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RE: a slave's journey - 12/20/2006 7:02:59 PM

Littlepita

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I am submissive and I have found the one I want to own me. I have been doing a lot of soul searching this last week about how I can move deeper into this life. I want to be a slave. I want to submit to his will and not mine. How do I get there? Or better yet how do I know when I have arrived?

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RE: a slave's journey - 12/20/2006 7:56:07 PM

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I never thought of myself as a slave. I even had that in my profile at first - that I was a submissive, not a slave. Then I met Him and day by day, that changed.

But ours is a very new relationship. He has decades of experience and I have none. This has been a very bumpy ride for me. I know it will continue to be. It's not like adding water, shake and POOF, you have a slave! It's frustrating and painful, but I have to trust that the reward will be beyond anything I've ever known.

I did write a journal entry tonight that said that I feel so many things, but I don't yet feel owned. I so look forward to that day, but in the meantime, I continue my journey of self discovery.

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RE: a slave's journey - 12/21/2006 6:33:41 AM

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pita, there is an amazing little book called:

SlaveCraft: Roadmaps for Erotic Servitude--Principles, Skills and Tools by Guy Baldwin

Well, it's actually by his slave, who goes unnamed. Anyway, it’s a small book, inexpensive, and well done (in my opinion). He writes of rituals, mantras and other exercizes and ideas to help you grow into your slavishness; to be a more valuable slave.

I enjoyed it thoroughly.
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RE: a slave's journey - 12/22/2006 1:43:52 PM

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Three and half years ago, i came into the lifestyle looking for a little kink instead i met my Master who has owned me for three years now. i never sought slavery, i just stepped right into it. Still from time to time i still question whether this is right life for me. But He owns so wholly i can imagine not being His.

The life skills you describe are more like survival skills. Walls built internally to protect yourself from all those who will hurt you. Master says that i was forced by life to become a top but my inner nature is submissive. A good Master should free you from those internal defenses.

On thing on Freedom. We like in a free society and any slave agreement is non-binding. That means that every day you stay you re-affirm the collor and your servitude. If you are really concerned be sure to save a small pool of money that you can set-aside should you ever need to leave the relationship. Any decent Master sould allow that.

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RE: a slave's journey - 12/22/2006 4:43:48 PM

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I think there are two ways to approach 'evolving' from submission to slavery.

Before I go into that, I'm not certain I agree with some of the ways you think how a slave must think. 'Loss of identity', 'debasement', things of that sort. You will see how this comes about in the second 'way'.

The first method is, as you seem, be in a D/s relationship that seems ready to transform into an M/s relationship. Certainly that is an emotional hurdle that you have to be prepared for, but also a hurdle that the dominant partner must be prepared for as well. However it happens, it does so within a pre-existing relationship.

The second method really comes from within. Without necessarily having the impetus of a partner to lead you down this path, it is quite possible to come to understand yourself well enough to know that becoming a slave is what you need to do, who you need to become. If there is already no suitable partner, you then look for someone who meshes with you well enough that your surrender feels appropriate, 'right'.

As you can see, unless this internal brainstorm results in you feeling that debasement is your only recourse in being a slave, you couldn't possibly feel that. Your sense of 'slave-self' comes from your own strengths, rather than an idea that you are led into from another party.

When you understand slavery well enough to know that it is a proper course of being for you, then that is when you are ready. I don't think it needs to be any harder than that? Scary? Perhaps. If you are a person of strengths, you know what it is that you are willing to give up. But people do make that leap. Most don't want to change a thing after that.

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RE: a slave's journey - 12/24/2006 7:17:50 AM

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ORIGINAL: moftop61

i never sought slavery, i just stepped right into it.

The life skills you describe are more like survival skills. Walls built internally to protect yourself from all those who will hurt you. Master says that i was forced by life to become a top but my inner nature is submissive. A good Master should free you from those internal defenses.
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This is my story too...

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