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Nikolette -> RE: What is 24/7 slavery like? (12/27/2006 5:00:49 AM)
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Not a slave but I'll post since I own a 24/7 slave.
Essencially he is at my beck and call all the time. Of course he is allowed to often do what he pleases, but I interrupt it as I see fit and my random needs are his priority.
I tend to choose the majority of what we want to do, but its on sort of an at-my-will basis. Sometimes my will says to micromanage (almost never) sometimes my will says decide for yourself.
He does most of the chores and I do most of the managment of things. I organize the home, I cook, I decide what tasks he must do. I make sure he is up with his job responsibilities, school work, etc. I make sure he is on top of his personal life things, family birthdays and such. He runs my baths, does dishes everday, runs small errands, does our laundry, and is responsible for keeping himself on task, our cats fed in the morning and their litter box done among other things.
The major benefits to him are that he has me around a lot and since he loves me and loves to be around me, he enjoys that a lot additionally we can play whenever I desire or desire to grant requests of his. It makes for a VERY spontaneous sex life. But also since we live together we have time to do a lot more fun "vanilla" things. Movies, cuddling, going out, hanging with friends together. Couple stuff.
His most major sacrifice is probably the fact that he is SO much at my beck and call. He has to make my desires a constant priority. And even though he has plenty of his own time, its still affected by me. Additionally when I am away visiting family or my other slave or friends for large chunks of time he says he tends to feel a little lost without me.
A major benefit is the very organization minded stuff I do. He doesn't have to worry about setting up the household, doing grocery shopping, keeping us on task in our lives, planning major events or doing anything major without my input, which he trusts and respects. I also do a lot of his personal grooming and decide what he should wear (but now he tends to know what I like best) how he should smell etc. So he definitely feels intimately cared for on a daily basis.
Since I am polyamorous my time is somewhat devided so he must also deal with that.
We have no contract but he does have rules. From the mundane like Don't Bite Your Fingernails to No Masturbating. Since its a TPE based relationship its very much a What I Say Goes situation. Of course I value his input but at the end of the day I am the one who decides things.
For me personally the 24/7 aspect of it is ideal. I greatly miss my other slave who lives away and miss a lot of the pleasant little "vanilla" time spent with him. The service and the quality time are the best perks to me. And the sex.
The 24/7 dynamic occurred mostly because of conveniance. I lived half way across the country so I moved in with him on a trial basis after a couple LONG visits of him coming to me. And the trial worked out so we stayed together and are happily still living together.
There is as much strain in our relationship as many couples who live together, the same sort of issues with family, money, schedules and joined lives occur. And the added intensity of the BDSM aspect adds to it, but it also takes away from it since many couples would argue and struggle when it can end between us with a sharp word from me and then a long talk when our heads are more cooled.
I know that it isn't what everyone desires, and many slaves are nervous about it, but while the BDSM is the foundation for our dynamic, love is at its core, and its built on respect and filled in with communication and respect. Its not like a constant stream of BDSM, its just life.
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