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juliaoceania -> RE: How Does One Disclipline a Dom? (12/27/2006 10:57:20 AM)
Same as crying out from pain during a scene and the dom stops what he enjoys... disciplines him really nicely[:D]

aliljaded1 -> RE: How Does One Disclipline a Dom? (12/27/2006 11:13:06 AM)
i do believe thats called topping from the bottom

DiurnalVampire -> RE: How Does One Disclipline a Dom? (12/27/2006 11:22:11 AM)
Personally, if Angel ever attempted to "discipline" me, he would be looking for a new owner. He has corrected me, in our vanilla endevors becasue there are plenty of things where his experience or knowhow trumps mine. If I make a mistake, he knows he will not be in trouble for pointing it out and helping me fix it, as long as he can do so respectfully (or at least with a good sense of humor). However, the ability to discipline and modify behavoir is mine and mine alone. I am training him to please me, I am not being trained to please him. He has his assignments that have to be done, he has his chores that need to be completed and he has his schoolwork that has to be attended to. It is my place to make sure everything is carried out smoothly. I monitor all of that and make sure I refocus him as necessary. If he were to try and keep me o track, I would resent the idea greatly and as fond as I am of him, I would send him on his way. There can only be one Dominant in a one on one D/s relationship. My 2 cents DV

LaTigresse -> RE: How Does One Disclipline a Dom? (12/27/2006 11:30:05 AM)
DV has pretty much said it all.

givemyall -> RE: How Does One Disclipline a Dom? (12/27/2006 11:32:20 AM)
Mmmm had to think about this one, but I would pick up my very heavy book 'How to be a perfect submissive' and whack him over the head with it [:D]

kishasub -> RE: How Does One Disclipline a Dom? (12/27/2006 11:34:00 AM)
It is so not my place to discipline my Domme and not something i'd ever consider doing.

Bignipplessub -> RE: How Does One Disclipline a Dom? (12/27/2006 11:42:06 AM)
Why would I discipline my dom, because sometime they are not correct about what they are sayin to me, which makes them look like fool, then makes me wounder why I am with him!!!!

akbarbarian -> RE: How Does One Disclipline a Dom? (12/27/2006 12:03:47 PM)
If this was done, it would be dysfunctional D/s.

NaiveTempest -> RE: How Does One Disclipline a Dom? (12/27/2006 12:12:01 PM)
I don't really have anything to contribute here, but I'm enjoying reading the post. Some make me laugh and some get me to thinking and understanding/learning. Thank you.

MmakeMme -> RE: How Does One Disclipline a Dom? (12/27/2006 12:33:00 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth quote: How Does One Discipline a Dom? Wouldn't shouting out your safe word be considered "discipline"? In theory he/she is doing something they enjoy and you are stopping it. That would fall under the definition of discipline even if it is in the context of 'training' him/her to satisfy the submissive. It's similar to saying "NO!" to a puppy. What a wonderful answer! It is something I had not considered - thank you for this perspective.

Sunshine119 -> RE: How Does One Disclipline a Dom? (12/27/2006 12:33:56 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: drawntothedark Nicely worded. I was thinking the same thing. As a submissive I have no right or desire to punish a Dom. The only thing I really have is the choice to leave or stay. I would hate to leave a strong relationship because my Dom was screwing up royally in regard to anything. I don't expect him to be perfect....or have perfect discipline. While the NY Giants can test anyone's nerves, screaming at the T.V., for example, doesn't accomplish much. (very small example of a Dominant losing control...lol) In all reality, just like in any other relationship, either party will screw up. My Dominant knows I will bring it to his attention. And, if he has severely hurt my feelings, I will ask for an apology. Why? Because our relationship is too precious to just stay and feel like a doormat, or leave. Sunshine

GrizzlyBear -> RE: How Does One Disclipline a Dom? (12/27/2006 12:38:22 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: juliaoceania Same as crying out from pain during a scene and the dom stops what he enjoys... disciplines him really nicely[:D] Wow- that works for you? Sure wouldn't work with me! Ouch is not a safeword, neither is "YEEEOOOOW, goddamnit, that hurts, you evil sadistic bastard!"

