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RE: Relationships - 12/25/2006 7:39:11 AM

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RE: Relationships - 12/25/2006 4:57:29 PM

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Hello, let me start out by saying that this is only my thoughts/opinions/ideas and being as such is neither right nor wrong...
Master and i have been together now going on 3 years. We started our relationship knowing that He is very dominate and i was submissive, but our relationship started out vanilla... It quickly turned into so very much more... I have considered myself His slave girl now for about 2 1/2 years. (I'll probably get battered for the next line but) We are working towards a TPE relationship... It is what we both want... It is hard to "define" exactally what I am... There are different aspects of many labels that "fit" who I am for my Master... What it boils down to is that I am my Masters pet slave girl who loves to see a smile on His face and is happy and proud to be the reason/cause of it... As far as being too intense, the most intense feelings I have to deal with is the love that I have for Master and the look of displeasure/irritation on His face if i upset Him... The knowledge that I am the cause of His displeasure is far worse than the pain of any punishment I may recieve... We have been living together since the third, yes 3rd, day of meeting and we still have lots of uncharted territory to explore... As far as limiting friendships, I have no real time friends that are in this lifestyle at all... And not a single vanilla friend or family member knows... They see me as a loving, very devoted partner to my Master...
Well, that was my input regarding my 24/7 with my Master... I hope this helped you...

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RE: Relationships - 12/25/2006 9:17:42 PM

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Hello, let me start out by saying that this is only my thoughts/opinions/ideas and being as such is neither right nor wrong...

Nothing that we are talking about here is right or wrong.

Many people I think have a bdsm or D/s partner that they play with on occasion or meet with once a week or go to clubs to meet different people and play and that is all great, and within that context it is easy to have defined roles.( I don't know if roles is the right term, maybe someone can help me here. I mean the way we relate to each other within the D/s dynamic). But I am thinking that a long term live together relationship is so completly different and much harder to maintain and sustain.

For those of us who are not satisfied with a vanilla relationship but who exist in a vanilla world I do think there is an internal struggle to define what it is that we are looking for and yes you do have to define it in some sense or how will you know how to achieve it, at least that is what I think and I guess that is what I am going through now.

It sounds like in private you are his slave girl and he is your master and you may even use those labels but in public you keep a part of yourselves hidden. That is not a criticism, I really don't know how else to do it unless your whole life revolves around bdsm and at least for me that isn't desirable or possible. You say you are working towards a TPE relationship and I am wondering how you can have that without your vanilla friends or family knowing but I think that is a whole nother discussion.

Anyway it sounds like you have found something that works for you and I wish you the best.

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RE: Relationships - 12/26/2006 9:11:25 AM

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You probably don't recognize these relationships. They are long term ones where people don't fight and have worked out who does what and who gets final say in case of confusion. If you were talking to a married friend about getting together and they responded that they would get back to you after seeing if their partner was free, that could easily be a D/s relationship. Just because we call each other honey and not Master or slave doesn't change the dynamics of our relationship. We act towards each other with respect which makes this a good relationship.

What you're missing seeing in a long term relationship is any overt dominance or submission, instead you're seeing what appears to be a well oiled machine. When he walks in the door I don't wait for a masterly "Slut, I'm cold, make me tea". I just get up and put on the kettle because I'm capable of noticing the weather myself and because I know his habits.

As far as bedroom only D/s, that's where most people start. They may move it into micromanagement or they may just extend control into a couple of other areas. But if I'm wearing the black bra with roses set that he picked out this morning, you wouldn't know about it when I'm in the grocery store looking for a couple of young zucchinis. You also wouldn't be able to tell if I get eggplant that it's because he said he wanted eggplant parmesan for dinner.

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