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RE: What does it mean to be a "domme"? - 1/1/2007 9:14:20 PM   
poplolly


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ORIGINAL: LancasterMaleSub


Please do not lecture me on the meaning of a marriage.....

Per your profile you are the single mother of 4 children.
Where is the father????????

I am still a father to my children and we have a healthy dual parent homelife......


He's dead.  
 
I appaud the fact that you have an intact family.  That is difficult in this day and age.  But don't presume that having both parents in the house makes it a healthy homelife.  Sadly, it's not always the case. 
 
And it was a question, not a lecture.  I apologize if it came across that way. 
 

< Message edited by poplolly -- 1/1/2007 9:28:20 PM >

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RE: What does it mean to be a "domme"? - 1/2/2007 2:26:34 AM   
AlexAussieSub


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Status: offline 		Seriously, I can't believe LancasterMaleSub managed to get such a rise out of people. I thought his post had troll written all over it.

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RE: What does it mean to be a "domme"? - 1/2/2007 2:45:21 AM   
bandit25


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RE: What does it mean to be a "domme"? - 1/2/2007 10:35:51 AM   
poplolly


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Status: offline 		You are most probably correct.  However, flaming my family is completely unacceptable.  I hope he stops to think before he is so cavalier with his statements in future.

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~~ Marilyn Monroe.

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RE: What does it mean to be a "domme"? - 1/2/2007 11:16:12 AM   
LaTigresse


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ORIGINAL: LancasterMaleSub

Yes I now understand that my previous posting was too harsh and I hope you will all accept my apology.

As I mentioned I am new to the D/s lifestyle and still in the "looking around" stage. I have tried to get my wife into this but I have not been successful, partly because she is Amish I believe, so I am very frustrated. When I told her last month that I was thinking about become a slave she gave me that "deer in the headlights" look - and it was clear she had no idea what I was talking about. So I started looking on-line for more information and found this site. We have a marriage built upon difficult compromises due to our different background (Amish Background, City Background) (I can use electric appliances - she cannot, I can use the car - she cannot, etc, etc) so things are difficult enough as it is.

Also after spending more time on this site I am now considering becoming a Dominant Male (Master, God, Lord, etc) instead of a male slave since there appears to be more attractive submissive chicks than Dominant chicks. And I do understand that my view of what an attractive chick is an entirely subjective opinion - I am not trying to offend anyone. But slave chicks do appear to be hotter to me than Dominant chicks on average so I may take this route.

My concern is that the transition to becoming a Dominant God from an aspiring male slave may be a difficult one. If anyone has experience with this I would like to hear from you.


From the frying pan right into the fire.


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Just because you are well educated, articulate, and can use big, fancy words, properly........does not mean you are right!

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RE: What does it mean to be a "domme"? - 1/2/2007 1:01:16 PM   
kc692


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ORIGINAL: LancasterMaleSub

Yes I now understand that my previous posting was too harsh and I hope you will all accept my apology.

As I mentioned I am new to the D/s lifestyle and still in the "looking around" stage. I have tried to get my wife into this but I have not been successful, partly because she is Amish I believe, so I am very frustrated. When I told her last month that I was thinking about become a slave she gave me that "deer in the headlights" look - and it was clear she had no idea what I was talking about. So I started looking on-line for more information and found this site. We have a marriage built upon difficult compromises due to our different background (Amish Background, City Background) (I can use electric appliances - she cannot, I can use the car - she cannot, etc, etc) so things are difficult enough as it is.

Also after spending more time on this site I am now considering becoming a Dominant Male (Master, God, Lord, etc) instead of a male slave since there appears to be more attractive submissive chicks than Dominant chicks. And I do understand that my view of what an attractive chick is an entirely subjective opinion - I am not trying to offend anyone. But slave chicks do appear to be hotter to me than Dominant chicks on average so I may take this route.

My concern is that the transition to becoming a Dominant God from an aspiring male slave may be a difficult one. If anyone has experience with this I would like to hear from you.



Ohhhhhhhh, stop please with the jokes already!!! My sides hurt!!! (looks around for the "punked camera" Ohhhh I gotta catch my breath!!!!

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RE: What does it mean to be a "domme"? - 1/2/2007 1:11:15 PM   
LadyJulieAnn


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LancasterMaleSub

From my observations "Domme" appears to mean the following:
  1. Overweight (morbidly obese in many cases).
  2. Unpleasant personality with sociopathic tendancies.
  3. Divorced (multiple times in many cases).
  4. Emotionally needy.
  5. Insecure.
  6. Employed in a low paying menial job.


