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RE: just curious, crying out vs. staying silent... - 12/29/2006 10:54:38 AM   
SirDominic


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Status: offline 		Sounds like most people who have answered are in longterm realtionships, where they already know each other well. For beginners I would be very concerned about someone being stoic; it is the feedback from a sub that gives me an understanding of where they are, and when they are approaching their limits. I normally will not play with a sub who will just lie there (again unless I already know them verrrry well). Just my personal preference.

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RE: just curious, crying out vs. staying silent... - 12/29/2006 11:00:43 AM   
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He also enjoys my resistence so of course am learning to fight back.  Which i enjoy as well guess we are well matched.


And here I thought the hokey pokey was what it was all about.


See I just knew it!!!!  The hokey pokey IS what it's all about!!!!  *points to her journal*

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RE: just curious, crying out vs. staying silent... - 12/29/2006 11:03:04 AM   
whisperedsighs


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ORIGINAL: Focus50

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I sort of like to go off into my own little world, which helps a lot..the problem is that Master talks to me and I am expected to answer, so I can't go there and find my "happy place"..in turn I feel every blow.

Don't mean to butt into your personal relationship but that'd be something you should talk to him about.  Of course it hurts and sub-space is an obvious and natural remedy to counter it - allowing both to enjoy.
 
For those who use physical pain as a punishment, keeping you "up" by making you answer questions etc seems quite effective but I learnt early that I'd generally rather her drift off to wherever it is you subs go.... lol
 
Focus.


For some Sadists, that is exactly why they ask questions and bring the girl out of the "space".  I have played both ways, and find I like both, to be present for every stroke, and to just float. 

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RE: just curious, crying out vs. staying silent... - 12/29/2006 11:15:04 AM   
whisperedsighs


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Status: offline 		Okay to the OP.   I do tend to be quite loud, and some like it some don't.  I have been teased about how loud I can be and threatened to be gagged with dirty smelly socks if I can't keep it down.  Now then within a scene there will be a space that I hit that all verbalization just goes.  I like a previous person posted, am flying at this point.  I don't want to respond, just fly.  At this time the person I am playing with has a few options, be excellent at reading body language and keep going, give me a stroke that is hard and stingy enough to jog me out, or ask me a question.

It has been my experience that most Dominants/Sadists like a response of some sort, otherwise it would be like hitting a pillow wouldn't it?  There are some though that just like to create that struggle in one to try and remain still and quiet, if that is not what they normally do. 

Last night I had a great scene with someone, and we were in motel room, so it was with great difficulty I that I had to keep the volume down.  I was also told at times to remain still, and take it in silence which is also incredibly difficult, but in some ways incredibly HOT!



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RE: just curious, crying out vs. staying silent... - 12/29/2006 11:16:10 AM   
pinkkeith


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Status: offline 		I usually don't cry out very much at all unless the dom didn't warm me up first. I do wiggle around and kicky my feet a lot.

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RE: just curious, crying out vs. staying silent... - 12/29/2006 11:18:19 AM   
michaelOfGeorgia


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Status: offline 		since i have not had anything in the real world, i cannot say if i would be the silent type or scream my fool head off. maybe someday i'll find out.

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RE: just curious, crying out vs. staying silent... - 12/29/2006 11:26:42 AM   
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Status: offline 		Add me to the list of those who prefer to hear the sound.

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RE: just curious, crying out vs. staying silent... - 12/29/2006 11:39:28 AM   
MadRabbit


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Status: offline 		The sadist in me wants my girl to cry out. I like moans, groans, jerks when the paddle hits while I am holding her by the collar, squirms in the bondage, cries, and wiggles. The more they react, the more they lose themselves to what I am doing, the less control they have over themselves in response to my actions, the more I enjoy it. One of the reasons why my girl and I are so compatible is because she is so reactive. I couldnt imagine standing over someone for 30 minutes, working away with my flogger and not get a single reaction out of their stoic bodies. Where is the fun in that for me? The infliction of pain is erotic to me, but the real erotic pleasure is when the pain I inflict churns a reaction out of her.

