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Hurting Dom During Sex - 12/19/2006 2:00:23 PM   
insanityprevails


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Status: offline 		My Dom is a major masochist, and enjoy joys pain as much as I do, but he's strictly dom, not switch. He's recently told me that he wishes I would hurt him more during sex, and I'm thinking of ways to do it, aside from the obvious biting, scratching, kicking thing. We're mostly into not a strict obedience thing, with a lot of brattiness, me usually kicking and scratching at him... Does anyone have any ways to hurt a dom during sex, from the bottom? Any help appreciated!!
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RE: Hurting Dom During Sex - 12/19/2006 2:01:59 PM   
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Does anyone have any ways to hurt a dom during sex, from the bottom? Any help appreciated!!


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RE: Hurting Dom During Sex - 12/19/2006 2:03:30 PM   
insanityprevails


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Status: offline 		Hehe  I think I'd end up more hurt than him :)


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RE: Hurting Dom During Sex - 12/19/2006 2:12:56 PM   
Bearlee


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Status: offline 		Yes, buy the book "Family Jewels" and learn more about CBT.

The most recent Dom I've associated with insisted he didn’t have a submissive bone in his body (pardon the pun), yet craved painful CBT.  That was no problem…his bigotry was.    Well that and he’s a serious, bush supporting, war-mongering, republican; AND he likes limbagh!  <sigh>   Beverly (a serious liberal, tree-hugging, fifth-generation Californian Democrat (even if I do live in CO))            <........smiles sweetly>



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RE: Hurting Dom During Sex - 12/19/2006 2:13:13 PM   
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RE: Hurting Dom During Sex - 12/19/2006 2:16:31 PM   
insanityprevails


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Status: offline 		Haha, no way he's into CBT, he's bery sensitive down there and he hates it, if my teeth even touch it he'll get angry. I think he's more into being hurt from the bottom. Not "organized" pain (using that term for lack of a better term) he's more into me biting while he's holding me down, or running spiked wristbands down his back while he's on top of me.

mnottertail... I'm not trying to get killed :-P


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RE: Hurting Dom During Sex - 12/19/2006 2:26:35 PM   
TheShadows


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Status: offline 		We're both masochists in a sexual context, with each other.  Have you tried asking him straight out?  "What does it for ya?"  Maybe it's not so much "the pain" for him...Maybe it's "the struggle" you put up, or pretend to put up...whatever the case may be?

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RE: Hurting Dom During Sex - 12/19/2006 2:27:55 PM   
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Status: offline 		Then sharpen your nails - run them down his back during the buildup of passion - and, at the "moment of truth" - grab a handful of salt and apply liberally.
 
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ORIGINAL: insanityprevails

Haha, no way he's into CBT, he's bery sensitive down there and he hates it, if my teeth even touch it he'll get angry. I think he's more into being hurt from the bottom. Not "organized" pain (using that term for lack of a better term) he's more into me biting while he's holding me down, or running spiked wristbands down his back while he's on top of me.

mnottertail... I'm not trying to get killed :-P



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RE: Hurting Dom During Sex - 12/19/2006 2:45:42 PM   
Archer


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Status: offline 		Introduce him and yourself to the idea of Domiant Masochism, it exists as you know, now it is a matter of how to harness it for the greater good. The idea really resembles topping from the bottom in many ways in fact I discribe it as bottoming from the Top.

You will hurt me in this way for this long at this intensity and you will make sure I have a good time!!!!!!

Play with that idea in your heads a little while and see what happens.

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RE: Hurting Dom During Sex - 12/19/2006 4:08:52 PM   
Bearlee


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Status: offline 		Yeah, what Archer said....
and no, he was not the idiot...(sorry, but that guy WAS)... Archer seems to have a handle on what the guy was talking about...

I could to that...heh heh heh

B

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RE: Hurting Dom During Sex - 12/19/2006 4:10:54 PM   
Grlwithboy


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Status: offline 		Nipple biting. In one of the few sexually heated moments of my past life on the bottom, I was told to do this, and how hard (no! harder!) I still don't think I'd bite a guy's tit THAT hard of my own volition to this day.

