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Personal information - 2/21/2005 7:20:02 AM

MsDom7

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I have been in the lifestyle for several years and have indulged in the online scene over the past 5 years or so. I have never had a potential submissive or slave want personal information. I have a sub who is currently serving online and he wishes to have My personal information, ie name, address. I am against it. he cites the fairness card. I don't see a need for it.

I am interested in getting other Dommes opinions on this. he claims that he has met several who provide this information. I see no necessity for it, until he comes for a session in rl. I understand it as a trust issue, but when you speak with Me daily, etc and have personal email address, there is simply no need for it.

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RE: Personal information - 2/21/2005 9:54:07 AM

ObedientMISub

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I am not a domme, but if the relationship is strictly online, I don't see why you would have to give it.

As a sub, if I saw you, say via webcam, to verify that you are who you say you are, that would be enough for me for an OL relationship.

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RE: Personal information - 2/21/2005 10:19:07 AM

SecretDomme

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I did the online thing for about 3 years. I saw no need for an address if it was strictly online, and first name was sufficient, although I did often know the first and last name, as he did mine. I did exchange several photos with my online subs, had voice chats, and sometimes had phone conversations, after we established a relationship. My online relationships lasted several months to a year, however, so the bond was particularly strong.

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RE: Personal information - 2/21/2005 7:54:05 PM

GentleLady

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I have been exploring the on-line aspects of the Lifestyle for the last 3 years and have never found it necessary to give the submissives My personal information. A request or semi-demand from them that I should is seen as a red flag. So long as the relationship is going to remain on-line and there is constant contact between the parties then why would addresses be needed?

I have exchanged that kind of information with a couple of them but only after I have known them for several months, and the level of trust is there. In most of these cases the relationship has been moving to a real time meeting.

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RE: Personal information - 2/21/2005 9:25:25 PM

MsSilvie

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I'm not clear on the exact situation. Is this someone you were casually playing with? Or someone you had developed a more serious long term online partnership?

The people online that I have a casual play relationship with I don't feel I need to either give or recieve contact info. In a lot of cases, though, we do have each others information. With more serious online relationships, I've always exchanged info. It adds a lot to be able to call, write, etc.

I think it's reciprocial. If I'm asked for info and give it out, I would expect the same back. I don't agree at all with dominants who demand info from a sub and not be willing to return theirs. Certainly, if I'm going to meet someone, I want some verifiable info there.

For people I know online, I would say that in at least 95% of the stable, OL relationships that I know of, the partners have personal info. The opposite it true too, about 95% of the "velcro collar" couples DON'T have personal info.

One thing to consider, if you won't provide info or at least get on vanilla camera for stable, normal folks you are developing a relationship with, you are going to tend to be seen as a fake. I'm not saying that it's true or that it's fair, but people will wonder "what is that person trying to hide". That may or may not be a concern you have.

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RE: Personal information - 2/22/2005 5:17:24 AM

Redb

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I think for on-line Domination its totally unnecessary.
Why does he need to know ?? have you asked him ?

In real life play, first meeting in public, you dont need much other than a good safe call. Anything more than that, anything private.. you NEED to have more... if they or you arent willing after that... there is something amiss.

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