But then again I'm new here............


Perhaps expand your view a bit to include actual Dommes who are emotionally healthy and capable of being involved in fulfilling relationships.  Most of their profiles don't include pictures of leather clad women and profile text that includes "On your knees worm!  You mean nothing to me!".

Be well,
Julie

< Message edited by LadyJulieAnn -- 1/2/2007 1:16:47 PM >

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RE: What does it mean to be a "domme"? - 1/2/2007 2:00:58 PM   
DianeB269


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ORIGINAL: LancasterMaleSub

From my observations "Domme" appears to mean the following:
  1. Overweight (morbidly obese in many cases).
  2. Unpleasant personality with sociopathic tendancies.
  3. Divorced (multiple times in many cases).
  4. Emotionally needy.
  5. Insecure.
  6. Employed in a low paying menial job.


But then again I'm new here............



None of the above and good luck finding someone here now.
hahahaha


Diane

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RE: What does it mean to be a "domme"? - 1/2/2007 2:04:09 PM   
SlvrFox


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Status: offline 		I agree with Diane. I know many Dommes in my area. Most of them are well educated, have well paying jobs (no they are not ProDommes) and are very attractive......outside as well as inside.

K

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RE: What does it mean to be a "domme"? - 1/2/2007 2:11:52 PM   
DianeB269


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quote:

ORIGINAL: SlvrFox

I agree with Diane. I know many Dommes in my area. Most of them are well educated, have well paying jobs (no they are not ProDommes) and are very attractive......outside as well as inside.

K



I'm not that well educated but, I was making 40K a year in the 70's. I'm retired now.


Diane

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RE: What does it mean to be a "domme"? - 1/2/2007 3:21:56 PM   
devoT


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Status: offline 		Y'know, someone wanting to be a human toilet I can deal with... but someone wanting to marry an Amish girl and having a circuit breaker installed in her parent's house??? That has to be the weirdest, funniest kink I ever came across. Having had two marriages myself, both of whom happened to be to girls where I had to cross some cultural boundaries, I can perfectly understand that someone might have to keep their parents happy by doing something one wouldn't normally go out of their way to do... but this??? Women (ANY women) must be in really short supply in your neck of the woods... I'm still laughing....

And if I appear to be flippant, it's simply because I don't believe a word of it...

My advice, LMS, is to:
1) Join the Amish
2) buy (or better yet, make) a good sturdy birch cane
3) Give it to your wife, with humble requsts as to how often she should beat you with it
4) get your new Amish friends to help you build some stocks, for you to be locked into in the village square, ready for the above whipping.

Then maybe you'll find out the true answer to the OP's question.

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RE: What does it mean to be a "domme"? - 1/2/2007 8:17:46 PM   
kc692


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Status: offline 		**Looks to see how many people the troll got up in arms** Well, we all seem to be still content from New Year's, Lancaster, sorry you didn't get as many thrills as you probably sought hoping dommes would fall all over themselves to respond to lil ole you.,.......

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Anyone can overpower; not many can INSPIRE.....

This is only MY opinion. If it's not yours, let's agree in advance to agree to disagree, OR, you can just get the fuck over what I had to say:)

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RE: What does it mean to be a "domme"? - 1/3/2007 4:05:47 AM   
TigressOfDs


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LancasterMaleSub

I am now considering becoming a Dominant Male (Master, God, Lord, etc) instead of a male slave since there appears to be more attractive submissive chicks than Dominant chicks. And I do understand that my view of what an attractive chick is an entirely subjective opinion - I am not trying to offend anyone. But slave chicks do appear to be hotter to me than Dominant chicks on average so I may take this route.

My concern is that the transition to becoming a Dominant God from an aspiring male slave may be a difficult one. If anyone has experience with this I would like to hear from you.


Of course this is just MY opinion, based on lack of sleep and to much coffee ..,. BUT   I agree you need to make a transition . The rest of my post I decided to edit and delete , leaving only this;    I hope your wife does become your dominant, and takes your computer away... for your own sake.

