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What is 24/7 slavery like? - 12/24/2006 1:18:53 PM   
Wanderlusty


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Status: offline 		I am interested in learning about the characteristics, details, mundaneities, duties, reponsibilities, rewards, pleasures, pains in 24/7 slavery. How did you set up the relationship? Was there a contract? If you are married to your master, how does it work with regard to your marriage? Are any of these kind of like the old fashioned little housewife at home kind of things?

Tell me all!

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RE: What is 24/7 slavery like? - 12/24/2006 1:41:33 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Wanderlusty

I am interested in learning about the characteristics, details, mundaneities, duties, reponsibilities, rewards, pleasures, pains in 24/7 slavery. How did you set up the relationship? Was there a contract? If you are married to your master, how does it work with regard to your marriage? Are any of these kind of like the old fashioned little housewife at home kind of things?

Tell me all!


Depends on the dominant/master and the submissive/slave. Most contacts are mere formalities and only explain and spell out what is expected. They aren't legal and don't hold up in a court (as I like to point out so that no one feels bound to a relationship that has crossed the line into abuse). I can't give you much advice except to expect plenty of different answers and take this to heart: The only thing that matters in any relationship, 24/7 or not, is that both parties are happy with the terms that have been defined.

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RE: What is 24/7 slavery like? - 12/24/2006 2:07:05 PM   
slavejali


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Master's in charge, I obey.

mundaneities:
24/7 slavery involves all the regular mundane tasks of life, like washing up, making the bed, washing the dog, laundry, shopping, watching movies, playing games etc.

 duties:
A 24/7 slaves main duty is to obey.

reponsibilities:
Obeying. Master gives me things to be responsible for in regards to running and maintaining the household.

rewards:
My personal reward is that I love being in relationship where I submit to my partner.

pleasures:
Being in a relationship that really suits my personality.

 pains in 24/7 slavery:
Can't think of any at the moment.

How did you set up the relationship?
We talked a lot. We were realistic about compatability on really foundational levels knowing it was those foundational aspects about ourselves that the relationship itself would be sustained by. We made sure that when all was said and done we could rest comfortably with each other on a day to day basis. Master was very clear about his expectations of me as well and I made sure I comprehended and accepted how those expectations would impact my life and well-being.

Was there a contract?
Kinda, we both wrote an agreement to each other. Mine was simply I will obey. Masters had about 10 points, ranging from "being fair" to things like "Supporting our dreams".

If you are married to your master, how does it work with regard to your marriage?
If you think about the word marriage, it just means, two things brought together in partnership. If you think about it on a societal level, it means, two people who have been brought together in a legally recognised way. I don't really know how to answer this question cuz marriage itself just means to me we are recognised as a couple legally and by societies standards. The slavery aspect is the dynamic of the relationship.

 Are any of these kind of like the old fashioned little housewife at home kind of things?
I enjoy keeping a home for Master, I really enjoy stuff that might be considered old fashioned, like sewing and baking etc etc etc.

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RE: What is 24/7 slavery like? - 12/24/2006 2:17:38 PM   
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Status: offline 		90% it would look from an external observer perspective just like any other vanilla relationship out there.

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RE: What is 24/7 slavery like? - 12/24/2006 3:28:45 PM   
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Status: offline 		How did we set it up..... interesting question..... just like normal people. we got to know each other we talked alot about what we needed, wanted, felt and thought was expected. and we keep doing just that till today. Things work, some don't we change we grow, we tweek, more of this, less of that. To most outsiders we look little more than tradional old fashion people, rasing a few respectful and beautiful children and life is good.

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RE: What is 24/7 slavery like? - 12/24/2006 3:37:06 PM   
Serenityy


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Status: offline 		Hello Wanderlusty
 
In the past, my day consisted of the following
 
Get up, make the coffee and start breakfast; wake Master with a cup of coffee and anything else that he required. Bring to him the clothing that I laid out the night before; serve breakfast. Place all dirty dishes in the sink; he goes off to work, I go off to school or work. I come home, I do the dishes that are in the sink, throw a load of laundry in the washer, start dinner, turn down the bed in preparation, put the clothes in the dryer, make some coffee for when Master is home. Greet Master as he comes home with a drink and anything else he may require; serve dinner, we talk about our day; I wash the dishes and put them away; fold and iron the clothes from the dryer, put them away, lay out Master's clothes for the next day, take a shower; go and sit next to Master and talk about anything that interests us at that time. Read a bit while Master takes a shower; ready the coffee for the next day, climb into bed and go to sleep.
 
Rinse repeat.