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RE: just curious, crying out vs. staying silent... - 12/29/2006 8:45:28 PM   
KinkMasterDave


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Status: offline 		G'evening..

I dont' think I have a preference one way or the other.. all I look for is to let them respond with honesty.. not to try to suck it up with pride, or take it for me silently...

To properly "read" someones reactions, they MUST be honest in allowing themselves to express as they see fit...... of course, profanity is NOT a safeword.. lol

MD

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RE: just curious, crying out vs. staying silent... - 12/31/2006 8:31:19 PM   
DavidsBabyGirl


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Status: offline 		me too! when i get in trouble, daddy spanks my ass and i usually cry.  However, there are times when i am in trouble and daddy clearly tells me not to say anything, or he might tell me not to move, or he tells me to close my eyes.  Daddy likes my natural sounds and rarely tells me to be silent but if he ever does, i will surely obey. :)

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RE: just curious, crying out vs. staying silent... - 12/31/2006 8:41:40 PM   
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ORIGINAL: SoftTop

What do you prefer? During a pleasure/pain session with your subs, do you enjoy it when they cry out? Do you prefer them to remain as quiet as possible? Do you like them to wiggle about and whimper or maybe stay stoic and just bite their lip?


I have to say yes to all ...it depends on my mood and the circumstances what I prefer at that time..I also enjoy if a person tends to cry out putting them in places where they cannot cry out without causing undue attention to themselves and see them squirm... 


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RE: just curious, crying out vs. staying silent... - 1/1/2007 12:49:42 PM   
psychosexkitty


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Status: offline 		I must be the quietest bottom out there - I don't move or make a sound at all, even under the heaviest caning.  To me, internalizing the pain and sound puts me deeper into subspace.  Resisting, and making sounds makes it very hard to get to that state.  But I suppose that a Dom could use that to his advantage - depending on what he wants out of the scene.  Actually, I was going to post the same question.

laura

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RE: just curious, crying out vs. staying silent... - 1/3/2007 9:31:44 PM   
masterfixer


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Status: offline 		I like both- depends on the mood, type of scene, where I want it to go and what I'm trying to acheive.

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RE: just curious, crying out vs. staying silent... - 1/4/2007 12:45:18 PM   
bellaballanda


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Status: offline 		For me, I'm normall relatively quiet.  No screams, just moans and whimpers.  In fact, I'm normally close to my limit if I start to scream.  I think it totally depends on the person and how they experience their own pain.


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RE: just curious, crying out vs. staying silent... - 1/4/2007 1:01:13 PM   
DominaSmartass


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ORIGINAL: SoftTop

What do you prefer? During a pleasure/pain session with your subs, do you enjoy it when they cry out? Do you prefer them to remain as quiet as possible? Do you like them to wiggle about and whimper or maybe stay stoic and just bite their lip?


I enjoy the reactions I get from someone so if he doesn't give me any reactions, I'm not getting much out of the scene. I recently attended a demo where the demo bottom refused to react and was obviously trying his hardest to keep all the pain inside. The top reprimanded him for being selfish because he was denying him of the sadistic pleasure of getting a reaction. I've definitely played with people in the past who take pride in being as still and silent as possible and it only made me frustrated...wouldn't play with a person like that a second time. I feel like S/M play is a circle of energy and I have to both put in and get out. If the bottom just takes amd doesn't let anything come back out then I'm left feeling drained rather than invigorated.

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RE: just curious, crying out vs. staying silent... - 1/4/2007 1:43:51 PM   
Masternslave07


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Status: offline 		I definitely prefer my slave to cry out. There is nothing more lovely than hearing her screams as I use her.

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RE: just curious, crying out vs. staying silent... - 1/7/2007 7:16:07 PM   
Tikkiee


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I generally scream for more; loudly
 
and when I don't get it, I start cussing at them

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RE: just curious, crying out vs. staying silent... - 1/8/2007 2:36:14 PM   
ardelle


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Status: offline 		Greetings
 
if it is a punishment, i was always required to be silent
 
if it is for his amusement, i was allowed to make any noise that i wished whether it be laughing, crying, purring, moaning, yelling or screaming.
 
i wish you well

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