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LadyHugs -> RE: Dressing "Domly" (12/15/2006 10:21:37 PM)
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Dear SmokingGun82, Ladies and Gentlemen;
I realize you have made your choice on 'dressing' style but, I would like to share my mind's eyes how I see things, based on my experiences within the lifestyle.
There was a time, when clothes spoke as much as a military uniform does within the ranks of military personel. It said much, like a package says much about the product within. So, indeed we (in general terms) package ourselves for public consumption. There was a time when pieces of clothing were earned and had meaning. This is not always the case now days and for some time now. There was a time when a Master's vest was bestowed and placed upon the person who was being gifted with leather, much like placing the cloak over a knight's shoulders; what is referred to as "the coat of arms." The cover (hat) was placed upon the Master's head as to signify the rank, as well as to identify him as a Dominant. Going back to ancient Rome, free men wore a cover/hat of some sort; even slaves that were freed were given hats. Of course, in addition to the ritual and root ceremonial aspects; these items were practical for those on motorcycles.
Now days, anybody can call themself a Master or this or that. Now days you can buy your cover, your leathers and gear.
That said; it is my personal opinion and observation; that both the dominant and submissive dressing as to compliment each other; is a sign of respect for each other. I find it as a case of "Do as I say but don't do as I do," when a Dominant expects their slave to dress to the "T" and such and they do not demand the same of themselves, dressing like a slob. So, when I see somebody come in with dirty jeans, shorts and soiled T-shirt as a Master/Dominant man; their female slave in a evening attire with glitter and glow it is a huge contrast. Nothing 'team' about it. It is just about as out of place as a submissive wearing his black leather pants with white tennis shoes or, flip flops with their leather vest and hawaiian shirt. To me it is like being in semi-uniform; wearing a proper and regulation uniform--it insulted Veterans to see someone wear it without pride or respect. So, in my mind's eyes I feel, that coming from times past, where tradition and meaning meant something to the majority of us (in a general sense); it is very sad to see such an attitude now days when it comes to wearing clothes that distract from the dungeon space.
In one's private home--dress as one wills. But, in public in my mind's eyes I see; I wear the uniform as it is part of my role in the community, the lifestyle and to honor all those who wore their Leathers earned prior to me. I do it out of respect for them and the past, all the public harassments and their efforts to have what we have to enjoy today. I also wear my uniform to honor myself, in carrying on the traditions, rituals and keeping with the spirit of intent behind the wearing of proper attire in dungeon and or BDSM social occassions and gatherings.
True, clothing does not make a Dominant. However, those who make an effort to dress in the 'scene uniform' honor me as much as others and themselves. It is a silent salute. It shows respect, in my mind's eyes.
Just some thoughts.
Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs
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