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RE: regaining His trust - 12/18/2006 11:51:31 AM

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If you aren't doing any that is betraying his trust and he continues to accuse you of it, then the problem is on his end and there is nothing you can do about it. Do not allow him to isolate you from friends (male and female) as that is a classic sign of impending abuse. You might want to take a look at his own habits. A cheating partner may look for guilt in the other person to justify their actions. Not saying he is, just saying it's worth a look. Hope you get this worked out!

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RE: regaining His trust - 12/20/2006 3:22:05 AM

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mavis what a very good point and idea. how i see dinner with a friend or dance with a long ago friend as purely innocent he may not. i will suggest that we sit and talk about these differences. you just opened my eyes to a possible solution. thank you so much.

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RE: regaining His trust - 12/20/2006 3:26:59 AM

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thank you all for your support and thoughts. i certainly have alot to think about and so does he. in seeing your responses i hope he can see what his actions could possibley lead to and how it could ruin something wonderful that we have.

today i am being allowed lunch with a male friend. He has chosen what i am wearing today and this is a first step back to where we should be. again thank you all.

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RE: regaining His trust - 12/20/2006 3:56:00 AM

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looking at your profile, this gets weirder. daddy is uptight b/c you hang out with friends, yet wants another woman in the house alongside you? hmmm, ego check is in order for pops, there.

best of luck to you!

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RE: regaining His trust - 12/20/2006 6:30:04 AM

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Yes it's all about different strokes for different folks. I don't need for a slave to be sexually faithful to me as long as he has my permission. Of course he would have to seek that permission by phone in front of the person they are wanting to have sex with. I will also ask the woman if she would mind reporting back to me on his performance.
Your master may have trust issues. The only thing you can do is try and help him over them. It may not be possible. In which case if you can't live with it then you have to end the relationship. Do tell him why though.
It's only good manners to do so.
It's worth the risk of him becoming physically abusive.
It maybe that your honesty will be the one thing that allows him to look at his own needs.
I have been treated very badly by some men.
It has taken me a long time to begin to trust again and to believe that my honesty is something to be proud of.
So is yours.

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RE: regaining His trust - 12/20/2006 6:48:34 AM

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apparently my friendly personality and quick smile are causing Him to believe i may have other alternatives and that i am flirting.

I am generally up front about being an attention whore and actually had this conversation with a potential new Master yesterday. I told him that while I understand my owner being possessive, I cannot deal with one being jealous. I AM without a doubt an attention whore and I will flirt with men, women (I am not bisexual by the way) or anyone/anything that will respond back to me. This does NOT mean I want to leave my partner. My personality is part of who and what I am. If I have to act like I am around a preacher and his wife (no slam on the christians please as I am one...church going even) no matter where I am, this would diminish me in ways I dont wish to be diminished. I have to be who and what I am. This does not make me a brat, disobedient, or even a slut.

I guess this is just one of those things where you have to ask yourself...is this something you can live with because ultimately you cannot change someone else if they do not wish to be changed. The only thing you can change is yourself.

Good luck to you!

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RE: regaining His trust - 12/20/2006 12:39:16 PM

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Find him the name of a good therapist. These are his issues, not yours. Be very sure to make the distinction clear. Next time he starts in, inform him that because of his irrational jealousy you are losing respect and trust in him.

This assumes that you haven't done anything in the past to make his distrust a sensible option.

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RE: regaining His trust - 12/28/2006 4:03:32 PM

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I can see two separate possibilities, one is communication, and the other is possessiveness. the former is potentially curable if handled correctly and the other is not.

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RE: regaining His trust - 12/29/2006 8:53:06 PM

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G'evening ms...

I'm not sure you can do much other than express to him that he has nothing to worry about.

In most cases, trust comes with time.

Time wasted in jealousy or ditrust, can never be recovered.. is this wasting of time the reason we get into this lifestyle and relationhship ?>>

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RE: regaining His trust - 12/29/2006 9:06:30 PM

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This doesnt sound like regaining his trust, this sounds like he has jealousy issues. A little jealousy is healthy sometimes, it keeps someone from being taken for granted. However trying to be in a realtionship with someone who flies off the handle every time you have male friends is going to be a major issue in the long term. I dont remember seeing it in the posts, but i only scanned. Are you two realtime or just online? A lot of times, the jealousy issue is FAR far worse when someone is online only. Trust is not easy to gain when someone is realtime, especially if you have a history of bad relationships that make you wary. Trying to build that LD is near impossible.
Just my 2 cents.
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