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RE: why younger sub not wanted? - 12/15/2006 8:58:32 AM   
MysticFireTopaz


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ORIGINAL: howcaniserveu
I have a Q for all your mistresses/dommes out there. How come young male subs are not wanted? Young as in like...25-27ish...


I think it all depends on what the Domme is looking for.  Personally, I seek a male  who will be My life partner as well as My submissive or slave.  I find I am more compatible with, and have more in common with, people close to My age (plus or minus ten years, roughly). 
 
When I was newer to the lifestyle and not really looking for someone who would be My life partner, I did in fact own slaves considerably younger than Myself.  One thing I did notice is that for some reason I am not at all sexually attracted to males young enough to be My son, though I can play with them in a non-sexual way. 
 
It is also nice to be out in public and not have people assume that the sub is your son or nephew.  When I owned the younger ones, I had to make excuses to My nosey neighbor about My "visiting nephew" (and believe Me, she has a mouth that won't quit and news travels fast around here.)  With subs closer to My own age, she just assumes they are a boyfriend and leaves it at that. 
 
So for what I currently seek, a man close to My own age just makes a whole lot more sense for a number of reasons.  It's not that I have anything against younger subs.  I am sometimes approached to play with them at public events and do.
 
Lady Topaz

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RE: why younger sub not wanted? - 12/15/2006 6:09:06 PM   
howcaniserveu


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Status: offline 		Wow... I never thought profiles mattered that much. I thought a conversation would determind if I get to serve, not a profile. But thanks for the replies...

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RE: why younger sub not wanted? - 12/15/2006 6:25:50 PM   
Mysia


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Generalizations are always a risky tactic, btw.

Me, I prefer men over 35, simply because I like the look of age, not youth. Same for women. My perm submissive partner is.... Yeah, younger. Twentyfour years old to my 38 (in two weeks). He looks 32ish.

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RE: why younger sub not wanted? - 12/15/2006 7:44:22 PM   
theRose4U


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How come young male subs are not wanted? Young as in like...25-27ish

I would say your issue isn't your age but your approach. I have many companions that are in that range and no I'm not interested.

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Profile needs work. :)

Generalizations are always a risky tactic, btw.

I would agree, it reads as I have lots of fantasies, contact me so I can tell you how to forfill them.

My question is how come so many supposed male subs come on and within the first 10 posts are bitching that no one has snapped them up after a whopping 2 hours being kinky?

< Message edited by theRose4U -- 12/15/2006 7:49:36 PM >

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RE: why younger sub not wanted? - 12/15/2006 8:53:02 PM   
LadyHugs


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Status: offline 		Dear theRose4U, Ladies and Gentlemen;
 
As to your mention about young lads coming on board to CM, and crying foul when they aren't swooped up like a pooper scooper; I would suppose they have thoughts that this is where you order up a dominant woman, like McDomme's.  Unfortunately, the drive through is closed and they do not wish to stand in line like the one that exists already.  People in line before them have their tab tickets the last in line reads, Now Serving 2,993,044,761 and the counter's board is just now turned to Now Serving #12.  [Chuckles]  (Must be the Big Mac, double sauce, on two meat patties on a sesame seed bun.)
 
Respectfully submitted with a lot of humor,
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RE: why younger sub not wanted? - 12/15/2006 11:02:12 PM   
MistressSassy66


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Status: offline 		From My own experiences...they are kind of immature.
I try to give them a shot at least one try...if they are just to out of control there isnt a second one.
Okay that may be a lie I normally have a 3 strike and your out rule.
Third time is the charm it either works or it dont.

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RE: why younger sub not wanted? - 12/16/2006 12:18:04 AM   
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Status: offline 		One of the first things I look for in a potential play partner is compatible kinks and sexual interests.  If we don't have at least a few in common, why bother going any further?  your profile doesn't list a single sexual thing you're into.

"Conversations" may determine if you get to serve, but you have to get your foot in the door first - spark Someone's interest, before they can begin.  Keep working on your profile until it shows your unique personality, and what you have to offer a prospective Domme.

Good luck!



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RE: why younger sub not wanted? - 12/16/2006 8:26:39 AM   
GirlyDevil


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Status: offline 		That's who I'm looking for. Someone in the age group of 22-33, not older

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RE: why younger sub not wanted? - 12/16/2006 3:40:52 PM   
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Status: offline 		Personally I prefer younger subs... but I think many find them not to be very serious..I  have had three dommes tell me that a man can not know he is a sub unless he is at least 30...lol.... and those who look for more of a financially stable sub the younger ages can be a turn off....but as for me.. I love the 20 somethings.... all that raw energy and sex drive and they are often very eager to be trained and to learn... 

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RE: why younger sub not wanted? - 12/16/2006 9:56:20 PM   
howcaniserveu


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Status: offline 		I think Mistress M is right. From what I hear from my previous domme, I need to get more serious. But, I got other aspects of my life to live. I wanna work out, play golf, hockey and bar hopping... etc.

