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lofa -> RE: Empty profiles: What does it tell you about a person? (12/27/2006 10:18:59 AM)

absolutley



catize -> RE: Empty profiles: What does it tell you about a person? (12/27/2006 10:20:02 AM)

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 Empty profiles, just what does it tell you about a person?  


It obviously tells you nothing about the person.  Mine is empty, and I'm not going to get all fussed about what others might assume about me from that. 



hammernhoney -> RE: Empty profiles: What does it tell you about a person? (12/27/2006 10:26:09 AM)

I like to keep my profile brief and to the pointand even then we get a lot of cyber request ir.BOUNTY



lofa -> RE: Empty profiles: What does it tell you about a person? (12/27/2006 10:26:47 AM)

TESTING::: how do these things advance? do I have to move around to see anything new or does it just pop up?



lofa -> RE: Empty profiles: What does it tell you about a person? (12/27/2006 10:31:05 AM)

the post count goes up each time anyhow. HMMMMMMMMM



Caitriona -> RE: Empty profiles: What does it tell you about a person? (12/27/2006 10:31:27 AM)

I assume (dangerous ground, I know) that if someone has not filled out their profile that they are not seeking anyone - ie, not using CM as a personals site - or they are just here for the forums.  That's totally fine with me; to each their own.



akisha -> RE: Empty profiles: What does it tell you about a person? (12/27/2006 11:12:46 AM)

Well I normally wouldn't respond to a empty profile, but I must say when you are strongly compelled to do so for some reason, go with it [:D]

I couldn't be happier that I did it when my gut kept saying... " Just say hi"



MaryT -> RE: Empty profiles: What does it tell you about a person? (12/27/2006 11:19:42 AM)

Cool, Akisha.  Gut feelings work better, I think.

The profiles are of limited value.  I'd like to do a count on doms profiles where every single thing is marked "expert."  A guy like that must be nearly worn out, one would think.  [;)]



angharad -> RE: Empty profiles: What does it tell you about a person? (12/27/2006 11:42:58 AM)

I actually find it very hard to say something about myself, that actually reveals enough about what makes me, me without feeling it violates my privacy. 



subsa -> RE: Empty profiles: What does it tell you about a person? (12/27/2006 11:50:35 AM)

i'm one of those 'no profile' people.    my reason is simple...it cuts down on the e-mails i get from doms.  i'm in a ltr (25 years); i come here for the forums...to learn about the lifestyle from as many different perspectives as possible.  i do feel that if someone makes the effort to contact me, is polite etc...that they deserve a response (which says i'm in a ltr and only interested in friendship).  this website is not only for those 'seeking'.  i've found it immensly helpful in my journey into the lifestyle. 



MysticFireTopaz -> RE: Empty profiles: What does it tell you about a person? (12/27/2006 11:59:07 AM)

That's interesting.  I have found that when My profile is temporarily blank (when I change it and all it says is "Pending Approval") is when I get the most replies.  My normal profile lists quite a few restrictions as to what I am NOT seeking.  When that verbiage is temporarily gone, all of the categories of people I state that I don't want to hear from come out of the woodwork and contact Me.  When the new version of My profile goes back up, the number of replies drops significantly.  There are still people who don't read profiles, though, and I get replies from these anyway. 
 
Lady Topaz



dodedo -> RE: Empty profiles: What does it tell you about a person? (12/27/2006 12:25:11 PM)

What does a blank profile TELL me?  Absolutely nothing.  I don't assume anything about blank profiles, but I'm certainly not going to send a message to someone who doesn't have anything in their profile.  If someone sends me a message, and I look at their profile and it's blank, I have to judge their message a lot more.  Everything they want me to know about them has to be in that message... having a blank profile doesn't mean I won't respond, but I'll definitely take everything they say with a grain of salt.  It makes me suspicious that they might be changing their preferences and such to match mine, to try to hook up with me.  If they were sure of what they wanted, wouldn't they have written it down?



NaiveTempest -> RE: Empty profiles: What does it tell you about a person? (12/27/2006 1:08:18 PM)

I have to agree with Susan. Every Dom who has contacted me and didn't have a profile, generally was looking of a little action it seemed to me. Especially when they sent one or two line emails. What's there to spark my interest? A profile is an introduce of sorts, it doesn't have to be your life story. It just gives the person you express interest in, or might be interested in you, a little something to go off. And I do believe that they help weed out people with different interest/desires.  If a person really wants to know you though, they'll ignore it (or parts of it) anyway, lol.



