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RE: woman or man - 12/14/2006 7:34:23 AM

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The whole webcam thing is creepy to me. Not only that, the few times i've viewed someone on webcam, it is generally very unflattering. People just don't look very hot on cam. I don't think Id want my first visual introduction to someone to be a glimpse of me on cam.

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RE: woman or man - 12/14/2006 7:46:20 AM

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If you're ever victimized by a poser, as I have been, who wouldn't get on a webcam for any reason whatsoever, you'll never trust anyone who won't ever again.

The conversations I have on an IM contain enough information that a semi normal person can discern over time who and what I am. If they feel a need to confirm that quickly, especially by Cam I tend to immediatly wonder a few things. Is the rush to confirm who I am is so the conversation on their end to can turn into Wanking material? ~ or ~ Is this person so distrusting of their own judgement that they dont trust their own gut?
Patience is a virtue.....................

Wanking material eh? My my, don't be so hard on yourself.

As I said, ... a minute...just to verify you're you...the same person in the pic. same age, same gender. It doesnt have to happen till you're gussied up, if thats the issue, but at some point, early on, it's not too much to ask. And if you don't think there are posers out there...little attention junkies who use fake pics to suck in unsuspecting, trusting people, think again. I know one very large girl who used sexy fake pics. The trusting men on the other end gave her the attention she craved...4 fell in love, 2 proposed, 1 committed suicide. She knew what she wanted and got it. in the end, she felt bad finally, and admitted the truth to one of the poor guys who'd proposed online. Guess what he did?
Didn't believe her!
She had to finally meet him irl to prove she wasn't lying.
Sadly in my case, I realized after I broke it off I was very attached to a 27yr old redhead who'd refused an irl meet one time too many. Knowing I'd fallen too deep, and not wanting to waste time getting over someone I strongly suspected wasn't legit, and having no verification as to her actual identity except her gaggle of pics, I finally found a netslueth online backround check deal for a dollar...lol. After days of searching, armed with her name phone, and address, found nothing. Then I gave up believing her name was real, and cross referenced her address. Bam! there she was..diff name, same addy, phone, and city, and same first names of all her relatives she'd worn me out babbling about. only not 27, but 60.
Sure I was naive. Sure I should have known better, but it was my first cyber erm - slut. Where I come from, people just would never do that. I needed to trust her. It should'nt be a red-flag that she had 7000 friends on myspace...lol.
Truth is, I'd suspected it for a while, but just couldn't know till I knew.

I don't get pushy about the webcam, but if she wont inside a couple weeks, at least for a minute....curbified.

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RE: woman or man - 12/14/2006 7:57:25 AM

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I was caught out once when I was naive. It has never happened again. Face to face meets are the only real way of knowing whether someone is totally genuine. And even then one can never be really sure.
I went through agony with my first slave for six months only to find out that he had been using me.

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RE: woman or man - 12/14/2006 7:34:09 PM

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So hence what you are saying is that due to this person ,who was not trust worthy,now dictates to you what you will do in the future to ensure it does not happen again...do I have this right?..her actions now dictate yours?...Tempting

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RE: woman or man - 12/14/2006 9:18:31 PM

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So hence what you are saying is that due to this person ,who was not trust worthy,now dictates to you what you will do in the future to ensure it does not happen again...do I have this right?..her actions now dictate yours?...Tempting

Of course not.
My actions, or lack thereof, I.E. mistakes I made now dictate that I won't again. I was naive. I don't hate her now. I'd have to hate myself too before I could, I understand why she did what she did...it's simple. Attention. I don't understand what I did, which is trust her blindly. To assume she'll be the only parson I'll ever meed who's untrustworthy is irrational. I'm sure when and if you become involved with a new person, you'd practice safe sex, would you not? I'll practice safe Identity verification too now.
Is it your paranoid need for privacy, or your fear some wanker will fantasize about you that makes you take me to task here?
lol, what possible harm could it do if they did.
I guess it's safe to say you'd not be flattered.
But seriously, what are you really afraid of?

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RE: woman or man - 12/15/2006 9:27:34 PM

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No fear..or task taking intended....just simple clarification and possibly understanding of the effects the acts of others place upon people in general...as previously stated earlier I do not like cams they in effect have mainly been bastardized by predators upon the more innocent in society.As far as proof...I am thinking R/L meeting can pretty much confirm that thus making cam unnecessary..If cam is a deal breaker with you, then that is your choice of course. But I wonder....if it is cam or the curb as you stated...I wonder how many possible wonderful friendships or relationship you will miss out on, due to your intractability?..