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Anal "rape" - 12/11/2006 3:43:34 PM   
SlaveAkasha


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Status: offline 		Have you ever done an anal rape scene with your sub/slave?  If so, did she know about it ahead of time?  Did you have her prepare in a certain way?  Did you use lube, or was it done dry?
 
Master and I have been talking about doing this.  I was curious as to how others have handled it and any tips maybe someone experienced in it could give us.
 
Thank you.
 
Respectfully,
Kasha

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RE: Anal "rape" - 12/11/2006 3:52:17 PM   
BDSM05478


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Status: offline 		as someone that has played out this fantasy on the receiving end I advise you to work on preparing yourself for a few weeks before hand with increasing the size till you can do the scene w/o the very real pain and potential damage or possible infection. Yes it does kinda take the "surprise" out but you can even work with that by discussing this fantasy with your Owner and setting up a date that anytime at or after is a big green light to plow through. It works better IMH(and still sore when I think about that one)O.

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RE: Anal "rape" - 12/11/2006 4:14:25 PM   
darksdesire


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Status: offline 		I tried it once, no lube, and I couldn't handl it.  IT HURT!!  I don't think it would have been painful with lube, but I advise, (especially if you are a novice as I am)...  use lube. 

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RE: Anal "rape" - 12/11/2006 4:39:05 PM   
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Status: offline 		If the scene will take place at a particular date and time, wear a well lubed butt plug for a few hours before hand and remove it just prior. That way it is less painful and it still gives the simulation that you seek. Granted, this all goes out the door if you can take the pain well, I would suggest taking a 2" wide dildo and seeing if that hurts too much after 2 minutes. If they want it to be a suprise then there isn't much you can do that would detract from the intended effect except lubing yourself up twice a day. If the scene is going to incorporate degredation, do prepare yourself for that aspect since it can have a far greater impact than the actual penetration and if there will be any ass to mouth either take an enema or expect it. Ensure that whereever the scene is going to take place, there will be plenty of empty space to move/toss around and that there are no sharp edges to hurt yourself on. The focus should be on the act, not on dodging coffee tables. Aftercare for any rape scene is really critical since it can make the sub feel like they are not themselves. One of the 1st signs that something is wrong will come after the scene when the sub will want to wear a lot more clothes than normal to bed. All in all, have fun and if this is the 1st time for both you and your Master I suggest taking the scheduled route and if you both liked it then moving to "sometime on thursday" to "sometime during next week". As with everything, build it up slow and revel in the anticipation.

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RE: Anal "rape" - 12/11/2006 6:41:03 PM   
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Status: offline 		my Master has "raped" me anally many times (i put rape in quotations because we don't believe a person can technically rape their own property). almost always dry, with the exception of times he used his own saliva. i was never told about it in advance. it was always very painful and often bloody as well, but eh, that's the life of a slave.

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RE: Anal "rape" - 12/11/2006 6:47:16 PM   
bitchgodess2001


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Status: offline 		I can't say how it feels on the giving end....but I know for a fact that on the receiving end...YOU MUST USE LUBE....you risk tearing the walls of the anus/colon/rectum.  Pain is a good thing...but not in this manner.

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RE: Anal "rape" - 12/11/2006 6:57:20 PM   
newdombbw


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Status: offline 		Kasha -

I'm embarassed to say that a few months ago I was raped anally (fat cock, no lube).  (By a switch who's much bigger than me and got "out of hand".) 

It's NOT fun - it hurts like hell - for days or weeks afterwards.  It took me a few weeks to cough without pain.  I had both slaves and Doms trying to advise me about how to take care of myself and the pain afterwards.  Epson salts soaks helped alot, but ultimately time and lots of lubrication eased the pain.

This is why I own 3 sizes of buttplugs (besides my strapons) - to gently stretch my slaves over time - ALWAYS using lots of lube - I CARE for my slaves and have no desire to harm them.

The advice you've already been given is very good - please, pre-stretch if at all possible, and hopefully your Master will use lubrication of some form.

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RE: Anal "rape" - 12/11/2006 7:04:43 PM   
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Status: offline 		Preparation and lube are always good things. It's really easy to tear the rectal lining. And, since this isn't realy rape, you hope that serious harm isn't done. Besides, 'real' rape isn't about sex at all...it's about control. So, figure out if what you want is the rough sex or being forced to give up control. Then, work from there.

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RE: Anal "rape" - 12/11/2006 7:23:39 PM   
Kalira


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ORIGINAL: SlaveAkasha

Have you ever done an anal rape scene with your sub/slave?  If so, did she know about it ahead of time?  Did you have her prepare in a certain way?  Did you use lube, or was it done dry?
 
Master and I have been talking about doing this.  I was curious as to how others have handled it and any tips maybe someone experienced in it could give us.
 
Thank you.
 
Respectfully,
Kasha

Master never tells me, but I usually can tell what he has in mind the minute he grabs my hair and tells me to drop to my knees. We never use lube of any kind; though if anal is not something that you enjoy, I would suggest using something.

< Message edited by Kalira -- 12/11/2006 7:38:20 PM >

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RE: Anal "rape" - 12/11/2006 8:53:32 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: SlaveAkasha
Master and I have been talking about doing this.  I was curious as to how others have handled it and any tips maybe someone experienced in it could give us.


Probably not exactly what you are looking for but you did ask for our experiences in it.....

Multiple stranger anal rape at 18. The surgery to repair the damage was not much fun.

Wonder Dom at age 37 who thought re-enacting the original rape would finally get me over the trauma and stop any possible flashbacks from popping up during scenes. Afterward, the ER was really embarassing and having your asshole stitched back up was again...not much fun. It all turned out to be fatal for the relationship....wonder Dom in tears when he realized he had done something that he was soooooo not qualified to do. The next few months all of the emotion and trauma of the original rape came back like it had happened yesterday. Sleeping in my closet with a loaded shotgun, waking up screaming every time my eyes closed and vomiting up every bite of food I put in my mouth for the next few months was also....not much fun.

