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what in the world is financial humiliation? - 12/29/2006 6:58:07 PM   
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RE: what in the world is financial humiliation? - 12/29/2006 7:40:30 PM   
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Have seen this several times... what is it?


(It's when you pay money to get your rocks off).

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RE: what in the world is financial humiliation? - 12/29/2006 7:41:47 PM   
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Status: offline 		Hi, and welcome to the forums.  You probably don't realize it, but this question alone is enough to start an avalanche of bickering.

In a nutshell, it's the practice where a submissive voluntarily gives complete control of their finances to the dominant.  It could be subtle, such as the submissive being required to ask permission to buy anything for personal use (a new shirt, television, movie tickets.)  It could be overt - the submissive signing elaborate financial documents giving the dominant complete financial control over their entire life, from rent to property to savings to IRA - everything.

The most common form we see online is typically a woman who 'specializes' in Financial Domination.  It's on par with a web-cam girl setup:  the submissive is expected to make financial purchases to be delivered, or direct cash or credit card (usually through paypal) transfers.  In exchange, the girl will often take a photo of herself wearing her new $800 outfit, or send a pair of panties (presumably hers) or some other evidence of her use of his money.  As you can imagine, the scenarios can vary widely, with varying degrees of 'respectability.' The most common character is that these exchanges exist almost exclusively in cyberspace. 

The fetish and practice is, obviously, legitimate.  However, women who 'specialize' and often dangle real life interaction (after X dollars have been gifted) are usually viewed with contempt.

Hope that helps.  Enjoy the Firestorm.

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RE: what in the world is financial humiliation? - 12/29/2006 7:44:51 PM   
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RE: what in the world is financial humiliation? - 12/29/2006 8:48:54 PM   
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      Isn't it when she orders the most expensive thing on the menu and you can't pay the bill?


And then SHE pulls out the gold card?   Seriously, I like that my sub pays his own bills and I find it cute that he wants to treat me from time to time and I do let him. BUT
I like to show him that when it comes to money, he just can't compete with me and even if he made more, somehow it would still look like I was supporting him...
Of course, if he wanted me to support him, he'd be looking for another domme..
Is that financial humiliation?

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RE: what in the world is financial humiliation? - 12/29/2006 8:51:12 PM   
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Have seen this several times... what is it?


I make all the money in our household and I am the femdom.  How is that for "financial humiliation"?  He doesn't get to have a job or earn any income!

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RE: what in the world is financial humiliation? - 12/29/2006 10:00:20 PM   
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      Isn't it when she orders the most expensive thing on the menu and you can't pay the bill?


LOL that's funny.  It will never happen with me since he orders for me. 

To the OP, I've heard of financial domination but not financial humiliation. I liked WyrdRich's answer, lol.

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RE: what in the world is financial humiliation? - 12/30/2006 1:11:16 AM   
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Status: offline 		I dont get how this is even considered bdsm. If it gets you off to hand over all your money to a woman, I am sure you can do that with even vanilla girls and they will be more than happy to spend your money.

If you have a fantasy of being forced to give money to someone...it needs to stay a fantasy. And any woman that accepts to do such a thing is putting herself in serious legal jeopardy. If the guy suddenly decides to change his mind, the law will be 100% on his side. You can be sued and even prosecuted for blackmail or extortion. There is no such thing as consensual blackmail.

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RE: what in the world is financial humiliation? - 12/30/2006 4:21:26 AM   
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I dont get how this is even considered bdsm.>>>>>

That's because it falls in the realm of Dominance and not BDSM. Part of my Ms is about financial domination. Every penny I earn, is handed over to Man. I have no say in how it is spent, or where. He provides for my needs and once in a blue moon my wants. In fact for Xmas he gave me a $100.00 wahooooooo watch out stores LOL, actually that money will probably still be there come next Xmas, it has been about 7.5 years since I have had money that was "my" own to spend, not sure what to do with it.
 
