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RE: Question: How old??? - 12/15/2006 12:35:39 PM   
MmakeMme


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Status: offline 		I always preferred older men. (10+ years) I think it's fairly safe to say that a good number of women do. No worries, iwillspku. Lech away. (What's the worst that can happen?)

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RE: Question: How old??? - 12/15/2006 12:36:00 PM   
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Status: offline 		Being of an age where it is common to discriminate based on my age, I would have told them to fuck off, so John was rather reserved in my estimation, only good when it suits the mood?  good god how is it indiscriminate?

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RE: Question: How old??? - 12/15/2006 12:37:03 PM   
nighthawk3569


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ORIGINAL: iwillspku

I have a question: I am 45 years old....when I answer an ad, how young can I go without being seen an old pervert? Sometimes I see someone younger that interests me, but, I don't answer the ad because I don't want to seem like an old lech. Can anyone offer me advice? All opinions will be appreciated.
   Thank you


  If she's old enought to be on here...and does not state an age limit...then, providing other things in her profile catxh my eye, I'll send her a message. As others have said, if she's not interested, she can decline...or as most do, just not reply. And, btw, those not courtous enough to reply wouldn't have held my interest, anyway.
 
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RE: Question: How old??? - 12/15/2006 12:49:10 PM   
cjklyn


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Status: offline 		I'm 49. There are only 2 factors around age that I find relevant. First of course is the legal age of consent. When meeting people in their late teens/early 20's, I like to make sure they are the age they say. The other factor is their preference. some people state a specific age range they are interested in. If I'm outside that I'd never contact them. aside from that, I've contacted, and been contacted by people from 18 to 60. The most important thing to me is personality. I've not found age to be a factor in that.

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RE: Question: How old??? - 12/15/2006 1:00:18 PM   
MysticFireTopaz


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ORIGINAL: iwillspku
I have a question: I am 45 years old....when I answer an ad, how young can I go without being seen an old pervert? Sometimes I see someone younger that interests me, but, I don't answer the ad because I don't want to seem like an old lech. Can anyone offer me advice? All opinions will be appreciated.
   Thank you


Personally, I don't see a problem with approaching anyone of legal age that interests you unless they have specified a particular age range in their profile.  If you fall outside of that age range, I would not reply, as I feel they have already stated up front what they are looking for.  There is still the possibility that you might be older than what the person is seeking even if they don't have an age preference in their profile, but the worst that could happen is that you would get a message saying "no thanks" or be ignored entirely, neither of which is the end of the world.  If the person interests you, I think it would be worth at least trying.
 
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RE: Question: How old??? - 12/15/2006 1:07:05 PM   
LordIncantatore


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Status: offline 		I am 36, I have one submissive that is 51 and another that is 18. It isnt about age, it is about mental attraction and what each of you can provide to each other. Another thing to consider is how many 18 year old TRUE dominants do you see out there. VERY few. If a younger woman wants to enter this lifestyle and truely learn then it is quite difficult for them to do that with someone their own age, unless of course they are already a couple and learning together.

It is very helpful when they fill out their ad or profile that they actually list what they are looking for age wise. In fact I refuse to respond to any ad or profile that is not quite detailed. Most of the time I wont even respond to direct emails that are that vague.

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RE: Question: How old??? - 12/15/2006 1:23:23 PM   
drawntothedark


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ORIGINAL: subfever

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I generally go for older men. I'm 29. Of course, it's your approach that will make or break you.


There now... I'm sure older men with more aggressive mindsets will see that as an invitation ...


If they're approach is smooth.......

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RE: Question: How old??? - 12/15/2006 1:44:07 PM   
meatcleaver


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Status: offline 		My last serious relationship was with a 27 year old who is the mother of my youngest daughter. However, I would never put on a profile I was looking for someone over 20 years younger than me because I'm sure people would consider me a dirty old man. I wasn't looking for someone so much younger than myself, we just happened to meet eachother and that was that. I regularly date women 15 years younger than me because that is the age group I tend to meet, I don't seek them out but if I was looking for someone on the net I guess I would look for someone between 40-50, conscious of being dismissed as a pervert if I went any younger.

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RE: Question: How old??? - 12/15/2006 2:15:25 PM   
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ORIGINAL: nighthawk3569

quote:

ORIGINAL: iwillspku

I have a question: I am 45 years old....when I answer an ad, how young can I go without being seen an old pervert? Sometimes I see someone younger that interests me, but, I don't answer the ad because I don't want to seem like an old lech. Can anyone offer me advice? All opinions will be appreciated.
   Thank you


 If she's old enought to be on here...and does not state an age limit...then, providing other things in her profile catxh my eye, I'll send her a message. As others have said, if she's not interested, she can decline...or as most do, just not reply. And, btw, those not courtous enough to reply wouldn't have held my interest, anyway.
 
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Another thing that distrubes me about the age thing...lots of younger girls want a Dom/Master who is, above all else, experienced...yet they limit themselves to those younger ones who just don't have that experience. Everyone has to learn...a Dom/Master of, say 30, can't have the experience of one who is years older. Most men...and many women...know the younger ones are in the D/s M/s life mostly for their own gratification. There are exceptions, of course.
 
