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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

A child of the seventies we called it the electric slide....

Yes I can, in fact.

Ron
to be fair however, at this particular juxtaposition of space time, you would not be at all allured but would rather take me home with sweet promise of submission rather than be seen in public with me enacting the said slide.

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ORIGINAL: LadyHugs

Dear MzMia, Ladies and Gentlemen;
 
In my mind's eyes I see, that nobody will change unless they will it from within.
 
There will be people who will make it personal and not focus on the topic.  There will be people who have to take pot shots at those who refuse to lower to the level that is not civil and or respectful.  Some people have to be bullies or b__ches and hurt people's feelings as to make 'them' look and or feel more dominant, better than thou, a know it all and or out crow other dominants.  In my mind's eyes they're in their own 'sandbox,' and not really anything different then like hearing themselves talk.  They won't change--why expect them to?  At least they're easy to identify and dismiss them--skip over them and read those who post that interest us (in general sense) and share worthy information, skills, insights, opinions and or a different way of seeing the same thing.
 
There will be those who will always offer words to think on, to inquire and or expand on the topic.  There will be individuals who will inspire us to reach farther, deeper, wider beyond our current 'self' and improve and expand our understanding, knowledge, skills and how we look at topics that are posed.  This forum has some very brilliant minds.  Life is too short not to take advantage of them sharing.  Disagree or agree, it really is a matter of how to 'disagree' without being disagree-able.
 
As for me, like you MzMia; I am not seeking fights, wishing to start fights and or surrounded by nasty sorts--I prefer a peaceful and respectful exchange.  I enjoy being able to see another's mind through their eyes.  Hopefully, they will enjoy the same in looking through mine.
 
Perhaps the holidays, especially when Christmas and New Years come about, it heightens the frustration, depression and anxious for some progress.  It is the end of another year where individuals still seeking remain frustrated as they have not found their 'match/matches.'  It hurts being alone during the holidays.  Indeed, though a person can be surrounded by individuals--they still can be despirately alone.  The only thing people can grasp--is hope.  When there is little, people grasp it even harder, tighter and hold it a bit more close.
 
To those who read my post--Happy Holidays to you and Happy New Year.  Keeping hope alive gives promise that there will be good changes in the months ahead.   {{Big hugs to those who want/need them}}
 
Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs

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ORIGINAL: LotusSong

OH E!  "You're just no fun anymore!" ;)

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ORIGINAL: LadyHugs

Dear MzMia, Ladies and Gentlemen;
 
In my mind's eyes I see, that nobody will change unless they will it from within.
 
There will be people who will make it personal and not focus on the topic.  There will be people who have to take pot shots at those who refuse to lower to the level that is not civil and or respectful.  Some people have to be bullies or b__ches and hurt people's feelings as to make 'them' look and or feel more dominant, better than thou, a know it all and or out crow other dominants.  In my mind's eyes they're in their own 'sandbox,' and not really anything different then like hearing themselves talk.  They won't change--why expect them to?  At least they're easy to identify and dismiss them--skip over them and read those who post that interest us (in general sense) and share worthy information, skills, insights, opinions and or a different way of seeing the same thing.
 
There will be those who will always offer words to think on, to inquire and or expand on the topic.  There will be individuals who will inspire us to reach farther, deeper, wider beyond our current 'self' and improve and expand our understanding, knowledge, skills and how we look at topics that are posed.  This forum has some very brilliant minds.  Life is too short not to take advantage of them sharing.  Disagree or agree, it really is a matter of how to 'disagree' without being disagree-able.
 
As for me, like you MzMia; I am not seeking fights, wishing to start fights and or surrounded by nasty sorts--I prefer a peaceful and respectful exchange.  I enjoy being able to see another's mind through their eyes.  Hopefully, they will enjoy the same in looking through mine.
 
Perhaps the holidays, especially when Christmas and New Years come about, it heightens the frustration, depression and anxious for some progress.  It is the end of another year where individuals still seeking remain frustrated as they have not found their 'match/matches.'  It hurts being alone during the holidays.  Indeed, though a person can be surrounded by individuals--they still can be despirately alone.  The only thing people can grasp--is hope.  When there is little, people grasp it even harder, tighter and hold it a bit more close.
 
To those who read my post--Happy Holidays to you and Happy New Year.  Keeping hope alive gives promise that there will be good changes in the months ahead.   {{Big hugs to those who want/need them}}
 
Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs

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ORIGINAL: AlexAussieSub

MzMia,

This board seems to go through phases when there are a whole lot of topics where people are arguing. Fortunately (or unfortunately if you like drama) these phases don't tend to last longer than a week. Then everything gets boring again. The current phase though is a lot milder than the last one we had about six weeks ago.

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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

Oh, God---

One can only hope, I love to dance in the guts of such carnage........


Jack the Ripper

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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

LOL,

I feel it is safe to assume you are an ex-'southern' minnesotan then?


Uff Da!!!!

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ORIGINAL: MzMia

I have read so many threads here lately,
where it seems that people are just arguing
and fighting.
I have only been posting here about a month,
so I am not sure if this is normal or not.
Is this the season to act mean and pissy and
fight on collarme BDSM boards?
It is rather sad and pathetic and I hope this
is not the trend for the New Year.
I don't mind disagreements but I know I don't
come here looking for fights, or intentionally
starting fights. 
All it takes is to read these threads to see some
people that have a tendancy to just get nasty on a
continuous basis.
Well I am back to wrapping presents.
****Merry Christmas to Everyone*****

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ORIGINAL: LadyEllen

Stop the fighting?

Crikey I hope not. Its what keeps things interesting and entertaining!

But there are different sorts of fights you know?

1) The slow death of the ridiculous OP; like vultures over a dying man, the regulars gather and circle in for the kill. Not pleasant to watch, but OK if youre a vulture, or a dog from Canada.

2) The bitter feuding over religion / politics, between people who knew before they even started that nothing and no one would change their views anyway. These are most entertaining, can be stirred a little if going off the boil, but rarely nice to be involved in.

3) The "fat" threads, also known as the Cellulite Wars. They have numbers, just like the World Wars. I think we're up to number 56 now and there's talk of Heinz Weight Watchers sponsoring the next one.

4) The historical and scientific debates. Very high brow throughout. Not recommended for participation unless very sure of your facts and can post a dozen links to prove Admiral Lord Nelson was a Chinese guy from Tasmania. The scientific ones are even more demanding. Even I try to stay out of them. Post something incorrect, and watch the sparks fly!

5) The cross dresser outrages. A series of threads in which cross dressers do their best to be heard, but are shot down in flames every time. Luckily, asbestos knickers are now standard issue to all cross dressers, so they live to fight another day.

6) Miscellaneous other, minor conflicts. Usually started and kept going by pedants who insist on correct spelling, punctuation and grammar when this is a world where not all are blessed with the skills and abilities to provide such, and where, for goodness' sake, we all know what they meant anyway.

My advice is, to pick your battles wisely, and have fun!

E