I suppose it is more acceptable for a woman to be the s in financial domination, however if you look at money/finances as power you quickly see where many men wish to submit in this manner. In a capitalist world money/finances is power.
 
Oh and before somebody brings it up, I am well provided for if anything should happen to Man, or the relationship. I am also very well trained and able to handle any and all finances/money if something happens and I need to take over, or I am on my own.
 
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RE: what in the world is financial humiliation? - 12/30/2006 4:26:12 AM   
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I dont get how this is even considered bdsm. If it gets you off to hand over all your money to a woman, I am sure you can do that with even vanilla girls and they will be more than happy to spend your money.

If you have a fantasy of being forced to give money to someone...it needs to stay a fantasy. And any woman that accepts to do such a thing is putting herself in serious legal jeopardy. If the guy suddenly decides to change his mind, the law will be 100% on his side. You can be sued and even prosecuted for blackmail or extortion. There is no such thing as consensual blackmail.


I sure don't see how that would be seen as blackbmail.  if a guy want to send his money to a girl who does nothing but sends a picture (not porn or nude even) it just a "fair" trade.. or if he wants "advice" from her on what to do, that is paying for information, we do that all the time.. 

But i think it is only fair to experiement and find out if that is ture or not.. SO.. in the interests of science.. Would all the men in the room please send me all of their money and i will e-mail back a picture of a nice looking adult woman, and instruction of what i want you to do. 

Thank you for your participation in this study.

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RE: what in the world is financial humiliation? - 12/30/2006 6:13:58 AM   
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Status: offline 		Would all the men in the room please send me all of their money and i will e-mail back a picture of a nice looking adult woman, and instruction of what i want you to do. 

Hahaha....OR send Me all of your money and Ill send you a pic of a better looking woman ;) lol

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RE: what in the world is financial humiliation? - 12/30/2006 6:36:18 AM   
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I dont get how this is even considered bdsm. If it gets you off to hand over all your money to a woman, I am sure you can do that with even vanilla girls and they will be more than happy to spend your money.

If you have a fantasy of being forced to give money to someone...it needs to stay a fantasy. And any woman that accepts to do such a thing is putting herself in serious legal jeopardy. If the guy suddenly decides to change his mind, the law will be 100% on his side. You can be sued and even prosecuted for blackmail or extortion. There is no such thing as consensual blackmail.


I sure don't see how that would be seen as blackbmail.  if a guy want to send his money to a girl who does nothing but sends a picture (not porn or nude even) it just a "fair" trade.. or if he wants "advice" from her on what to do, that is paying for information, we do that all the time.. 


Right, that wouldn't be blackmail because the person isn't being forced to give the money. In fact, a awfully lot of that goes on around the internet where there is an exchange of money for pictures. Ever heard of an internet model?

But some have a kink for actual blackmail. Either that or if the woman threatens him for money, then it starts to move into that illegal area. I've seen profiles on the net (not on collarme) that advertise such a thing. And that's dangerous. I've also seen profiles where a woman holds a key to a chastity device and claims that she wont give it back until she is given a lot of money. That's not legal either.

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RE: what in the world is financial humiliation? - 12/30/2006 10:47:03 PM   
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Status: offline 		I say to each his/Her own.  If I'm not interested in something someone offers I just say no thank you I am not into that and move on.  I sure don't let it bother me or keep me up at night thinking that they were weird or fake or anything else that I have read thru out some of these topics.  

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RE: what in the world is financial humiliation? - 12/30/2006 10:59:49 PM   
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ORIGINAL: tollboothjack

Have seen this several times... what is it?


I make all the money in our household and I am the femdom.  How is that for "financial humiliation"?  He doesn't get to have a job or earn any income!

Akasha



Hmmmmmmmmm.... would that then be termed "worker humiliation". We could end up with a whole new fetish

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RE: what in the world is financial humiliation? - 12/31/2006 8:53:57 AM   
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