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RE: What is 24/7 slavery like? - 12/25/2006 8:13:22 AM   
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Status: offline 		I like slavejali's explanation.  I seem to get these men with fantasy filled heads of being worked 20 hours a day, being told when to go to the bathroom, when to eat, when to speak, when to sleep....etc.  Doing anything 24 hours a day is exhausting and not going to leave you with a slave that is productive at the things required of them.  I say to many people I am vanilla with lot's of sprinkles.  The colorful sprinkles being the "fun" parts.  Slavejali truly described what I am looking for.  The male version of June Cleaver with an outside job...lol.
He use to be described in the early part of the 20th century as henpecked and pussywhipped.  I don't see anything wrong with that description either, it is just old fashioned.
Happy Holidays All/all

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RE: What is 24/7 slavery like? - 12/25/2006 9:28:02 PM   
hisannabelle


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what bossy said makes so much sense to me. i'm all submissive, and i'm in a 24/7 tpe (although not live-in), but for the most part it's just like any vanilla relationship. we both have jobs, i have school, he has kids, we have lives. i do my best to think of what he wants before anything else, including things like remembering to email him, call, bring over everything i'm supposed to when i stay over (a few times a week). neither of us would be happy, i think, with the fantasy of having a sexual/house slave at constant beck and call...i think that he would get irritated with that pretty quickly! the psychological constance of ownership and of his desires coming before anything else (in my mind) is what makes it a 24/7 relationship - not any circumstance of constantly being naked, aroused, and in the kitchen cleaning/cooking ;)

when we first acknowledged the D/s aspect in our relationship, we did draw up something of a "contract," but what we have now has changed and evolved from that, and we really don't need a contract. we're not married, although we plan to get married eventually. because our relationship is based on D/s, to me the two are inseparable...he's naturally dominant, i'm naturally submissive, i don't think our relationship would work as a purely vanilla one. of course, having the D/s element constantly present means that we don't have the chance to ignore many of the emotional issues that people in vanilla relationships often get, because i think D/s and particularly s&m play, at least for us, pushes boundaries as far as trust and communication and all of that goes. i think it provides ample opportunity for self-exploration that might otherwise be ignored in a vanilla relationship, or at least not covered so quickly.

i've always had a fantasy of being the good little housewife :P but i don't think that would ever work for us. for one, my plans as far as eventually going to graduate school and hopefully teaching mean too much to me, and his desire for me to have my own life means too much to him. for another, as much as i love to cook and i'm pretty damn good at it, he's got very plain, simple taste in food (often eats the same dishes for ages on end), and he's the one who likes to clean. so the traditional roles are often reversed ;)

i love this. i would never want to have any other kind of relationship, honestly, at least as my primary relationship. it's challenging and sometimes difficult, particularly because i have a terrible time communicating and we both had some trust/intimacy issues, but we're alike enough to make it work and different enough to learn from each other. to me it's rewarding to be able to grow and learn within a relationship like this - to learn what pleases him (and other men), and to learn more about myself and what i want sexually and otherwise - and it's also rewarding to, well, have an outlet for my desire to please and the joy i get from service that is constructive and not destructive to my emotional health (as my submissive personality has been in platonic relationships in the past).


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RE: What is 24/7 slavery like? - 12/25/2006 10:27:44 PM   
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Status: offline 		LA: it wouldn't always look like a normal vanilla relationship 90% of the time. Take a look at "aslaveslife" here on collarme.

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RE: What is 24/7 slavery like? - 12/26/2006 12:48:45 PM   
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Status: offline 		truthfully it makes me sad when i read their slavery looks like a 90% vanilla lifestyle

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RE: What is 24/7 slavery like? - 12/26/2006 1:12:44 PM   
BDSM05478


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RE: What is 24/7 slavery like? - 12/26/2006 1:32:54 PM   
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Status: offline 		no more because i think a SLAVE should be living more than 10% in a bdsm lifestyle
the question was about 24/7 slavery, yet everyone is more like 2/7

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RE: What is 24/7 slavery like? - 12/26/2006 3:04:38 PM   
Serenityy


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ORIGINAL: backseatbebe

truthfully it makes me sad when i read their slavery looks like a 90% vanilla lifestyle


Perhaps, you could be so kind as to grace us all with your own interpertation of what slavery would be like 24/7?

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RE: What is 24/7 slavery like? - 12/26/2006 3:36:46 PM   
BDSM05478


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Status: offline 		what do you think we can just run around in collar and cuffs 24/7 and whisper "please Master use your slut please" I would love to see someone explaining to their 7 year old twins why mommy has to crawl from room to room and eats her dinner outta a metal bowl on the floor....... come on this is real life, not The Beauty series. CPS, DYFS what ever it is called would be all over that. It is hard enough to explain a poly family type let alone the heirarchy that is in place with in that. After a lovely holiday I am more convinced than ever that the majority of people can not handle the truth about how we live our lives. Plus most of the people posting have been in longer than a year relationships, are settled and know what is expected of them. So it is easy to see why a waiter would think nothing of Daddy ording my dinner for me at a restaurant, when in reality he more than likely couldn't be farther from the truth of the matter as to why that is. Now for individuals that do not have kids, a high profile job or community involvement and don't think that consentual applies to what we subject the outside population I know for a fact would say the ratio is different. Go to the village it is rampade lol but when in Rome you must do or at least seem to do what the Romans do.