Ms.Kat

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RE: What does it mean to be a "domme"? - 1/3/2007 9:06:44 AM   
pinkkeith


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LancasterMaleSub
Also after spending more time on this site I am now considering becoming a Dominant Male (Master, God, Lord, etc) instead of a male slave since there appears to be more attractive submissive chicks than Dominant chicks.


Although I thought this entire post was shocking, this perhaps was the most shocking part to me. I'm not a switch at all, but I don't think that people who can switch do so based on the perceived comeliness and BDSM orientation of someone.  

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RE: What does it mean to be a "domme"? - 1/3/2007 2:27:07 PM   
kc692


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Status: offline 		It's not whether someone can or not, he's trying to push dominant buttons, I think, and raise a little ire......

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Anyone can overpower; not many can INSPIRE.....

This is only MY opinion. If it's not yours, let's agree in advance to agree to disagree, OR, you can just get the fuck over what I had to say:)

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RE: What does it mean to be a "domme"? - 1/3/2007 6:53:36 PM   
LancasterMaleSub


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Status: offline 		Dear DevoT,

I feel completed to respond to your post.

The circuit breaker was not placed in the home of my wife's parents as a "kink" but it was placed there as a compromise to keep my wife in good graces with the Amish community and to also keep our marriage intact.

All temptation my wife feels to use modern household appliances to clean and cook are removed via use of this circuit breaker and I believe the circuit breaker, with her parents diligent use of it, have frankly save her from being shunned from the Amish community.

As a result of my profession I have an in-depth knowledge of how the female mind functions. I know that my wife would eventually blame me, and our marriage, for her being shunned through her use of modern appliances. I also have no doubt that her misplaced blame on me for this would have threatened our marriage. The bottom line - I believe the circuit breaker saved my marriage.

Things are certainly not perfect in our marriage since it posses a continual clashing of worlds. For example, I drive a BMW 7 Series and a Porsche 911 and my wife has never even sat in either car. One bay of our three-car garage is occupied by a horse carriage, which is my wife's only mode of transporation. This may seem unconventional to you and others - but it has worked for us.

< Message edited by LancasterMaleSub -- 1/3/2007 6:56:54 PM >

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RE: What does it mean to be a "domme"? - 1/3/2007 7:05:32 PM   
LancasterMaleSub


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Status: offline 		Dear Ms Kat,

Respectfully......

My problem is that my Amish wife has no idea of what I am talking about when I tell her that I am very interested in become a slave. As I wrote in a previous message; I get that "deer in the headlights" look from her when I bring the subject up.

To clarify - I am not seeking to become my wife's slave. Or if I should choose to become a Dominant God instead I am not seeking my wife to become my slave. She is simply not "D/s aware" for lack of a better term.

My plan is to find either a hot Dominant woman or a hot Slave woman depending of course on which role I decide to take (slave or Dominant God). This is not a sex issue but it is a Power Exchange so I am not concerned with what I seek as being a violation of my marriage vows.

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RE: What does it mean to be a "domme"? - 1/3/2007 7:06:32 PM   
DiamondDiva


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From: North Carolina
Status: offline 		You know, when you first posted the original question was "What Is A Domme?" and you had a preconceived definition about what you felt a Domme was.  Then you insulted every Female Dominant on the site, you have made statements that were way out of control to the point of being hilarious to some and now you are having to defend your marriage.  My question here is 1.  What is the real reason for your being on this site, looking at your avatar area you are new..vanilla in fact. 2.  What is it that you would like to accomplish because it just doesn't seem like anything productive is coming out of this dialogue and you can't possibly be satisfied.

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" When someone is telling you who they are LET THEM!!!


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RE: What does it mean to be a "domme"? - 1/3/2007 7:18:42 PM   
LancasterMaleSub


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Status: offline 		As I believe I have mentioned before.........

I am in a transition period. I am going through a process of deciding to become either a slave or a Dominant God. Not both, not a slave one day when it suits me and not a Dominant God another day when it suits me. I am not one of the switchers - I do not know how that is possible. I consider myself the "real deal" - it is just a matter of deciding which role I want to take on.

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RE: What does it mean to be a "domme"? - 1/4/2007 9:16:01 PM   
kc692


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Status: offline 		Oh please be sure to tell us when you decide which role you prefer, after all, it is as easy as flipping  a coin, and then you have an answer

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Anyone can overpower; not many can INSPIRE.....

This is only MY opinion. If it's not yours, let's agree in advance to agree to disagree, OR, you can just get the fuck over what I had to say:)

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