defiantbadgirl -> RE: How Does One Disclipline a Dom? (12/27/2006 12:43:06 PM)
Doms are human, just like subs. That means both make mistakes from time to time and may need punishment. If there is any worry about damaging the dynamic of the relationship, I have an easy solution. A dom I used to know rewarded stars to his submissives for good behavior. Once the sub had so many stars, she could punish him for his mistakes. Runs for cover from all the angry doms for sharing this idea

WhiteRadiance -> RE: How Does One Disclipline a Dom? (12/27/2006 12:51:21 PM)
Don't run for cover- that idea rocks! Such thinking helps level the playing field, so to speak, and gives the sub an opportunity to vent frustrations and let their dominant know some areas may need some work. I think that's a great idea! (I hope my sub doesn't read this) LOL quote: ORIGINAL: defiantbadgirl Doms are human, just like subs. That means both make mistakes from time to time and may need punishment. If there is any worry about damaging the dynamic of the relationship, I have an easy solution. A dom I used to know rewarded stars to his submissives for good behavior. Once the sub had so many stars, she could punish him for his mistakes. Runs for cover from all the angry doms for sharing this idea

MmakeMme -> RE: How Does One Disclipline a Dom? (12/27/2006 12:53:07 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: givemyall Mmmm had to think about this one, but I would pick up my very heavy book 'How to be a perfect submissive' and whack him over the head with it [:D] ~chuckle~ That is very cute.

cinnfulhussy -> RE: How Does One Disclipline a Dom? (12/27/2006 1:01:12 PM)
Well, I'll be honest. I am not a perfect slave who always defers gracefully and demurely to her master at all times, not a slave who accepts her place and never questions his actions. I DO have a tendency towards passive aggressive behavior, especially when my Irish is up. Life is a learning process, and learning to deal gracefully with situations I do not like is something that my master and I are working on. But I'm not Miss Perfection yet. I still have my days, my moments of <gasp> bitchiness, my moods, my times of weakness and self-pity. Master and I just celebrated our <my?> 9 year collaring anniversary this month, so luckily my lack of perfection has not harmed the relationship. In some ways it has helped. I realize there is a lot of work to be done on me, so my expectations have become more realistic over the years. Back in the early days I would never admit to another soul that my submission was anything less than complete and perfect in every way. No one I ever spoke with did, and so I just thought that once you knew you were submissive/slave/whateverlabelyouwant that you had everything all figured out and submitted with grace from there on out. So yeah, I try and”discipline" my Master on occasion, out of frustration, or anger etc. It does not usually end well for me, and I end up learning from the experience better how to properly deal with my emotions.

defiantbadgirl -> RE: How Does One Disclipline a Dom? (12/27/2006 1:08:03 PM)
If you request stars for reinforcing good behavior, collect those stars, and use your reward to punish your dom for his own mistakes, you shouldn't have to worry about any repercussions. After all, you having a chance to punish him would be your reward.

Grlwithboy -> RE: How Does One Disclipline a Dom? (12/27/2006 1:14:42 PM)
I think the fact that when I mess things up my slave is unhappy and doesn't function the way I was hoping he would is what keeps me in check. 9 times in 10, if something's not going along correctly it's the fault of the person running the show. So the results I get or don't get encourage me to be more disciplined. No passive aggression or paddling needed.

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: How Does One Disclipline a Dom? (12/27/2006 1:19:59 PM)
Many great doms will make use of their slave to help train them to something- to perhaps remind them to take their medicine, to perhaps motivate them to get out of bed on time for a meeting, to perhaps help them study for a big exam coming up. Slaves can be excellent disciplinarians and the best doms I've known are always working to enhance themselves and recognize that using their slaves in this way can be great. I don't recommend a slave taking it upon themselves and deciding what and how to discipline their dom without discussing it seriously first. Doms aren't perfect, most doms need to learn a lot and certainly could use some more discipline- why not use the submissive for this purpose?

Mercnbeth -> RE: How Does One Disclipline a Dom? (12/27/2006 1:27:58 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: defiantbadgirl If you request stars for reinforcing good behavior, collect those stars, and use your reward to punish your dom for his own mistakes, you shouldn't have to worry about any repercussions. After all, you having a chance to punish him would be your reward. Does he collect 'stars' from you when he behaves properly too or after a particulary satisfying, for you of course, session?

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