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RE: Empty profiles: What does it tell you about a person? - 12/29/2006 11:21:52 AM   
dawntreader


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Status: offline 		And then there are those of us that are required to deactivate out profiles once we commit to a Dominate/Master. my only concern with this is that while i am allowed to participate in the message boards,  others here will not take my posts or questions seriously because my profile is in "limbo" so to speak...

i would be interested in thoughts about that.

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RE: Empty profiles: What does it tell you about a person? - 12/29/2006 11:22:32 AM   
michaelOfGeorgia


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Status: offline 		i think people like that are hiding something

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RE: Empty profiles: What does it tell you about a person? - 12/29/2006 11:24:29 AM   
dawntreader


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quote:

ORIGINAL: michaelOfGeorgia

i think people like that are hiding something


i would think that myself...

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RE: Empty profiles: What does it tell you about a person? - 12/29/2006 11:40:04 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: dawntreader

And then there are those of us that are required to deactivate out profiles once we commit to a Dominate/Master. my only concern with this is that while i am allowed to participate in the message boards,  others here will not take my posts or questions seriously because my profile is in "limbo" so to speak...

i would be interested in thoughts about that.


Sounds like the dom is very insecure to me. There has to be some honesty and trust in the realtionship, and this is showing that there is no trust.

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RE: Empty profiles: What does it tell you about a person? - 12/29/2006 12:00:52 PM   
agirl


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Status: offline 		I don't think what you have to say carries any less weight or interest just because you don't have a *filled in, up the minute* profile.

Why did you have to de-activate your profile?

agirl



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RE: Empty profiles: What does it tell you about a person? - 12/29/2006 12:20:19 PM   
ursunshine


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Status: offline 		LuckyAlbatross, I agree with you. How ridiculous is it to make a blanket assumption that just b/c someone doesn't fill out a profile that they are "empty" or that it tells "a lot about a person" or that you think there is someting that you can tell about a person due to an empty profile. Maybe they really don't feel like talking right now but enjoy people watching and reading other peoples profiles. We are not all here for the same reason but putting someone down and assuming things about a person because they have a blank profile is a bit judgemental.

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RE: Empty profiles: What does it tell you about a person? - 12/29/2006 12:24:22 PM   
dawntreader


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quote:

ORIGINAL: agirl

I don't think what you have to say carries any less weight or interest just because you don't have a *filled in, up the minute* profile.

Why did you have to de-activate your profile?

agirl



to be honest, i have never asked! i just did it without questioning it until this particular thread came up. i don't even have a picture of myself on it... i probably should talk with Him about this.

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RE: Empty profiles: What does it tell you about a person? - 12/29/2006 12:31:59 PM   
Missokyst


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Status: offline 		Hiding something?  Considering how many people have a profile here that lists them as an expert at everything imaginable, I MUCH prefer to chat with them if I am so interested, and ask them directly.  I don't want to read a checklist of kink, and I sure don't want to have one listed.  It may be thought of as hiding something but really.. I wouldn't want to meet anyone who dismissed me as a person simply because I didn't want to stick up a profile.
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quote:

ORIGINAL: michaelOfGeorgia

i think people like that are hiding something


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RE: Empty profiles: What does it tell you about a person? - 12/29/2006 12:40:19 PM   
LadySeraphina


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Status: offline 		I will chat with anyone, but I have to admit that if you're actively seeking a partner, you're going to be much more successful with a profile that has at least a sentence or two. If you are only seeking friends and hanging on the boards, who cares what your profile says. And honestly, if you feel a profile isn't the best way to get to know you, surely you could put "I don't think profiles are the best way to get to know a person, feel free to send me a message." on your profile. Or not - it's a free world (sort of, partially, and only if you squint.)

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RE: Empty profiles: What does it tell you about a person? - 12/29/2006 12:52:10 PM   
allalone47


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Status: offline 		A blank profile is one that is of someone tht is not relaly seeking or real, As for not haveing a pic some of use can't get one on this site. Though on profiles that say pending there is something that has not been oked by this site.

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RE: Empty profiles: What does it tell you about a person? - 12/29/2006 12:59:03 PM   
stef


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quote:

ORIGINAL: ursunshine

LuckyAlbatross, I agree with you. How ridiculous is it to make a blanket assumption that just b/c someone doesn't fill out a profile that they are "empty" or that it tells "a lot about a person" or that you think there is someting that you can tell about a person due to an empty profile.

The only thing you can tell about a user who hasn't filled out their profile is... that they haven't filled out their profile.  If someone thinks they can deduce more than that, they should become the new "Miss Cleo." 