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RE: What is 24/7 slavery like? - 12/26/2006 3:43:32 PM   
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ORIGINAL: MasterDoc1

LA: it wouldn't always look like a normal vanilla relationship 90% of the time. Take a look at "aslaveslife" here on collarme.


an excellent example of slavery
im just saying how easy it is for people to call themselves a slave, but the majority of their life is vanilla

what part of 24/7 did i misunderstand? 24/7 means 24 hours 7 days a week......yet somehow when the kids are around, or when we go to work, or when we have to explain it to family 24/7 becomes irrelevant.

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RE: What is 24/7 slavery like? - 12/26/2006 3:47:09 PM   
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ORIGINAL: backseatbebe

no more because i think a SLAVE should be living more than 10% in a bdsm lifestyle
the question was about 24/7 slavery, yet everyone is more like 2/7


In all honesty I think you do not know because you have never been there. you are merely one of many outsiders looking in. The only true sense of slavery is when you will do something that maynot come normally to you, will do something you absolutly can not stand solely to hear those sweet words "Good girl." thats it. Alot of people think there is some magical feeling or state that comes along with the term slavery and I think even the Gorean girls would have to agree that it is not allways fun nor amusing but it is fullfilling. With time, experience and hopefully that all elusive "One" will bring you to your knees with understanding. Because truly it is a state that mere words can never ever truly express, at lease I am incapable of expressing them here as I do not have enough time and space lol

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RE: What is 24/7 slavery like? - 12/26/2006 3:57:12 PM   
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ORIGINAL: backseatbebe

no more because i think a SLAVE should be living more than 10% in a bdsm lifestyle
the question was about 24/7 slavery, yet everyone is more like 2/7


Define "slave". Define "24/7". Define "BDSM lifestyle". My idea of slavery, 24/7 and BDSM is probably different from yours, yet we're both in "the lifestyle" in some way shape or form.

I'm sub, not slave. Yet a Dominant we know, in his way of defining it, would consider me a slave. I live with my Master, we are married (just). I didn't consider our relationship to be 24/7 D/s, yet when I posted about it on another board, I was told that yes, it was. Go figure. I was living it and had no idea.

I know people who have online relationships and consider themselves to be 24/7. Someone else might say that's not possible. However the power exchange is there for them, so indeed it is one form of it.

Our lives are pretty boring really - I'm not naked in the corner waiting on Master's pleasure. I'm usually getting His meals or making sure He has His meds at the right time, massaging His aching joints, or doing household chores and shopping. I'm nurse, accountant, cook, laundress, and a host of other things.

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RE: What is 24/7 slavery like? - 12/26/2006 4:01:11 PM   
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not only are you getting defensive about something that wasnt even directed at you
you are getting offensive towards me, please dont tell me what i think, ill save that for my Owner

i am allowed to voice my opinion, and it may be wrong but the fact is its my opinion
and the only people that dont like it, will be the ones that fall under my criticisim

i just think that its easy for a submsive to call themselves a "slave" but really live a submissive lifestyle
and to me your explation of being a slave... "The only true sense of slavery is when you will do something that maynot come normally to you, will do something you absolutly can not stand solely to hear those sweet words "Good girl." thats it"... is nothing more than being a submissive

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RE: What is 24/7 slavery like? - 12/26/2006 4:17:53 PM   
BDSM05478


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ORIGINAL: backseatbebe

wow bdsm05478

not only are you getting defensive about something that wasnt even directed at you
you are getting offensive towards me, please dont tell me what i think, ill save that for my Owner

i am allowed to voice my opinion, and it may be wrong but the fact is its my opinion
and the only people that dont like it, will be the ones that fall under my criticisim

i just think that its easy for a submsive to call themselves a "slave" but really live a submissive lifestyle
and to me your explation of being a slave... "The only true sense of slavery is when you will do something that maynot come normally to you, will do something you absolutly can not stand solely to hear those sweet words "Good girl." thats it"... is nothing more than being a submissive


I am sorry if you found me defensive, i think you read too much between the lines and not what is actually written as defensive really is more about tone and body language. Now sarcasim can be read if the glasses are the right perscription.
I take my opinion of you from your profile and the whole 9 posts you have made. and if that is a submissive in your area than it is a different world than my own as subs have things like "limits" and "safe words" which imho are not in what falls as "slavery". subs are usually only pain sluts, and dabble in the bedroom aspects of wiitwd wheres anyone that claims to be a slave I would give them the credit of being 24/7 cause it is not just a roll that can be shed when the going gets rough or don't what to do as requested. subs can say "no thanks" not so for any claiming to be a slave.

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RE: What is 24/7 slavery like? - 12/26/2006 4:19:17 PM   
Serenityy


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Status: offline 		 I will repeat my question.
 
Please grace us with your interpertation of what 24/7 slavery would entail.


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