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Switch women - 12/6/2006 6:58:23 PM

slavekal

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For the guys who are in a lifestyle/nonpro relationship with a dominant woman. If she is all dominatrix with you, but you know that she is submissive to someone else, does it matter? Does it make her "less" of a dominant in your eyes, or does it not make a difference?

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RE: Switch women - 12/7/2006 2:42:18 AM

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If everybodys happy, why does it matter?

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RE: Switch women - 12/7/2006 5:55:28 AM

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Would it bother you less if she wasn't switching power wise, but simply enjoyed sensation play? Because dominant doesn't mean sadist, nor masochist submissive. You can get erotic pleasure from receiving pain, or bondage, and yet still hold the power in the relationship.

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RE: Switch women - 12/7/2006 8:52:34 AM

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dom·i·na·trix

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–noun, plural -na·tri·ces

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siz/ Pronunciation Key - Show Spelled Pronunciation[-ney-truh-seez, -nuh-trahy-seez] Pronunciation Key - Show IPA Pronunciation. 1.a woman who plays the dominant role in a sado-masochistic sexual relationship or encounter. 2.a woman who dominates.
A sadist is not always a Dominant. A masochist isn't always a submissive.

So....to maybe better phrase an answer, I'm going to venture to replace the word Dominatrix.

For those that are in a Femdomme/male sub relationship....

There are some other threads on the same general subject, so in case this one does not get a lot of replies and if LuckyAlbatross doesn't pop in for a link fest, do a search on this subject up in the right hand corner of the top of the forum.

As for an answer...the best I can do is from my perspective as a switch dating a switch.

No, I do not think that switching makes us any less one or the other. Personally, both of us might not be exactly 50% Dom/me and 50% sub...but that doesn't lessen him in my eyes or me in his.

For some it does....for some they can't be with someone who switches. That's a personal thing and I have nothing against it. That's the kind of security they need, they need to see that person and know that person is strictly Dom/me or sub, I don't believe that they think necessarily less of people who do, it's just a preference for their own reality.

To me it comes down to the mental. Some have to be 100% dominated, no questions to seep into their heads about the nature of their dominant. It has to be cut and dry. And visa versa. For them to feel secure in their dynamics, there can't be anything to challenge that dynamic. No second guessing.

< Message edited by Aine -- 12/7/2006 9:02:43 AM >

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RE: Switch women - 12/7/2006 9:01:47 PM

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No, it would not matter to me. In fact I would probably be happy knowing that this is not one of those dommes - and I'm not saying they are all like this - that feel they need to prove their dominance over everyone, or at least all males, one who realizes it is appropriate to lead some and be equal with or follow others as circumstances dictate. More of a logic or dynamic based approach vs. an ego based approach.

On another note, one of my recurring fantasies has been the idea of being submissive to a woman who is submissive to another, either male or female, sort of a "slave to a slave", lowest of the low sort of thing. And I've noticed sometimes that subs can be even harsher dominating other subs which counters the way you would expect it to go. So overall it sounds pretty hot to me.

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RE: Switch women - 12/7/2006 9:38:05 PM

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It wouldn't matter to me one bit. I might even like her more, knowing that she too might appreciate some of the things I like, being a sub. It might even giver her some ideas. of things to do to me too.

Wouldn't mind having a switch, BalletBob

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