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SoftTop -> just curious, crying out vs. staying silent... (12/22/2006 9:08:04 PM)
What do you prefer? During a pleasure/pain session with your subs, do you enjoy it when they cry out? Do you prefer them to remain as quiet as possible? Do you like them to wiggle about and whimper or maybe stay stoic and just bite their lip? I ask, because generally speaking I am a silent type.I moan and purr for pleasure, but during pain sessions especially, aside from small grunts, or blowing of air through my lips, I am relatively silent. I was recently asked if that was a pride issue, and I had to think on that awhile. I don't think it is a pride issue for me, but perhaps it is for some. So, the question...what do you prefer? Do you even have a preference? I will likely ask this in the other "ask" forums as well, to get varying viewpoints. Thanks Softie

diamonddreamlove -> RE: just curious, crying out vs. staying silent... (12/22/2006 9:28:40 PM)
I used to be silent because i was quiet in general. I now know that Master enjoys hearing my response to pain and therefore i do not try to hide it anylonger. He also enjoys my resistence so of course am learning to fight back. Which i enjoy as well guess we are well matched.

SweetSarijane -> RE: just curious, crying out vs. staying silent... (12/22/2006 9:42:34 PM)
Cross posting isn't allowed. You'll get viewpoints from all sides of the whip no matter what forum you post a question in and it only needs to be posted once. I've been conditioned through my life to be silent as much as possible, so I am mostly silent except for breathing through the pain, gasping or sighing, however, recently, I have begun to finally be able to make some noise at times, but it takes very intense sensation to bring it out of me. Those who top me have no complaints on whether I do or don't make noise and have actually worked with me to help me be able to let out some sounds as they are also friends to me.

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: just curious, crying out vs. staying silent... (12/22/2006 9:45:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SoftTop What do you prefer? During a pleasure/pain session with your subs, do you enjoy it when they cry out? Do you prefer them to remain as quiet as possible? Do you like them to wiggle about and whimper or maybe stay stoic and just bite their lip? I like both- depends on the mood, type of scene, where I want it to go and what I'm trying to acheive. quote: I don't think it is a pride issue for me, but perhaps it is for some. It surely can be.

DiurnalVampire -> RE: just curious, crying out vs. staying silent... (12/22/2006 9:58:11 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SoftTop What do you prefer? During a pleasure/pain session with your subs, do you enjoy it when they cry out? Do you prefer them to remain as quiet as possible? Do you like them to wiggle about and whimper or maybe stay stoic and just bite their lip? During any activity with Angel, I prefer sounds. I am a very reaction based person, I get turned on by the reactions I get from him. The more he wriggles around, tries to get away and themore noise he makes, the more I like it. He knows that, and he has never ben good at trying to stay quiet or still anyway. Even on the phone, when I get him turned on, he squeaks. Being as reaction-stimulated as I am, I love it. DV

SmokingGun82 -> RE: just curious, crying out vs. staying silent... (12/22/2006 10:02:42 PM)
I prefer noise and movement... wriggling... whimpering... moans... A nice pairing with the sound of flesh meeting leather.

DevilsVendetta -> RE: just curious, crying out vs. staying silent... (12/22/2006 10:40:04 PM)
I don't really mind either way, as long as there is some sound. If she is laying there almost motionless and silent its a bit unnerving, but if she is stiffling moans and wrigling thats fine. Or if she's loud that works as well.

beltainefaerie -> RE: just curious, crying out vs. staying silent... (12/23/2006 12:45:09 AM)
As a dominant, it depends entirely on the goal of the scene. It can be an interesting challenge for a noisy sub to try to be silent. My brat makes all kinds of noise at first, but usually reaches a silent place after I take her deep into subspace. As a sub, I usually make all kinds of noise, and my sounds in addition to body language, let my Master know what state I am in. It is rare for me to go silent and usually means I am not processing pain well.

