cynthiamarie -> RE: Sissy Maid Poll #1 (3/30/2005 7:35:04 PM)
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Bwahahahahaha......oh, Sissy! i just love reading your "epic posts"!!!! You have been such a fount of information for me and i really appreciate it. Thanks for making all of us think, too. i voted for the first option. i'm new and a sub...but!...someone i really like to chat with has this as his secret fantasy. Nobody's going to bonk me on the head and call me shallow or a player, are they? Because i've been topping him...*smirk* i was only trying to understand what it would like to be on the other side of the fence, and when He choked on something i said and blushed, i couldn't help it. It's not sexually arousing to me yet, but there's something very satisfying and safe about being the one in control and making His fantasies come alive, and giving Him some new ones. It's very enjoyable to drive him to the brink and make Him stop, and torment Him a little. At first i couldn't really "get" the fantasy of it, but i enjoy stealing Superman's cape...especially if he's still a Dom with everyone else and i'm the only one who KNOWS that subbie part of Him. (Don't hurt me, lol, i'm not toying with a teenybopper, it's a Dom who's been into this lifestyle for more than 10 years...and i'm starting to hook into his fantasy myself. i'm the only one who has topped Him. *smiles*) In vanilla life, i had carte blanche most of the time; i enjoyed dragging things out for hours and doing some orgasm control...that has always been satisfying to me. The concept of having so much power over a man that He could actually stay sexually faithful to me is....very sexy. i couln't imagine ever making Him wear His chastity device for periods of time longer than...when i saw that an attitude adjustment had taken place. Or when it wasn't doing something to enhance what he needed to feel emotionally. Some slight taunting/teasing so He could feel my power over Him....*grins*...i like it. But only with Him; i haven't met anyone else i've enjoyed this kind of play with. quote:
what exactly turns Her on about the concept of controlling the erections and releases of the male submissive(s) in Her life. The ultimate turn-on for me...doing the impossible...making a man find it impossible to cheat on me or treat me with disrespect, and be totally MINE. It's much better if He fought it at first, so i'd know that His commitment to me was difficult to make and not just freely given out to some different woman every few months. quote:
So many Dominant Females claim that They like Their sub males manly (rather than feminized) ... yet how manly is a totally meek and docile male ? Does body hair and clothes constitute real masculinity in Their mind, or male attitude ? Personally, sissy would have thought an independently-minded but sometimes unruly maid (that is responsive to punishments such as spankings, etc.) would be more of a control challenge than a castrated doormat for such Dommes. Surely, the more power that a male has to have taken away from him in a TPE D/s relationship, the more of a turn-on it is for the Domme taking that power from him. But, hey, what does sissy know about these things ? Sissy, you have given me so much to think about that i can barely talk or think. (i'm blonde, so yes...i meant to say that in that order, lol.) i'm so very new to this lifestyle and i don't know what i'll be next year because i'm changing so much. i've had panic attacks and PTSD for almost my entire 40 years and feeling secure/safe/relaxed/trusting around Dominants is a totally new concept for me...but when He acts that way with me, giving me all the control, i can't fear Him and i'm learning that He's to be trusted. i love male body hair, the difference in textures (i'm a Taurus, lol) and the fact that He's big enough to protect me if i require it...my own bodyguard. The power can be given away without altering appearances any, so i separate those. Maybe that's just my excuse for admitting to some shallowness. Take my feelings with a grain of salt, because this is only happening over the internet and not in person; this whole thing has made me think about things as i've never had to before. It's hard to learn what you want and need, and try to do the same for your sub. i've had sissies as my friends before but they were all gay. We used to ride on my motorcycle and catcall at the guys. *blushes* They were better at being feminine, at makeup, what was the latest style, and even knowing the best seat in the restaraunt, lol. This was not something they did to please me, or their love interests, but to please themselves. Be the best that they could be. So it's hard to think of a man becoming a sissy just to be more pleasing to me...and i'll have to start mulling that over; i would never have thought of it on my own since i could never be in that position myself. it's much easier to understand things if you've been there yourself a bit, at least it is for me. At this point in my life, i NEED to be be submissive...i go all crazed when giving up my power to someone i like and look up to. It's also intensely sexually arousing beyond belief, lol. i don't think i could ever give that up to be a Domme...so maybe i'll grow up to be a Switch...or a subbie who was curious for a while. Sissy, i could really use your help understanding something that's a bit *rolls eyes at self* OT for this thread...maybe. i don't understand the need He has for the humiliation part of being turned from a Dom into a subbie/sissy...the sexual thrill. It's difficult for me, but i'm very subtle and creative so He likes what i do very much...but i really need to understand this better or sooner or later i won't be able to make/keep Him happy. To me, the threat of having my kink be exposed at work or to my friends would throw me into a panic, and i would loathe someone for holding that over my head...so how in the word does a man get off on that? If it's too OT to help me out in here, would you please put a note in my CM mailbox to help me understand this? Links of where it's been discussed? Anything at all, lol. i've been reading at wizdomme and trying to get my hands on The Loving Dominant, so i am trying to do my homework as best as i can. i'm very fond of Him and want to keep Him happy...and our time together is very healing to me...to my sense of security. i will accept other points of view, but please...nobody flame the "bad" subbie for topping a Dom. He's a r/l friend of a friend of mine, and i don't think He comes here to CM....i am not trying to top any Doms here. However, if any Doms or Switches could explain to me about the thrill of humiliation...and where i could look to understand this better...i'd appreciate it. Sissy, i hope you don't mind my barging into your thread like this. i can't wait to read more or your opinions around the boards...you're very opinionated and can really state your case. cynthiamarie OMG...i missed page 4!!! *goes off to read!*
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