~stef

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RE: Empty profiles: What does it tell you about a person? - 12/29/2006 1:01:33 PM   
agirl


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quote:

ORIGINAL: dawntreader

quote:

ORIGINAL: agirl

I don't think what you have to say carries any less weight or interest just because you don't have a *filled in, up the minute* profile.

Why did you have to de-activate your profile?

agirl



to be honest, i have never asked! i just did it without questioning it until this particular thread came up. i don't even have a picture of myself on it... i probably should talk with Him about this.


I understand. I was only curious.

agirl



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RE: Empty profiles: What does it tell you about a person? - 12/29/2006 1:05:24 PM   
pinkkeith


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quote:

ORIGINAL: stef

If someone thinks they can deduce more than that, they should become the new "Miss Cleo." 



On a side note, I never knew that Miss Cleo is a lesbian. I subscribe to The Advocate but I never get around to actually reading the articles. 

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RE: Empty profiles: What does it tell you about a person? - 12/29/2006 1:40:08 PM   
stef


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Status: offline 		She might be as much of a lesbian as she is a psychic.  Some people will say anything to stay in the public eye.

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RE: Empty profiles: What does it tell you about a person? - 12/29/2006 2:43:03 PM   
classykindasassy


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Status: offline 		Not a damn thing. Lazy. Nobody's home. or, maybe they just want to be on message board.

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RE: Empty profiles: What does it tell you about a person? - 12/29/2006 2:53:54 PM   
Kyrand


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Status: offline 		One of the most wonderful things, as well as one of the saddest things, about we humans is that we are alone within our minds.  Our feelings, thoughts, dreams, hopes and nightmares are ours and ours alone.  A person can choose to throw open the windows of their soul, allowing others to gaze into the essence of who they are but more often we give little peeks instead.  We shutter away the embarrassing truths even from ourselves, preferring to present facades’ based on our own perception of who we are or more often who we prefer to be.   

We walk through our lives in the midst of a social maelstrom while retaining the ability to participate or not as suits our mood from moment to moment.  This is not, in and of itself, a bad thing.  As a separate being we are unable to truly merge with another, and in so doing allow that person to fully understand who we are.  Misunderstandings are rampant in the simplest conversations, our ability to communicate what we think and feel  often resemble a baby’s first attempt at speech rather than coherent conversation.  So instead we nibble at the edges, thrusting out our opinions and perceived expertise in an attempt to connect in some way, good or bad. 

One could say that a profile creates one type of attempted connection with a social community.  The lack of content in that profile does not indicate a corresponding lack of depth or intent but only that the person has chosen another path in their attempts to connect with the social community in question.

As with any social community, those participating in it range across the spectrum from good to bad with all shades of gray between.  Speculation is pointless and yet also inescapable, people will be the emotional, irrational animals we were born to be.  One can only hope that over time we learn to base opinions upon experience and action instead of assumption, gossip and rumor. 

Goodness, could I sound any more pretentious ?  Apologies *smile*

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RE: Empty profiles: What does it tell you about a person? - 12/29/2006 3:05:48 PM   
sophia37


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Status: offline 		empty profiles? Im presuming that I have an empty profile if I've signed up only for the chat board. So what does it mean? It means Im here to read what the threads say. Im not here at the moment to find a partener. 

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RE: Empty profiles: What does it tell you about a person? - 12/29/2006 3:06:43 PM   
BeautifulRacket


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Status: offline 		When someone contacts me expressing an interest in a relationship, but they have a blank/very sparse profile, I get the impression they're not serious about finding the right person, are perhaps not open, or maybe are a poor communicator (mostly when their message to me reflects this as well). Because I'm looking for someone who's invested, open and an excellent communicator, I put less stock in those with blank profiles.

Very short messages combined with little info on the profile makes it difficult for me to strike up a conversation because I usually do that based on commonalities. Plus, I don't care to spend time on those I may not have anything in common with.

In short, it hurts someone's chance to get more consideration from me. There are plenty of people who take care to communicate in messages AND their profiles, and those are the folks I'm more likely to invest time in getting to know better.

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RE: Empty profiles: What does it tell you about a person? - 12/29/2006 3:35:23 PM   
Tikkiee


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Status: offline 		Personally, an empty profile to me means alot of things like:
 
they may not have the time to fill it in
they may not be searching
they may perfer that a person actually write and strike up a decent conversation outside of the usual 'so, what kind of fantasy did you have today?"

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RE: Empty profiles: What does it tell you about a person? - 12/29/2006 3:39:22 PM   
dawntreader


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Kyrand


Goodness, could I sound any more pretentious ?  Apologies *smile*


Well, i would have said "deep"...

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