RobertCloud
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Per the question in the OP, it is obvious that the control is in the hands of the submissive/bottom. He has paid for a service and the service is being performed by the Domme or Dominatrix in this case, howbeit online or on phone or on cam. The Domme is doing nothing more than whoring her services out in this case, she in truth is the one that is being paid for her services and therefore is the one that is in subjection to her client or john.
A prostitute that is hired to play Mommy to someone that has an infantalism fetish is still the one being paid, she is still the one who has to fit the desires of her client, even if her client is the one acting like a baby and wearing a diaper. There really is no difference in this.
However, the question of ONLINE DOMS, ARE THEY REALLY IN CONTROL? That is another question to ponder entirely. Let's take the money out of the question. Say he never pays. Say that he has submitted to the Mistress as her regular slave, but they have never met. Is she in control?
How does she really know? She only seems to be in control as long as the cam is on. Even if they are texting, or on the phone, unless there is a cam monitoring the actions she does not know if he is truly doing what he says he is doing. She does not know if he is obeying.
Trust is a huge part of such a relationship, but how much can you trust someone you have never met, or only met once or twice? To be fully honest, about as far as you can go outside and lift your car and throw it. Everything is taken on faith. The trust you give to them is blind trust no matter what you say. Until they actually are in your life on a regular basis there is no way you can know for certain that they are worthy of the trust you have given to them.
Over and over again I have seen relationships that have lasted for years online, and I said YEARS, and then suddenly one will find out that the other had been lying to them the entire time. That there never was any intention of making the relationship permanent, that there were other slaves, or a spouse, or children, or something else involved that made the entire situation impossible.
Even though I will not lie to someone and will tell them everything and they will say, "Oh that is something I can deal with." Over and over again it turns out to be something they cannot deal with, and the relationship ends, sometimes they end friendly and we stay friends for years, sometimes they end sourly. Sometimes they end because the other person lied or did not reveal everything about themselves and became even more of a player.
So, can an online Dominant be in Control... they can... but it is rare... it takes a very special connection and two very special people and those are very difficult to find. For the most part online relationships are a lie on one persons part or the others and eventually the innocent person will be hurt. It is a shame it has to be that way, but it is an unfortunate truth that in general the human race deceives each other on such a regular basis that you can almost count on the fact that you were lied to more times today than you care to know about.
< Message edited by RobertCloud -- 1/3/2007 5:44:43 PM >
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