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RE: Hurting Dom During Sex - 12/19/2006 4:56:37 PM   
MasterFireMaam


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Status: offline 		Ask him what would feel good. This is just another sexual expression...you'd ask if you were giving head correctly, right? So, ask how to hurt him correctly. If he doesn't know, explain that you're at a loss and that you need his help in figuring it out...especially because you want to please him.

One of the best lines I've ever heard during an SM scene between two of my friends: May I hurt you some more, Master?

*chuckle*

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RE: Hurting Dom During Sex - 12/19/2006 6:31:25 PM   
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Status: offline 		Bites Bites Bites.

Fire HA!  I've had similar conversations so many times, it never stops being funny AND true!

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RE: Hurting Dom During Sex - 12/20/2006 4:17:03 AM   
patina


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Status: offline 		I saw some gloves on a site once called vampire gloves they might work.  They were regular suede or leather gloves with tiny steel points on each finger tip to scratch or dig into the skin. It was either Details.com or kitty'scorner.com not sure.

If want more info I will search my fav. and find it again. 

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RE: Hurting Dom During Sex - 12/20/2006 4:26:32 AM   
littlesubjess


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Status: offline 		Wow, I'm finding this post bizarre ... I never knew things like this happened .... can i ask a question, Insanityprevails ? Its just merely out of curiosity, but doesnt it marr the image you have of your Dom, and alter your perception etc ? I think I would be qiute confused in your situation. Credit for taking the time to research and understand the topic for the sake of your Dom though ...

Submissively,
Jess xxx

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RE: Hurting Dom During Sex - 12/20/2006 4:47:21 AM   
Lashra


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ORIGINAL: littlesubjess

Wow, I'm finding this post bizarre ... I never knew things like this happened .... can i ask a question, Insanityprevails ? Its just merely out of curiosity, but doesnt it marr the image you have of your Dom, and alter your perception etc ? I think I would be qiute confused in your situation. Credit for taking the time to research and understand the topic for the sake of your Dom though ...

Submissively,
Jess xxx

I'm just curious why you would think it would mar her perception of her Dom? Alot of Dominants enjoy pain, so by giving it to him she is serving his needs. I bottom rarely and I instruct my male in what it is that I desire to be done. I'm in control when he is doing it so, there is no doubt about who the Dominant is. Its a fairly common thing and in no way shows of submissiveness on the Dom's part if that is what your referring too.

Its all fun.

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RE: Hurting Dom During Sex - 12/20/2006 4:51:06 AM   
Lashra


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Status: offline 		Try pulling his hair, biting him very hard, clawing him, slapping his ass with a crop, face slapping, ball squeezing. Yes he might like to try CBT and nipple torture as well. If you wear heels and can wrap your legs around him, you can dig those heels into his back/ass. If he likes bondage you could try tying up his balls/cock, but read up on that before you try it unless he has some experience with it. You could try pouring hot wax on his back while he's fucking you...there's alot of things you can do.

~Lashra


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RE: Hurting Dom During Sex - 12/20/2006 4:55:16 AM   
blushingflower


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Status: offline 		jess-
Masochism and submission don't necessarily always go hand in hand.  Yes, lots of subs enjoy pain, and lots of masochists enjoy giving up control, but you can find pleasure in pain without wanting to hand over control, and you can enjoy submitting without being into pain.
The pain and pleasure centers in our brains are very close to each other, and the line between the two is very thin (as you probably well know).  Being able to derive pleasure from something that might be otherwise painful doesn't negate someone's dominance.


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RE: Hurting Dom During Sex - 12/20/2006 5:10:18 AM   
littlesubjess


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Status: offline 		Wow ... I'm delighted I caught this thread ... I didnt know anything like this occured ... I suppose its true that you really DO learn something new every day lol ... I think its great.

Submissively
Jess xxx

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RE: Hurting Dom During Sex - 12/20/2006 6:27:11 AM   
Floggings4You


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Status: offline 		I still have four distinct, round bruises 'all-in-a-row' on my left bicep.  My wife and I dated a woman ('J') a little over a week ago, and at one point, while 'J' and I were having sex, she grabbed my arms and just held on to me for several minutes.  Her grip got tighter and tighter. 

I didn't realize she'd bruised me until my wife noticed the marks the next day.

The idea that 'J' was so caught up in what I was doing to her that she left bruises on my arm, well, I'm no submissive, but that's hot!

Keith.


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