Having my colon rupture this past year was....not much fun. Was it connected to all of the prior damage? Official medical answer...."can't say for sure but the possibility certainly exists that it may have played a role". Open colon surgery was....really not much fun. The colostomy that I had to deal with for the next six months was....way beyond not much fun. The open colon surgery to re-construct it all was again...not much fun. The likelihood of future surgery for the adhesions or hernias that I am now more prone to develop will likely be....not much fun either. I'm sure that I am also not going to much enjoy the now mandatory yearly rectal exams and colonoscopies.

I have also now been warned by the docs....anal play...of any kind....forget it....NEVER, EVER again....the results could definitely be....not much fun.


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RE: Anal "rape" - 12/11/2006 9:31:54 PM   
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ORIGINAL: daddysprop247

my Master has "raped" me anally many times (i put rape in quotations because we don't believe a person can technically rape their own property). almost always dry, with the exception of times he used his own saliva. i was never told about it in advance. it was always very painful and often bloody as well, but eh, that's the life of a slave.

Gonna have to quote you on this. With us it isn't rape or "rape play".  He uses me as he wants to use, lube or no lube. If he is going to use saliva though, it's my own, going from my mouth to my ass.  The pain upon entry is like no other I have felt, but in moments it subsides and I relax and get into it. He'll usually use my mouth to clean himself with afterwards. I am usually sore for days after this.

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RE: Anal "rape" - 12/11/2006 10:04:48 PM   
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RE: Anal "rape" - 12/11/2006 10:21:23 PM   
mistoferin


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Status: offline 		awww...thanks. But really not necessary. I'm ok...I really am. When a post like this comes up though, I feel it's necessary to present the "other side" of the coin. So often people see the hot fantasy...and that is all good....but it has to also be realized that there can sometimes be cold reality. Rape play, especially when one is dealing with an actual victim of a prior rape...is a risky game. Granted, some say that it has made things better for them. For some of us though, there could be a very heavy price tag.

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RE: Anal "rape" - 12/11/2006 11:55:35 PM   
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Status: offline 		Never did it as 'rape', per se - but have done it as 'forced'. 

She learned to love anal - though it always did scare her a bit before it actually started.

Lube.  Use lots of lube.  To quote a friend, "too much is barely enough". 

FWIW, those old foam applicators?  The ones used to deposit contraceptive foam deep into the vagina?  If you can find one, they're WONDERFUL for inserting lube into the anus.

The memory of her, bound into position, begging me not to - and then, me taking what was mine - an amazing rush.  Her coming from it, about 4 seconds after I was fully in - well, that's one of the memories that'll give my 'old age home' years a smile.

Preparation is good - but lube is essential.

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RE: Anal "rape" - 12/12/2006 2:32:31 AM   
mons


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i am shock that had to be so painful i would not ever do this to my slave i know you can not say it was pleasureable you said you bled and that is so serious, my dear the life of a slave is not to be damage you not anygood if you ae damaged i would think you master woulld know this? i was raped many years ago i would and could not do this to another at all i read many of the replies non said it was pleasureable then why do many of you do this? even a slave has rights

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RE: Anal "rape" - 12/12/2006 2:47:10 AM   
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Status: offline 		Erin - I'm sorry to hear about what you went through.  And the lasting effects, both emotionally and physically, and the surgery.  You are one tough cookie!  

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RE: Anal "rape" - 12/12/2006 3:01:52 AM   
SlaveAkasha


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Status: offline 		Thank you all for the advice, and thank you Eric for sharing.
 
I had been raped before, vaginally..and we did that type of scene.  It went well, so we thought of expanding to this.  My main fear was ripping and damage, I know that Master would never want to hurt me like that. 
 
I would rather have the "hot fantasy" ruined by lube, than by a doctors visit or worse..Master agrees.
 
Lube, lube, lube... got it..
 
Kasha

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RE: Anal "rape" - 12/12/2006 3:08:00 AM   
MistressTexas


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Status: offline 		oh! one more thing... lube. :P lol.. kidding, but seriously have fun sweetheart. You're a great one to have on the boards, I'd rather not lose you to a hospital stay.

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RE: Anal "rape" - 12/12/2006 7:07:06 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie

quote:

ORIGINAL: daddysprop247

my Master has "raped" me anally many times (i put rape in quotations because we don't believe a person can technically rape their own property). almost always dry, with the exception of times he used his own saliva. i was never told about it in advance. it was always very painful and often bloody as well, but eh, that's the life of a slave.

Gonna have to quote you on this. With us it isn't rape or "rape play".  He uses me as he wants to use, lube or no lube. If he is going to use saliva though, it's my own, going from my mouth to my ass.  The pain upon entry is like no other I have felt, but in moments it subsides and I relax and get into it. He'll usually use my mouth to clean himself with afterwards. I am usually sore for days after this.


Is that safe.........I mean cleaning him off  with your mouth after anal? Can't you get like Hepititis from that? (Maybe I'm thinking of something else)

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RE: Anal "rape" - 12/12/2006 8:06:52 AM   
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Is that safe.........I mean cleaning him off  with your mouth after anal? Can't you get like Hepititis from that? (Maybe I'm thinking of something else)

I can get it if he has it, but he doesn't have it, so no. 

Yes there are always risks any time there is rimming or any ass to mouth activity (bacterias, parasites, etc.).  It's a risk he is willing to take with me.  I'm always pretty flushed out (enemas) prior to him using my ass, but even if I weren't, what he wants in my mouth goes in my mouth.

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