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RE: why younger sub not wanted? - 12/16/2006 10:12:21 PM   
Bluebird


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Status: offline 		Well then, you need to decide what is important to you.  If you cannot find time in your busy schedule to fill in your profile or write a well-crafted letter, then why should a woman find time for you? 

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RE: why younger sub not wanted? - 12/16/2006 10:45:50 PM   
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Status: offline 		I don't think it's so much that you need to give up your life - but you need to make sure that a prospective Domme knows about them (which is one of many reasons that you need a profile).  I would suggest giving up things like bar hopping ... an expensive habit that screams "immature" to me (and I would be willing to bet that I'm not the only one).  We want someone who has a life on his own, but can and will devote time and energy to us - someone who still goes bar hopping (which, to me is a college/just out of college thing) isn't going to be capable of that.  If you don't mean that you really go bar hopping, but go out to bars on occation, then make sure you make that distinction, or you will end up with people like me going "next!" rather quickly and you might miss out on someone that you are actually compatable with.

I don't know if you followed my suggestion to search the boards for advice about profiles, but if not, you really need to do so. 

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RE: why younger sub not wanted? - 12/17/2006 12:18:43 AM   
bignipples2share


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Status: offline 		aww you're a cutey. I'm surprised you're not snatched up yet.

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RE: why younger sub not wanted? - 12/17/2006 11:06:48 AM   
TexasMaam


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Status: offline 		In My case, I want a sub with whom I can share books, movies, theater, music, and a realm of other activities outside of BDSM.  I've learned through experience that younger subs just can't relate to much of what I enjoy in life.

By the same token, I can't appreciate the artists, groups, 'isms', sayings, and events that shaped a younger submissive's personality, either.

If you're approaching mature adult Dommes who prefer subs in their own approximate age group, that's probably why.

By the same token there are Dommes both here at CM and elswhere who will look for younger sub males because they truly prefer younger men.  You evidently haven't run into one, yet.

Keep searching.

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RE: why younger sub not wanted? - 12/17/2006 11:09:39 AM   
TexasMaam


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Status: offline 		barhopping???????????????????

That screams immaturity.

Changing that to enjoying the pursuit of 'adult beverages' isn't much different.

With 'barhopping' comes 'bedhopping', exponentially increasing risk of exposure to STD's and HIV.  Big Red Flag.

Try again when the 'barhopping' phase has run it's course, if you survive the risks.

TM


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RE: why younger sub not wanted? - 12/19/2006 11:15:48 AM   
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Status: offline 		Personally  I prefer subs/slaves that are at least 10 years younger then myself  . .. . ..  I however seldom give a profile a second glance if its not  adequately filled out.  Several paragraphs about them selves  , thier skills and training or lack there of  . .. .  not thier do-me list is preferable.    Not that filling out the questionariare is not a good idea  as that gives a first hand glance as to whether or not  you might be compatable with  any particular Dom/me.

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RE: why younger sub not wanted? - 12/20/2006 8:22:05 PM   
howcaniserveu


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Status: offline 		To: TexasMaam,
enjoying the pursuit of 'adult beverages' ????????? are you kidding? my god... than why not jus call BDSM pursuit of adult beat down? better yet, here is more MATURE way... pursuit of society's unwanted people's psychological method to controlled sexual enhancement? come on... pursuit of adult beverage?  you are wound so tight. loosen up. call it what it is. no need to sound ridiculous about something so simple.   

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RE: why younger sub not wanted? - 12/20/2006 9:00:10 PM   
SweetDommes


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Status: offline 		And another example of immaturity - perhaps THAT is why you can't find a Domme ...

I'm also noticing that you haven't done anything about that profile.  It's way too empty - you've been told that by multiple people, perhaps you should listen.

< Message edited by SweetDommes -- 12/20/2006 9:03:22 PM >

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RE: why younger sub not wanted? - 12/20/2006 9:49:53 PM   
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Status: offline 		After he's now made a couple of posts besides the original, I don't think a profile would make much difference.  It's clear from what he says that this is just a game to him, and not too high priority, either.  He'd do better to find a pro and pay to get his jollies, than waste the time of Domme's and Mistresses seeking a male to submit.

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RE: why younger sub not wanted? - 12/21/2006 6:32:03 AM   
demistress


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Status: offline 		I have to agree.... while your profile and original post were interesting, your (OP) subsequent posts have made you completely undesireable  and I AM in your age group LOL.  I would love to find a mature non-partier around my age who was attractive, subservient and pleasing, I do drink, and I would be fine with him or her doing so as well, BUT I would not want someone who used the phrase 'loosen up' to any woman for speaking and knowing her mind. Oh and I also like capitalization at the beginning of sentences, but I'm sure that makes me uptight.

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