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RE: Question: How old??? - 12/15/2006 2:23:59 PM   
Petruchio


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ORIGINAL: iwillspku

how young can I go without being seen an old pervert?


You are a pervert, else you wouldn't be on CM.

So what's the problem?

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RE: Question: How old??? - 12/15/2006 2:28:03 PM   
Petruchio


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Status: offline 		Personally, I'm a little leary of girls much younger than I, although occasionally they work out.

I love beautiful breasts, body, etc, but I also place great value on wisdom, generosity, maturity, kindness, and serenity.

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RE: Question: How old??? - 12/15/2006 3:18:58 PM   
mnottertail


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Status: offline 		your just tryin' to snag some extra pussy with that tired old shit, buddy........

You can't snow the snowman, daddio!!!!

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RE: Question: How old??? - 12/15/2006 3:32:56 PM   
touchtaboo


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Status: offline 		if there on this site.. there legal.. [at least should be!].....and many girlies like myself like nothing more than a dirty ole Man.hehe

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RE: Question: How old??? - 12/15/2006 4:12:48 PM   
Petruchio


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your just tryin' to snag some extra pussy with that tired old shit, buddy........

You can't snow the snowman, daddio!!!!


Damn! I hate being so transparent.

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RE: Question: How old??? - 12/15/2006 4:22:33 PM   
ScienceBoy


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ORIGINAL: nighthawk3569



Another thing that distrubes me about the age thing...lots of younger girls want a Dom/Master who is, above all else, experienced...yet they limit themselves to those younger ones who just don't have that experience. Everyone has to learn...a Dom/Master of, say 30, can't have the experience of one who is years older. Most men...and many women...know the younger ones are in the D/s M/s life mostly for their own gratification. There are exceptions, of course.
 
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Good lord, you say that like its a bad thing? Am I meant to be doing this for the greater glory of god or something?

And why the fuck does everybody go on about wanting somebody 'experienced'? I don't want to be taught. I want to learn and screw up, and grow with somebody.

I know this is BDSM.. but there is such weight given to this weird didacticism - ohhoooo.. you must learn the Old Ways of the Great Masters, and you must not play with ropes unless you have spent ten years subbing to a Twue Dom. DO NOT FORGET MY CAPITAL LETTERS!!

Bugger that.

And yes, I'm an arrogant young person who hates old people. All of 'em.

I got ID'd buying matches today.

ETA:

OP - judge yourself, don't let others do it for ya. Personally the idea of people diddling folks more than a max of ten years outside their age range activates my 'yick' factor - this in no way means its wrong. Just that I find it.. gross. I'll say that again - go to it, follow your heart, I think its gross (conceptually, I don't make a judgement on people who shag babies, or wrinklies ;)), but good for you if you don't.

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RE: Question: How old??? - 12/15/2006 4:28:55 PM   
Serenityy


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Status: offline 		There are some who list age as a certain limit; and others who do not. The only way to be sure is to ask the individual person.

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RE: Question: How old??? - 12/15/2006 5:10:25 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Wildfleurs

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Then they were offended because I pointed out "letting me speak" was the equivalent of the KKK inviting Sammy Davis Junior to entertain at one of their cross burnings.  If they are prejudiced, the least they can do is be consistent in their prejudice and not waive their bias because someone has written a few books while slamming the door in the face of other blac.... oh I meant old people.


But good god does everything need to be compared to black people or the holocaust?  I don't think being invited to a TNG group is remotely the equivalent, if anything it says volumes about what the group thought of you to bend their rule and invite you (the TNG groups I've seen generally restrict their workshops to people within the membership age range).


Yup, they'll invite ME, but what about the other perfectly behaved older people that they bar?  I think the Sammy Davis example spells it out nicely.  

Bigotry is bigotry.

If people want to limit their members to men, whites, anglosaxons or any other group people have no control over their belonging to, that's fine, but they have to recognize what they are by doing that.

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RE: Question: How old??? - 12/15/2006 5:19:49 PM   
ScienceBoy


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ORIGINAL: JohnWarren

Yup, they'll invite ME, but what about the other perfectly behaved older people that they bar?  I think the Sammy Davis example spells it out nicely.  

Bigotry is bigotry.

If people want to limit their members to men, whites, anglosaxons or any other group people have no control over their belonging to, that's fine, but they have to recognize what they are by doing that.


Right.. So, all for over 50s in kindegarten? Yes? ;)

Perhaps it helps to think of it as a special interest group.. Like the local mycological society. Or .. a munch.

Up with body facism!

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RE: Question: How old??? - 12/15/2006 5:30:29 PM   
TypeAsub1


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Status: offline 		If people do not indicate an age on their profile, then I don't think it matters.  However, if someone includes an age range in their profile - respect it!  I can't tell you how many times i've been approached from people who are either much older than the range I request.. or much younger.  

You might want to ask yourself what it is you want from the relationship with that person.  If you're looking for someone to play slap and tickle.. it probably doesn't matter.  However, if you are looking for someone who will be comfortable going out with business associates and interacting with your family... their age may be a factor to consider.

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RE: Question: How old??? - 12/15/2006 5:51:41 PM   
Quivver


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You wont know unless you ask. 

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