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RE: Empty profiles: What does it tell you about a person? - 12/27/2006 10:57:47 PM   
kittensangel


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Status: offline 		Just for a diffent view on this, if you don't mine. While i am not a fan empty profiles, i can see only couple reasons for having it. One is as many have said they are lazy, two they are not sure what to write without sounding like every generic one their, but the most important one for me at least is theri are personal issues for it. If yall look my profile is empty, but then i also had diffent profile up under a differnt name before my family gave me hell for having it and told me that i could rune my life. So i deactivated taht one and made this one. Which is why nothign is written is in. Because i can't repost what has in my last one despite how much i loved it, and with all tension taht was going on keeping the old one up was just not worth the fight.

Please know that when i contacted people i would make sure and put what other profile said in their, so that they could read, adn just stated for personal reasons i was unable to post anyting in the profile section, much like people who can not post pictures for reasons of job security.

I am not saying that yall message is wrong but please understand taht not everyone who has blank profile might be lazy, but when it comes to dealing wiht peopel who have blank profile i tend to aks more questions before i am willing to move off of collarme messages.

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RE: Empty profiles: What does it tell you about a person? - 12/28/2006 3:20:02 AM   
eyesopened


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Status: offline 		i'm also under the impression that a blank profile is someone who is not currently seeking, although i would agree that writing three words "not currently seeking" should not be difficult.  But i don't let it bother me unless i get an email from SirBlank that invites me to respond if interested.  Then i have to ask myself "interested in what??"  

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RE: Empty profiles: What does it tell you about a person? - 12/28/2006 5:52:43 AM   
agirl


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Status: offline 		I'm a *blank profiler*......though I have a picture on it. I didn't write anything on it deliberately. I only use CM for the forums and I don't care to write about myself in that particular way. So I don't.

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RE: Empty profiles: What does it tell you about a person? - 12/28/2006 5:59:39 AM   
katie7


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Status: offline 		Im here for the forums, but I have a decent profile.I think

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RE: Empty profiles: What does it tell you about a person? - 12/28/2006 6:05:13 AM   
Aileen68


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Status: offline 		Whenever I'm contacted by someone who doesn't have anything written in their profile, I'll ask them why it's blank.  Usually their reply is to ask them anything that I'd like to know and they'll answer it.  I then remind them that it wasn't me that contacted them in the first place. 

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RE: Empty profiles: What does it tell you about a person? - 12/28/2006 6:11:12 AM   
letmecollaryou


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Status: offline 		It is only after reading a profile one decides to intiate or not.It saves lot of time.Once you read the interests and requirement of the person,you decide to intiate or not.This means intial email is written only after one feels certain similarties and mutual interests.For me in the begining written words are more important then the picture.I think there is every room for a little compromise with physical appearance but no room for any compromise with your interests and requirements.People with blank profiles must be getting lot of unwanted mail comparing to people who describe themselves in their profiles.Writing profile is protection against unwanted mail bombing.It is so simple.Still i would like to hear the logic from someone with blank profile.May be i may change my mind!!!

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RE: Empty profiles: What does it tell you about a person? - 12/28/2006 6:50:47 AM   
agirl


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quote:

ORIGINAL: letmecollaryou

It is only after reading a profile one decides to intiate or not.It saves lot of time.Once you read the interests and requirement of the person,you decide to intiate or not.This means intial email is written only after one feels certain similarties and mutual interests.For me in the begining written words are more important then the picture.I think there is every room for a little compromise with physical appearance but no room for any compromise with your interests and requirements.People with blank profiles must be getting lot of unwanted mail comparing to people who describe themselves in their profiles.Writing profile is protection against unwanted mail bombing.It is so simple.Still i would like to hear the logic from someone with blank profile.May be i may change my mind!!!


There is no particular logic behind it. I don't want to write anything and don't. It's a desire/choice.

I'm not at all bothered by mail of any sort, wanted or not. Many people get *unwanted mail* despite having written prolifically and clearly that they don't wish for it. I haven't ever had a *horrid* mail from anyone. Not once. In fact I get quite a lot of nice, interesting messages. I don't think expressing any more about myself would change a great deal. If I don't want to read mail, I don't read it. That seems simple to me.

I have the *friends only* selection ticked.....that pretty much says it all.  I don't feel any need to explain further.

agirl

Edited to add.....Logic has it's place......so does doing what I want to....JUST because I want to.


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RE: Empty profiles: What does it tell you about a person? - 12/28/2006 7:04:36 AM   
MoonGoddessIsis


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Status: offline 		I personally don't initate a conversation with someone who has no profile.  If someone writes Me who does not have one filled out I have to ask them a million questions.

Of course I don't think that a profile says everything about someone but it does help at least help to see if you are both on the same wave length.

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RE: Empty profiles: What does it tell you about a person? - 12/28/2006 7:10:13 AM   
ADomlesssub


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Status: offline 		personally i am always suspicious of anyone who doesn't have or can't be bothered to tap out a few words about themselves... also the ones that start out with - i don't really know what to write here.... Pah!!

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ORIGINAL: LeatherLord2003

Empty profiles, just what does it tell you about a person?
 
It may be just me and the way I see things in life, but I would think that if you came to a site looking to meet someone who might possibly be the one you want to spend the rest of your life with, wouldn't you want to leave some kind of impression or statement about yourself?
 
