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punishment - 12/12/2006 8:02:07 PM

RUBondage

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Well im posting again, this time with some questions on activities, me and my friend have been experimenting alot with bondage, spanking, blindfolds and role playing, but we both want more, and I was curious into what other punsihments can be given instead of just hitting. I was also curious as to humiliation and objectification, I have an idea about what they are but im not quite sure where to start with them. I was also interested in learning more about the dynamics of a D/s relationship, and how the dom should act toward the sub and the sub towards the dom. Any advice would be greatly appreciated, thank you

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RE: punishment - 12/12/2006 8:45:17 PM

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ORIGINAL: RUBondage
Well im posting again, this time with some questions on activities, me and my friend have been experimenting alot with bondage, spanking, blindfolds and role playing, but we both want more, and I was curious into what other punsihments can be given instead of just hitting.

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I was also curious as to humiliation and objectification, I have an idea about what they are but im not quite sure where to start with them.

Start with your own ideas.

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I was also interested in learning more about the dynamics of a D/s relationship, and how the dom should act toward the sub and the sub towards the dom. Any advice would be greatly appreciated, thank you

Do what you want. It's not about the act, it's about the motivation. Do whatever works for you.

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RE: punishment - 12/12/2006 9:08:30 PM

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Goodness, those are a lot of questions!

It sounds as though you are still very much experimenting and trying to take it all in. The best thing you can do is give things time. It's a process, and most of the answers to your questions will be discovered on your own, over time. So much of it depends on what appeals to you. Are you drawn toward D/s or the activities of BDSM.

Even when exploring D/s there is simply no way to define how the Dom and sub "should" act, as that is something that will likely need to be an authentic expression of you in order to work well for you. For example, my relationship with my Master is primarily defined in the context of D/s. Even saying that, his style is an extension of who he is as a person. While he is the one in charge, the one who makes the decisions, he also tends to take a rather nurturing, gentle approach, and prefers to know what my feelings and thoughts are before he makes his decisions. Some Masters/Mistresses are stricter, more demanding, some have specific protocol they expect their submissive to follow. The variations are endless and are more an expression of who he or she is individually and in the context of their D/s relationship.

Enjoy the process, experiment, and read what others have to say. Good luck to you.

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RE: punishment - 12/12/2006 9:41:39 PM

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LuckyAlbatross must be the most helpful person here. Or she has some kind of cross referenced database search tool!

As to the topic, is it really punishment or is it new play ideas. Punishment to me is something that is unpleasant and provides reinforcement.

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RE: punishment - 12/12/2006 11:12:58 PM

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I was also interested in learning more about the dynamics of a D/s relationship, and how the dom should act toward the sub and the sub towards the dom. Any advice would be greatly appreciated, thank you

the dynamics sort of evolve form all the play and experimenting you are doing.....watch and learn....watch other folks and make notes as to what turn you on, and watch each other to see what is really hot in fantasy and what sort of falls flat in real life.

keep lines of communication open....dont rush into a d/s dynamic as though it is a 'higher' level of play, its not, all levels have something wonderful to offer and you dont want to skip over any of it...

cherish your virginitys...appreciate each one for the sense of wonder, the sense of alivness, and the alivness of the senses....

go slow, play lots, talk lots, and laugh lots and lots.

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RE: punishment - 12/13/2006 7:20:34 AM

RUBondage

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thanks for the info, way more then i expected, i really appreciate the help

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RE: punishment - 12/13/2006 8:04:38 AM

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RUBondage

You are asking a lot of great questions. I think your best bet is to get to know others who are experienced in your community, perhaps at munches or local bdsm clubs. Often there is a group in an area that will provide seminars, or hands on classes on techniques.
As far as how should a Dom or sub act? That is a complex thing. Each relationship is different. It is in it's essence an exchange of power.

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