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SusanofO -> RE: True Love, sole mate, sole partner, Life Partner........... (12/24/2006 10:07:10 AM)
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I do believe there are people who are very deeply compatible, who just "fit" with eachother so well, so much so that they might end up staying together for life, with just eachother, or with one or the other of them seeing others as well.
But I've seen so many mis-matches, and divorces, I just think people should not be saddled with that myth as a societal expectation. I just don't believe that it's necessarily true that each person has one (and only one) "soulmate" for themselves.
It's one reason I don't care if other people are Polyamorous (and am exploring the possibility myself) - I understand that someone really can be attracted to several people, and truly love them all, and pretty deeply. Some people have a lot of love to give.
However, I will add a caveat that I think somepeople are just "wired" for Polyamory and some for Monogamy, maybe, or perhaps they change their opinion on it due to some life circumstances or experiences, and neither is "better" than the other, I don't think.
Not to put too fine a point on it, but - I've seen people who have found "the One" - about every other month or so, hehe. It's not something I am personally aspiring to do, but I think when that happens, we can pretty much put to rest the idea there is one (and only one) "soulmate" out there for each one of us - unless you'd want to pursue some convoluted theory about how the "One(s)" they are finding are just not the real, true "One" for them, but mere distractions on their life's path, etc.
I think there may be several people who will be extra compatible for someone, so much that one could have a very, very meaningful relationship happen with each. Maybe people have several "soulmate" possibilities, then. Not zillions, not even hundreds, probably, but certainly more than just one.
Just one possibility? On the whole planet? I don't really buy that idea. Sorry if that sounds unromantic. Or unconventional (from a female).
Also, just thinking about the concept, it seems logistically problematical. What if they are say, in China, and I am in the U.S? I could spend my entire life seeking my "One" and never find them. That would be a shame, wouldn't it?
- Susan
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