julietsierra -> RE: just curious, crying out vs. staying silent... (12/23/2006 1:01:57 AM)
Noise heightens what I'm feeling. I've likened it to the yell in karate before a hit. It focuses energy into what I'm doing and so, silly little things - like orgasms - are felt more intensely. I've tried to be silent before and been so focused on that that I completely lost whatever it was he had me close to. Once we figured that out, he let me be as noisy as I need to be. juliet

vield -> RE: just curious, crying out vs. staying silent... (12/23/2006 2:26:45 AM)
We could hire my sub out as a torando alert siren, which I enjoy very much! With a very responsive partner one can play them like a musical instrument! All of us react in our own ways, and allowing the submissive to fully react as is natural for him or her makes it easier to get to the flying places I enjoy taking them to. When I submit, I try to react naturally to all i experience, but if the dominant enjoys having be resist and breaking through that, then i try to give them this. If the dominant wants to just melt me down and sending me flying I like that better, but it is their choice. vield

HCWT1 -> RE: just curious, crying out vs. staying silent... (12/23/2006 2:29:12 AM)
Thinking,after thirty years of remaining quiet,except for drawing breath,now and again, (because its what i believe in,a sub/slaves place and all that),god it would feel nice to meet someone,who could make me cry out.May be something iv'e missed,as in a sort of release,emotions ect.

Focus50 -> RE: just curious, crying out vs. staying silent... (12/23/2006 2:39:15 AM)
Unless I want a specific reaction or restriction from her, I'm generally ok with whatever her natural responses are. Having her concentrate will inhibit her going into sub-space when I'd mostly want her to. As for noise, if she's a natural screamer etc, gags will muffle most of her sounds and if she's the silent type, no need other than for effect. Focus.

Kalira -> RE: just curious, crying out vs. staying silent... (12/23/2006 6:07:09 AM)
I often cry out because the pain just hurts [&:]

LovingKitten -> RE: just curious, crying out vs. staying silent... (12/23/2006 6:20:21 AM)
It all depends on mood. I am a rather quiet and demure person by nature so when I do cry out, (moans, sharp intakes of breaths and small sounds aside) it usually means that the pain was rather intense, or that I wasn't focussing. My Master enjoys hearing sounds, so learning to do so is a bit difficult, though he is understanding that its hard to break an old habit.

LokisBrat -> RE: just curious, crying out vs. staying silent... (12/23/2006 8:13:50 AM)
Whimper! Moan! Cry! and Moan some more! And did I say stop whimpering??? LOKI

RedSavageSlave -> RE: just curious, crying out vs. staying silent... (12/23/2006 8:24:44 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: diamonddreamlove He also enjoys my resistence so of course am learning to fight back. Which i enjoy as well guess we are well matched. And here I thought the hokey pokey was what it was all about.[8D]

Petruchio -> RE: just curious, crying out vs. staying silent... (12/23/2006 8:25:47 AM)
I've experienced intense pain when having tissue samples taken from my liver and from a gall bladder exam. My way of handling pain is focused silence; noise distracts me from combatting pain. For the same reason, I dislike screams when I'm on a roller coaster. I want to focus on the eperience and it pisses me off when some guy is screaming like a schoolgirl.

KatyLied -> RE: just curious, crying out vs. staying silent... (12/23/2006 9:18:54 AM)
quote: My way of handling pain is focused silence That reminds me of lamaze and childbirth. I remember staring at a picture (my focal point). It really does work. You concentrate all of your energy on staring and breathing and tune everything else out.

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: just curious, crying out vs. staying silent... (12/23/2006 10:41:23 AM)
Oh and I'll add that a really loud sub at public parties just annoys everyone- use duct tape or a gag. There's a certain level of noise that is understandably expected in a scene, but at some point it becomes distracting and interfering with others.

ownedgirlie -> RE: just curious, crying out vs. staying silent... (12/23/2006 10:50:17 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: KatyLied quote: My way of handling pain is focused silence That reminds me of lamaze and childbirth. I remember staring at a picture (my focal point). It really does work. You concentrate all of your energy on staring and breathing and tune everything else out. I'll have to try this. Not having given birth, I can't relate to that part but it does make sense to pick a focal point and focus on breathing. Thanks for this! I am seriously struggling with handling pain better.

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