NaiveTempest -> RE: Empty profiles: What does it tell you about a person? (12/27/2006 1:15:45 PM)

Damn, just when I think I may be beginning to understand you, you stump me again! lmao



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Empty profiles: What does it tell you about a person? (12/27/2006 1:17:39 PM)

I think it means that they have nothing they wish to share with anyone who may care to look them up, and understand that it means they won't get much attention either which way.

It's a profile, we get to do whatever we want with it.  I never understand why people feel its necessary to write critiques on other peoples profiles.  We all know profiles say things about us- what we put in and what we do not and how it is put there.  Read it- either you like it or you don't.



SweetSarijane -> RE: Empty profiles: What does it tell you about a person? (12/27/2006 1:38:48 PM)

An empty profile is just that no more, no less. That said, when I get emails on CM, I check the sender's profile before I reply. What is said in the email is weighed along with the profile to decide whether they are a troll, etc. to ignore, or a potential new friend. I've gotten messages before from a few with basically empty profiles that I answered based on their email to me and 2 have become great friends. You just never know how it might go.



julietsierra -> RE: Empty profiles: What does it tell you about a person? (12/27/2006 1:42:47 PM)

Hi. I'm juliet (but then, you can tell that about me just by looking at who posted this.

I'm an empty profiler.

I like it that way.

I have had profiles in the past on other sites and in virtually every single sentence of that profile, I've said that I am collared, happy, happily collared, collared and not looking, not looking cause I'm collared (you get my drift I think)... and STILL people contact me to find out if I'm available. I especially like the e-mails that say they read my profile and couldn't tell if I was collared or not, so might I be interested in them?

I only go to those sites for their forums.

So, then I found Collarme.com...and wow! it too had a forum. So, I opened a profile. However, by that time, I was collared and sure didn't want my Master to think I was looking for someone else or new in my life. So, instead of filling out all the particulars, I left it blank. I thought that even though I like conversing with people, maybe, just maybe, those who were searching would be so uninterested that they wouldn't be contacting me to see if I was interested in them.

But guess what. I was WRONG!

I've had many people contact me. Once I had someone from around here - that I actually KNOW - who knows my Master, contact me, not once, but TWICE to see if I was interested. (we'd had a little "misunderstanding" once before in person while my Master was sitting right there in front of him, so this wasn't an isolated incident.) I simply wished him well and told him that I'd  pass on his continued interest in me to my Master So far, he's not contacted me again.  The other fun e-mails I am especially fond of are the ones that tell me how interesting they found my profile and that perhaps I could read theirs and maybe we could hook up.

So... I'm an empty profiler. Some day - I hope never - that may change. But until then, whoever has issues with empty profiles will just have to grab on to something solid and just deal.

I'm going to continue to be an empty profiler.

Unless of course, I'm told otherwise by the boss around here.

juliet



Squeakers -> RE: Empty profiles: What does it tell you about a person? (12/27/2006 2:30:48 PM)

My profile is empty because I am not seeking.   It does help cut down on emails but not completely.   I suppose I could write---ATTACHED in my profile and nothing more but I doubt that is going to make any difference.  



RedSavageSlave -> RE: Empty profiles: What does it tell you about a person? (12/27/2006 2:54:50 PM)

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ORIGINAL: LeatherLord2003

I am not saying write a life history or autobiogrpahy, but at least put out some sort of effort that says hello, I am a human. I know some of you will say that you just come to look around and are not really looking for anyone, and that is fine, but why not put it in your profile? 
 


An empty profile says nothing to me.

Someone telling me what I should or should not put in a profile says more..

but thats just an observation [8|]



jhealey74 -> RE: Empty profiles: What does it tell you about a person? (12/27/2006 9:41:00 PM)

Each person can add as little or as much as they like in my opinion. As has already been said, each person's profile is his/hers to complete as he/she desires.

I am a person who has sent e-mails to empty profilers - the empty profile tells me nothing. I do believe, however, that I would be much less likely to get a response to my initial e-mail if I, too, had an empty profile.(funny how that works)

One of the previous posts surfaced the idea that a profile that was blank except for the word "Collared" or something similar might cut down the traffic, but HNGs are a stubborn and ignorant lot (they're kind if like flies around your picnic in that regard).

Cheers




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