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RE: Question: How old??? - 12/15/2006 7:09:35 PM   
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I have a question: I am 45 years old....when I answer an ad, how young can I go without being seen an old pervert? Sometimes I see someone younger that interests me, but, I don't answer the ad because I don't want to seem like an old lech. Can anyone offer me advice? All opinions will be appreciated.
   Thank you

    Well I guess I'm a bit of an old pervert or I wouldn't be here, but than maybe you wouldn't be here either if you weren't a bit of a one to. lol
  Now I sometimes message back and forth with a young lady who is just 19, but I have no interest in anykind of relationship with here we are just friends.
   We just hit it off because we live in the same province.
We also have simmillar backgrounds I'm a farmer she grew up on a farm.
She enjoys photography so do I.We also share some simmilar BDSM interests.
Now I haven't met her yet , but I know sooner or later thay we will because where we live the BDSM community is very small so eventually we will meet at a munch or something and I look forward to that.
  Actually most of the people I've met in my area are all much younger than myself and they keep inviting me back.
I wouldn't be to concered about coming across as an old lech. I've had nicer and more coraspondence with younger women then I have with ladies closer to my age. As long as you aproach everyone with respect you shouldn't have much trouble.

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RE: Question: How old??? - 12/15/2006 8:09:08 PM   
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Status: offline 		Hmmm, I'd say my range is about 18 to 42ish. And really that isn't official. I mean the farther out in any direction from my age range makes it less likely I will A. find you mentally compatible, or B find you physically compatible. But weird shit happens and wouldn't pass by a 50 year old if we clicked. I doubt though 60ish will happen anytime soon, I'm 30 so double my age will that starts getting strange. My mother isn't even 60!!, but that could be hot to, maybe. I don't know. Really it matters very little if I like someone.  LOL.

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RE: Question: How old??? - 12/15/2006 8:38:51 PM   
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Status: offline 		So, um, NEEDS, just how kinky is your mother? (evil chuckle)

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RE: Question: How old??? - 12/15/2006 8:56:22 PM   
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So, um, NEEDS, just how kinky is your mother? (evil chuckle)



Yeah, I thought the wording looked bad there. If your implying what I think your implying. LOL.

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RE: Question: How old??? - 12/15/2006 9:14:58 PM   
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Status: offline 		Well my girlfriend has 20 years on me and I'm 25. I tend to draw the line at 21-25 on up to whatever seems to be a good fit. There was a time when I'd have said that 45 was too old for me. Now, I shrug it off and go from there. I'm a little more flexible on age restrictions for play than for relationships though. I am very active in the bar scene and want my partner or partners to all be able to attend. So, 21 I'd have to say is an absolute cutoff unless it's just for play.

A regular play party at the SF Citadel, BENT, is for those kinky young'uns between 18 and 40. My issue is that I can't bring my girlfriend. I could understand barring single/unaccompanied, over-40 players but not partnered ones.

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RE: Question: How old??? - 12/16/2006 12:11:50 AM   
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Well my girlfriend has 20 years on me and I'm 25. I tend to draw the line at 21-25 on up to whatever seems to be a good fit. There was a time when I'd have said that 45 was too old for me. Now, I shrug it off and go from there. I'm a little more flexible on age restrictions for play than for relationships though. I am very active in the bar scene and want my partner or partners to all be able to attend. So, 21 I'd have to say is an absolute cutoff unless it's just for play.

A regular play party at the SF Citadel, BENT, is for those kinky young'uns between 18 and 40. My issue is that I can't bring my girlfriend. I could understand barring single/unaccompanied, over-40 players but not partnered ones.

call them and allow your partner as a special favour... i usually find that people love to oblige

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RE: Question: How old??? - 12/16/2006 1:01:22 AM   
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Status: offline 		I agree Type, I have personal limitations on people I want to date love and be romanticaly involved with, however casual play partners or friends have no limits to age. A friend of mine infact thinks it's gross I spanked a 70 year old and I am like so who cares.

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RE: Question: How old??? - 12/16/2006 3:53:40 AM   
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Status: offline 		I see so many people with "age limits" written in here, but surely, it's all about whether you click with someone on an emotional / lustful level ?
Maturity and personality don't depend on age, it depends on the individuals life experience and on how they view life in general. I've sent mails too lots of ladies 20 years my junior, but only because they're profile showed a lot of understanding and maturity not to mention they were "hot as hell" !! lol I wasn't put down because of my age, but because of my lack of experience. I did have a 29year old that sadly ended, due to distance.
It just seems so stupid to me to let others opinions of whether you're a lech or not worry you ! what's more important, your happiness or others thoughts ?

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RE: Question: How old??? - 12/16/2006 3:58:05 AM   
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Status: offline 		I think it more depends on what you have in common with someone, rather than age.  I personally wanted children, so if someone that was a lot older than me wrote, I did talk to them..but I made it clear this was something that was important to me. 
 
My Master is ten years older than me, and it works well for us.  I have been involved with those much older and even those younger.  It's more how the person acts toward me, how mature they are "mentally", and if they are a responsible person.
 
A lot of the younger ones are looking for someone older, they think they will find someone that will take care of them better, or someone that is more experienced and not so much a game player.  I have found those at every age though, so age doesn't mean jack-poo to me anymore. 
 
If it bothers someone, move on..
 
