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Feelings of hornyness triggering depression right after. - 12/22/2006 9:48:07 PM

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Lately I have been getting very depressed very shortly after becoming horny. I have no access to my mate much of the day any more because now he works we can' talk on the phone, before Ic ould of called up and done a bit of phone play, and at least released some energy.and he's 2 hours away. The horniness then the depression is driving me nuts. Well mostly the horny ness is, I am very unused to sexual arousal, since it's never been stired this constantly or this much before, I can spend like 4 days strait horny with no reliefe cause he can't come down here , at first I am writhing in horny ness and then slowly the hornyness wears off and is replaced by whineyness tears and depression, and I don't fuck others, and yes fucking and sex is all I will be satisfied by, and then I get Sad depressed and feel sorry for myself because I am horny, and once again it wasn't the first time James was unavailible, and unfortunatly it won't be the last time. I miss him awfully bad and I am already struggling with not having enough real life with him, with no real solution to it, and I can't go up there and he can't come here cause of work, and right now my geunione wish is not to be horny for a good long time and lately everything seems to make me horny.

If something can't change soon I am going to have to set myself loose, because I can not deal with this constant need and ache with no ability or end insite. I can not go through this torment again of wanting someone with no ability to see them.

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RE: Feelings of hornyness triggering depression right a... - 12/22/2006 9:51:01 PM

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You obviously aren't keeping yourself busy enough or focused on other things. It won't make the issue go away, but it will make it much easier to deal with overall.

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RE: Feelings of hornyness triggering depression right a... - 12/22/2006 9:53:49 PM

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La probably not. It's doubly worse cause I'm not used to being aroused much or wishing to fuck much. My X didn't really do much to inspire hornyness.

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RE: Feelings of hornyness triggering depression right a... - 12/22/2006 10:25:52 PM

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Perhaps asking your mate for tasks during a set time frame would help with focus...good lick.errrrrr luck even!

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RE: Feelings of hornyness triggering depression right a... - 12/22/2006 11:42:13 PM

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Ever seen a pendulum (a weight on a string)? If you pull it way off to one side and let it go, it will swing way off to the other side. It'll go back and forth for a long time before coming to rest in the middle. Now, if you only moved it a little at first, it would come back to the center quickly. Your second chakra energy was pulled way off center and was held there when your sex drive was shut down, so that you chakra was blocked. Now, it's been released and it's oscillating back and forth widly, trying to get back into balance. This is one of the reasons you're so horny and why you're depressed about it. You're body and spirit want balance.

Look into how to balance your second chakra. This chakra deals with creativity and the ability to express your emotions as well as sexual energy. When you feel horny, that frustration is reminding your body of what it was like to be emotionally stiffled and so you become depressed. Try finding a creative outlet that you can divert your energy into when you can't fulfill the sexual urges. Other ways of focusing your energy are good, too, such as a meditative physical activity (yoga, tai chi, martial art, etc).

Also, look at the emotions behind the depression and try to deal with the underlying issue. I've been where you are. The last time I became depressed because of sexual frustration, the path in my head went like this:
Why am I upset that I can't have sex? Because I want sex. What is it about the sex that I want? I want the physical closeness. Why do I want the physical closeness? Because I'm lonely. Why am I lonely? Because I want to be in someone's energy and to share mine.
With that, I was able to go out into my circle and sit in it's energy and to share mine. Yeah, I masturbated, too. It helped a lot and I was able to get out of the depression even though I still felt horny.

Hope all this helps.

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RE: Feelings of hornyness triggering depression right a... - 12/23/2006 12:50:24 AM

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Yes. It's the pychical connection I crave and then it's like oh dam none to be had right now. I think that more than anything is the crux of the downswing. I will try to find things to fill the void. I am perhaps even thinking of a small enexpensive fucking machine, because sometimes it's just the sensation of in an out in an out. Who knows maybe a fucking machine might help out once in a while!

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