that its a good idea, but, like all ideas, limited.

Then, there's "intellectual frenzy" which is similar to new idea frenzy, only I become enamored with the individual authoring the idea and try to read everything they've ever written.

I've also had sewing frenzy when, after the birth of my first child, I decided my life wouldn't be complete until I taught myself to sew. So, I taught myself to sew, learned to make kids clothes and dressed my son with my own creations. Other areas of my life, cooking, cleaning, and laundry suffered and my now ex-husband got a little irritated with me, but damn, they were cute clothes. (last year, I taught myself to make paper with the same obsessive devotion. the year before, I made all my own laundry detergent.)

I don't know. I don't think there's anything wrong with frenzies just so one understands one's own pattern and recognizes them for what they are: intense passion which is bound to fade a bit after a while.

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RE: Submissive Frenzies - 12/6/2006 11:39:40 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: gypsygrl
I don't know. I don't think there's anything wrong with frenzies just so one understands one's own pattern and recognizes them for what they are: intense passion which is bound to fade a bit after a while.

Ooooooooo I hadn't thought about that way. I guess because my "frenzies" mostly came before I understood and acknowledged this part of me. I just figured it was that obsessive and analytical Virgo nature. LOL!

If that's the case, then YES, I have gone through numerous frenzies in my life involving my career, relationships, my dogs, learning about things that interested me (including amassing a library on such topics), diet/exercise..... When something interests me or catches my attention, I focus almost solely on that.

WOW, isn't it fun to have those self discovery moments?

I've had so many of those in this last year.

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RE: Submissive Frenzies - 12/6/2006 12:31:18 PM

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I was in a frenzy to learn all I could about the lifestyle, being forewarned and all ... (I believe this is a good frenzy to be in for anyone serious about the lifestyle)
I get in frenzies when I have the NEED to be controlled by my Master, when I absolutely NEED Him to Dom the hell out of me

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RE: Submissive Frenzies - 12/6/2006 12:39:40 PM

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The frenzies can be experienced by anyone - Dom or sub, Top or bottom, and not necessarily just by novices.

But, merely being interested in gathering more information and learning more alone, is not a sign of the frenzies. (Nudges those that have accused me from my voracious appetite for reading and studying).

Best wishes everyone on your personal journey,
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RE: Submissive Frenzies - 12/6/2006 5:16:46 PM

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I think maybe I did a few months ago (and I was not a "brand new" submissive, either, although I am not what I'd call "experienced". Not by a long shot).

It would explain a "lapse in good judgment" that I may have experienced. I am older and wiser (and aware this can happen now. I was aware it could happen before - I just never thought it would happen to me).

Actually, these "frenzies" sounds like a lot of fun - except if one ends up making stupid decisions because of being "under the influence", so to speak.

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RE: Submissive Frenzies - 12/6/2006 6:28:57 PM

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I was afflicted a time or two myself, but I found that 10 step program I think I'm healed!

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RE: Submissive Frenzies - 12/7/2006 3:33:14 PM

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Ohhhhhhhh, I'm thinkin' these frenzies are not uncommon in the vanilla world either, most specifically when one locates a potential love interest or passion in a consuming hobby / career.

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RE: Submissive Frenzies - 12/7/2006 4:53:29 PM

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I definitely get the need to play frenzies when I haven't been beaten in awhile.

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RE: Submissive Frenzies - 12/7/2006 5:24:04 PM

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Yes, I had them in the beginning. And yes, I still get them at times. Sometimes I yearn to experience a higher level of intensity or a new activity, and I find myself thinking about it quite a lot, talking to Master about it. I feel kind of like a little kid, sitting in front of a pile of gifts, just waiting to open them and see what they are - if they make me happy, bring me joy, make me squeal, or make me cry because "it's just what I've always wanted." It's part of that excited, nervous anticipation, that itch that needs to be scratched. I don't think it's bad, and I have learned to recognize its onset, as has my Master. He quiets those feelings, settles and reassures me, and lets me know that He refuses to take the pace any faster than He believes than I can manage. It has been a good thing, even though it can be frustrating at times, but I trust His judgment, and the frustration soon dissipates.

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RE: Submissive Frenzies - 12/7/2006 6:58:00 PM

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