Good luck,
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RE: Question: How old??? - 12/16/2006 4:22:51 AM   
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RE: Question: How old??? - 12/16/2006 8:39:54 AM   
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Status: offline 		I am quite a bit more tolerant of seeing couples with huge age disparities since joining collarme, and learning about wiitwd;  I am far less likely nowadays to think sick perv when I see relatively old with relatively young.   My own parameter is usually 8years younger to 10years older, but I break it whenever I meet someone who evokes strong feelings in me.    M

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RE: Question: How old??? - 12/16/2006 10:36:31 AM   
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Status: offline 		Hmmmm, let's see...you are 45 and you want to do a 20-year-old.....why worry about seeming like an old lech, you are an old lech.
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RE: Question: How old??? - 12/16/2006 10:45:25 AM   
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The difference between an old pervert and an eccentric- is money.

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RE: Question: How old??? - 12/16/2006 11:08:27 AM   
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ORIGINAL: iwillspku

I have a question: I am 45 years old....when I answer an ad, how young can I go without being seen an old pervert? Sometimes I see someone younger that interests me, but, I don't answer the ad because I don't want to seem like an old lech. Can anyone offer me advice? All opinions will be appreciated.
   Thank you


Go for what ever floats your boat, as long as they are of the age of consent.  But keep in mind, with age comes life experience and hopefully maturity.  I find too often if someone is too much younger then myself, I have a difficult time having them relate on my level because my life experience is much different.  I am not saying that young people aren't mature, what I am saying is there are certain things that generally a person has gone through and changed with as they get older and experience life.

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RE: Question: How old??? - 12/16/2006 11:40:14 AM   
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Status: offline 		We see older men with women who look like they're still in high school.  Why should a woman be deprived the same ego trip....and it IS an ego trip.  When it comes to sessioning or play time or friendship, I have no age limits.  As for a serious, intimate relationship, I prefer those close to me in age. 

For me, I am fortunate to be collared to a wonderful Master who is a few years younger than I.  We are very well matched physically, intellectually, emotionally, spiritually, etc.  We have many common interests and similar mind sets in many things within the lifestyle and without.  We have a strong base for a relationship. 

I really have little in common with 20 or 30 somethings beyond the lifestyle.  I have friends in those age ranges, and have played with several.  Master plans to set up a gang bang with a local group of 20 somethings for me; but in reality, once the whippings and sex are over, there is not much else to talk about. 

One final note:  Becoming a Dom or a Master is much more than calling yourself one.  As is being a submissive or slave.  It takes a lot of reading, talking to others, and, if you are lucky, finding a good mentor to help you on the path.  We move in a world on the edges of society that can place us at great risk...whatever role we see ourselves in.  Age aside, please get to know the person you are exchanging your power with - regardless of which side of the coin you fall.

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RE: Question: How old??? - 12/16/2006 1:27:39 PM   
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ORIGINAL: iwillspku

I have a question: I am 45 years old....when I answer an ad, how young can I go without being seen an old pervert? Sometimes I see someone younger that interests me, but, I don't answer the ad because I don't want to seem like an old lech. Can anyone offer me advice? All opinions will be appreciated.
   Thank you


Enjoy being an old leech.  Older men have always chased young women.  I don't think this will ever stop do you?
To me, you COULD be a bit to old if you are pursuing someone young enough to be your daughter.
I prefer someone a few years younger myself, but I don't want someone that is more than 10 years younger.
Good luck, just stay away from the high schools.
IMHO

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RE: Question: How old??? - 12/16/2006 2:09:55 PM   
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Status: offline 		I find that the teen and twenty-somethings have a hard time keeping their mouths shut when necessary.. especially when it's something "kewl" or "AWESOME!"

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RE: Question: How old??? - 12/16/2006 2:31:19 PM   
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ORIGINAL: iwillspku

I have a question: I am 45 years old....when I answer an ad, how young can I go without being seen an old pervert? Sometimes I see someone younger that interests me, but, I don't answer the ad because I don't want to seem like an old lech. Can anyone offer me advice? All opinions will be appreciated.
   Thank you


Bud, it don't matter.

You are what you are.  If you're a lech, you'll be percieved as such.  Trust me, even chics that young ain't dumb.

I've had chics as young as 24 approach me (I'm 48) and I very politely explain to them "Sweety, I'm 48, you're 24, when you're 53, I'll be.....decaying in a pile of rotting pine" to which they often say "Ya know...age is just a number" to which I respond "when you can count that high without a solar powered calculator, call me...I may need help cashing my SSI check".

I greatly appreciate women who love older men...I for one appreciate women my age.  I personally don't want to be sucking my dinner through a straw someday, only to have some 39 year old telling me "sweety, let's go out dancing tonight....I've already got your oxygen tank in the car...I promise I'll spin you around at least twice tonight...honest".

I prefer women my own age.

(Now, if I'd not have been scared shitless of women when I was 23, I'd have chased all the 45 year old skirt that existed....but...once again...youth is wasted on the youth).

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RE: Question: How old??? - 12/16/2006 3:42:53 PM   
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I find that the teen and twenty-somethings have a hard time keeping their mouths shut when necessary.. especially when it's something "kewl" or "AWESOME!"


Keeeeeewwwwwwl.

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RE: Question: How old??? - 12/16/2006 3:49:35 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: LotusSong

I find that the teen and twenty-somethings have a hard time keeping their mouths shut when necessary.. especially when it's something "kewl" or "AWESOME!"


Keeeeeewwwwwwl.

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Thank you for proving the maturity element point so nicely.

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