I am not saying write a life history or autobiogrpahy, but at least put out some sort of effort that says hello, I am a human. I know some of you will say that you just come to look around and are not really looking for anyone, and that is fine, but why not put it in your profile?
 
Some of my best friends are not looking for anyone or anything, but we have some stimulating conversations and can bounce things off of one another. And I am one for to each their own, but it does make me wonder.. why?
 
Please share your thoughts....

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RE: Empty profiles: What does it tell you about a person? - 12/28/2006 7:11:27 AM   
ADomlesssub


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congrats!!

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quote:

ORIGINAL: katie7

Im here for the forums, but I have a decent profile.I think

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RE: Empty profiles: What does it tell you about a person? - 12/28/2006 9:14:17 AM   
deviantbitch916


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Status: offline 		I've had profiles where I had bare minimum "looking for friends only" to profiles that were pretty detailed. Problem is that I am finding men on this site and many others don't know how to read or don't have the attention span to read. Even if I put "looking for friends only" or if i check that I am only seeking females, men will contact me anyway and say something completely ridiculous and then ask me for a picture so they can decide if they are really really really interested in me. Even when all it has is my basic info they will say "intersting profile". So I go about my business ignoring the idiots.

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RE: Empty profiles: What does it tell you about a person? - 12/28/2006 10:29:41 AM   
littlesarbonn


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Status: offline 		My philosophical response: Empty profiles tell me more about a person than I care to know.

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RE: Empty profiles: What does it tell you about a person? - 12/28/2006 9:32:15 PM   
letmecollaryou


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Status: offline 		Amazing ! I can never read an empty profile! how dull i am? I always look at facts as facts look at me.I read empty as empty.

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RE: Empty profiles: What does it tell you about a person? - 12/29/2006 2:51:22 AM   
ditz


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Status: offline 		i have to agree with MaryT, my profile has the bare minimum in it, and to those that didn't like that, i'm sorry... but... in my experience, all it leads to is a guy reading it, seeing i'm interested in "A" and then PMin me alllllllllll about "A".... no one can pull at strings unless one leaves strings there to pull at!
Leaving someone who PMs me, having to come up with something original, which intrigues me...then, they'll have my full attention! *smiles*

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RE: Empty profiles: What does it tell you about a person? - 12/29/2006 3:09:57 AM   
leakylee


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Status: offline 		A blank profile saves alot of people a great deal of time if you truly think about it. How many of us complain about the amount of idiot mail that we tend to get from people that fail to read what is in our profiles? So if the profile is blank I am sure it saves them eye strain if nothing else..

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RE: Empty profiles: What does it tell you about a person? - 12/29/2006 3:40:08 AM   
dawntreader


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MaryT

quote:

ORIGINAL: LeatherLord2003

Empty profiles, just what does it tell you about a person?


Nothing, so when I'm asking what he likes, he has nothing to go by but what he actually likes.  That gives me the opportunity to judge whether or not we are compatible without having to wade through stuff he may be saying only to please me.   

MaryT



This is exactly why mine was/is blank as well. Although i did check interests...

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RE: Empty profiles: What does it tell you about a person? - 12/29/2006 4:31:36 AM   
LadyMorgynn


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quote:

ORIGINAL: littlesarbonn
My philosophical response: Empty profiles tell me more about a person than I care to know.


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RE: Empty profiles: What does it tell you about a person? - 12/29/2006 7:20:07 AM   
TexasMaam


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Status: offline 		Empty profiles tell Me that for whatever reason the person doesn't want to engage with others here.  I have empty profiles at sites where I like to browse and read but not waste people's time w emails or introductions I'm not interested in.

When I'm contacted by someone w/a blank profile I just delete/block them and don't take them seriously.

Then, of course, there are the meticulously created profiles that are completely bogus anyway, that turn out to be someone's idea of either a big joke or a hacker's attempt to send malware via some shared file.

; )

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RE: Empty profiles: What does it tell you about a person? - 12/29/2006 9:04:08 AM   
slavemaia


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

What does it say to me? Empty head.

ROTFLMAO - i never responded to anyone who didn't take the time to provide any information about Himself. If i want to relate to a blank page, i have plenty of paper here thank you.

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RE: Empty profiles: What does it tell you about a person? - 12/29/2006 9:13:10 AM   
pinkkeith


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MaryT

quote:

ORIGINAL: LeatherLord2003

Empty profiles, just what does it tell you about a person?


Nothing, so when I'm asking what he likes, he has nothing to go by but what he actually likes.  That gives me the opportunity to judge whether or not we are compatible without having to wade through stuff he may be saying only to please me.   

MaryT



That is a very interesting philosophy. Yet, if everyone had empty profiles I don't think it would work out too well. One would have to talk to everyone in order to know more about the person rather then just reading their profile.

When I first joined CM not long ago and my profile was still pending I read one profile who was fairly close to me. Her profile was so much like mine that it was stunning, so I sent her a message, but she never replied to me. I was guessing that she didn't because my profile wasn't up, so I tried again later, but still no reply. I was thinking that maybe it seemed to her that I just copied what she said in her profile. So, I can't win or lose with that one! Yet, I'm just grasping at straws trying to understand why I didn't get a reply since she never told me anything at all.

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