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mstrjx -> RE: a slave's journey (12/22/2006 4:43:48 PM)
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I think there are two ways to approach 'evolving' from submission to slavery.
Before I go into that, I'm not certain I agree with some of the ways you think how a slave must think. 'Loss of identity', 'debasement', things of that sort. You will see how this comes about in the second 'way'.
The first method is, as you seem, be in a D/s relationship that seems ready to transform into an M/s relationship. Certainly that is an emotional hurdle that you have to be prepared for, but also a hurdle that the dominant partner must be prepared for as well. However it happens, it does so within a pre-existing relationship.
The second method really comes from within. Without necessarily having the impetus of a partner to lead you down this path, it is quite possible to come to understand yourself well enough to know that becoming a slave is what you need to do, who you need to become. If there is already no suitable partner, you then look for someone who meshes with you well enough that your surrender feels appropriate, 'right'.
As you can see, unless this internal brainstorm results in you feeling that debasement is your only recourse in being a slave, you couldn't possibly feel that. Your sense of 'slave-self' comes from your own strengths, rather than an idea that you are led into from another party.
When you understand slavery well enough to know that it is a proper course of being for you, then that is when you are ready. I don't think it needs to be any harder than that? Scary? Perhaps. If you are a person of strengths, you know what it is that you are willing to give up. But people do make that leap. Most don't want to change a thing after that.
Jeff
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