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Spanking helping objectives - 12/20/2006 11:50:34 AM   
BritishSpnk


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Status: offline 		Has anyone had success with spanking being used for discipline to get someone to accomplish a goal? for instance, a wife who always wants to clean up the files and paper work but hasn't got around to it, asks her husband to spank her hard every week until it gets done. I have heard stories about people doing ti for weight loss too. Does it work?
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RE: Spanking helping objectives - 12/20/2006 11:57:55 AM   
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Status: offline 		I think most of the girls I hang out with would never get the paperwork filed, in fact they would burn the shit if the punishment was spanking.


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RE: Spanking helping objectives - 12/20/2006 12:03:12 PM   
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Status: offline 		I'm sure it's helped some people, and for such a blatant and simple example as that, it seems like exactly the right thing to do.  If someone wasn't doing as ordered or expected, physical punishment would be about item #5980 on the listo f things I'd do to address it- but sometimes a simple and direct consequence can be best for a simple and direct order.

As well, physical punishments and spankings just seem to resonate for a lot of people and can be the exclamation point they need.

Or it could just be a great way to ensure a weekly spanking session :)

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RE: Spanking helping objectives - 12/20/2006 12:14:06 PM   
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Status: offline 		I like spankings, so no. They would not help my objective.

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RE: Spanking helping objectives - 12/20/2006 12:21:47 PM   
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ORIGINAL: YourhandMyAss

I like spankings, so no. They would not help my objective.


I agree. If you want to punish me take away my toys ;)

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RE: Spanking helping objectives - 12/20/2006 12:26:31 PM   
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Status: offline 		For fun Master has followed me around the house with a cane while I've been doing the housework. He has also taught me martial arts forms with his cane. The ones he has taught me using that method are the ones that really stick in my mind.

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RE: Spanking helping objectives - 12/20/2006 12:29:49 PM   
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Status: offline 		No my male sub loves pain so a spanking would only encourage the bad behavior. However I have found that making him wear white mens brief undies in 2 sizes to small for a week to cure just about any bad behavior.

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RE: Spanking helping objectives - 12/20/2006 12:43:11 PM   
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Status: offline 		oh god yes dark, unless i am super dupe horny to the point of hyperhornyness, I NEED my toys to come and stuff, and taking those away and play time away would motivate me far far more than spankings.

A domme friend of mine said go do this or I will spank you. I looked at her and grinned, and she said " oh right" you like spankings, do this or I WON'T spank you.

I got up and did what she asked.

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RE: Spanking helping objectives - 12/20/2006 12:53:18 PM   
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Status: offline 		Spanking is a reward in my relationship. He spanks me to show me what a good girl I am

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RE: Spanking helping objectives - 12/20/2006 1:09:12 PM   
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Status: offline 		Well i don't like spankings (except for play ones).  I want to do well in my Earth Science class so to motivate me to study Master  said i will get one stroke for evey point under 80 i get.  I hope i get a reward for getting higher than an 80.  It is great motivation for me to study.

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RE: Spanking helping objectives - 12/20/2006 2:12:40 PM   
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ORIGINAL: BritishSpnk

Has anyone had success with spanking being used for discipline to get someone to accomplish a goal? for instance, a wife who always wants to clean up the files and paper work but hasn't got around to it, asks her husband to spank her hard every week until it gets done. I have heard stories about people doing ti for weight loss too. Does it work?


Absolutely works here. It's used with regularity. If I really have to get tasks accomplished or I have a goal I want to achieve and I'm my usual scatty, disinterested, poorly discliplined self....we set up a *motivating* system.   It works brilliantly for me....because I don't like being hurt or hit and because we make the price FAR greater than the short term benefit of NOT accomplishing.

I don't ask for that kind of motivation unless I really want to get somewhere because I know that his commitment to it will outrun mine and I know I'll deeply regret that ......It isn't something I'd enter into lightly any longer.

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RE: Spanking helping objectives - 12/20/2006 2:29:03 PM   
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Status: offline 		i get spanked because:
a. i disobeyed Daddy (for whatever reason which rarely happens)
b. i requested it
c. it's used as a reminder / reward

but never as a way to accomplish a goal


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RE: Spanking helping objectives - 12/20/2006 7:41:13 PM   
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Status: offline 		In my case, if i cheat on my diet......a spankingflogging would come soon and a very unhappy Master, so its something that would truely push me to meet my objectives/goals.



