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darksdesire -> RE: appreciation in lifestyle (12/12/2006 1:14:30 PM)
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When I think about it, I respond so well to his appreciation and praise because it lets me know that my efforts to please him are successful. It isn't the praise or the appreciation that matters exactly. What matters is knowing that what i've done is actually serving him in some way. The pleasure of pleasing him is enough, but i do need to know what it is that pleases so that I can continue to do it.
My Master would likely say that his praise and appreciation isn't necessarily motivated out of a desire to reinforce my behavior (although there is that), but primarily out of a genuine expression of appreciation. I find that remarkable and touching.
This relationship has demonstrated to me that two people can fall into these positive cycles of energy exchange, in which their interactions with each other feed and nurture the relationship and one another. Often times, the cycle seems to have a life of its own in it's effortlessness. I've never experienced this other than now, in my one and only D/s relationship, so I tend to think D/s is special in this way. However, it might not be D/s per se, but any number of factors that go into such a dynamic. I don't know. I don't know. But it works, and it's great.
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