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RE: Spanking helping objectives - 12/20/2006 8:34:48 PM   
adaddysgirl


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Status: offline 		Spankings have always been used as a means of discipline for me.  i guess they work because i hate them so!
 
i always looked at spankings in two ways:  a motivator toward good (or desired) behavior, and a deterent toward bad (or unacceptable) behavior.  Yes, kind of like a behavior modification/attitude adjustment tool. 
 
That's how they worked for me anyway 
 
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RE: Spanking helping objectives - 12/21/2006 2:55:08 AM   
Siona


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Status: offline 		A spanking/flogging is a treat for me.
Taking it way would be punishment for me.

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RE: Spanking helping objectives - 12/21/2006 3:33:00 AM   
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Status: offline 		Master and I talked about something like this the other day, but he hasn't given me his decision on doing it yet.
 
My Master has a very hard hand when it comes to using the belt, I don't think he realizes how hard.  It is a great punishment tool for this one that does enjoy pain quite a bit.
 
I have been fighting this stupid bulimia now for almost 5 yrs and it's starting to wear on my body physically and emotionally.  I talked to him about how I do this when he isn't home and there has to be some way he can help me with it.  I know that the strength is in me, I have quit before, but I am having a harder time this one.
 
I told him that maybe if I had a "punishment" for it, it would help.  I don't mean by making me stop doing it..but more of a reminder at the end of the day about the bad thing I did.  The belt would give me a chance to think about it, and remind me what I am doing to myself each time I binge/purge.
 
I don't think it's the act itself, I mean.. if someone wants to do something bad enough, they will.  It's more the fact of having to answer for that thing and having a chance to reflect on the "bad behavior" that I know would help for me.
 
The true part of being able to stop though, to lose weight, to do something about an act, has to be something they person wants, or I don't think any amount of beating, spanking, etc..will do much good.
 
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RE: Spanking helping objectives - 12/21/2006 5:13:21 AM   
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One of the things I do not understand is the rational that a punishment spanking could be enjoyable and a way to encourage bad behavior.

I enjoy a spanking as much as the next masochist..but I definitely can tell the difference between a spanking for enjoyment and one for punishment or discipline. And trust me.. I would never want the latter.

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RE: Spanking helping objectives - 12/21/2006 6:41:49 AM   
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Status: offline 		Sorry to hear about your struggles with bulimia, Akasha.

When I've asked for motivational help I know it will work because the cost/benefit is weighed out to just the right degree. I wouldn't ask for that type of aid if I had any doubts about what I was aiming for. I have some *not so good* bits that I wouldn't ask for that type of help with because I really don't want to give them up. If HE decided I'd have to, that'd be different.

I don't get *punished* for slipping up but I do have to undergo the penalty. He's also definately NOT disappointed in me, either. It's cause and effect. Long term, difficult goals will include set-backs........but they are MY set-backs, not his; they don't make HIM miserable and I don't feel I've let him down, either.

I agree that it's necessary to really want to achieve whatever it is. I'd also add that I have the history and experience with my Master to know that he can make me do anything I want to; that is a time-served knowledge.

I don't think anything I do is *bad*...I don't invest emotionally in them. Having bulimia isn't *bad* .........it's a problem awaiting a solution.

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RE: Spanking helping objectives - 12/21/2006 6:48:30 AM   
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Status: offline 		Spanking would not work for me because I would enjoy it way too much. Other forms of discipline are more acceptable for me. I enjoy pain way too much for it to encourage me not to do something or to do something a different way.

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RE: Spanking helping objectives - 12/21/2006 6:57:31 AM   
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Status: offline 		As the replies show it really depends on the one receiving the spanking.

It does no good to give a 'punishment" to someone who would enjoy it.

Corporal punishment in a BDSM relationship, for most, doesn't work. I
rarely use.

I'd use something like cormer time or find a toy they don't like.

Now, for example, they hate the crop. That's what I'd use. I would
just threaten as long as that worked but I would have no problem
carrying out the threat IF challenged.

I know she hates it and she knows I'll use it
So the threat of it should be enough most of the time.

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