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RE: Etiquette question - 12/31/2006 10:43:32 AM

justheather

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I know regular posters who are gratified by correspondence from people eager to further explore concepts, to seek out knowledge or to cultivate a friendship. I think it's a fine idea to extend a compliment and request a dialogue. The worst that person can say is "Im sorry but I dont have the time right now" and Im sure that either way they will be grateful for the compliment.

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RE: Etiquette question - 12/31/2006 10:49:02 AM

nephandi

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i have mailed pepole whit questions, well wishes and other coments, and as long as the peron have not said they dont want mail or that all mails must go through their Masters and you ignore it, and as long as you mail is polite, it is quite ok to mail pepole, though the resepiant may not have the time, or inclination to reply.

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RE: Etiquette question - 12/31/2006 7:44:24 PM

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I can't imagine anyone objecting to a polite email. However there are posters who may not be permitted by their dominants to respond. Usually they mention this in their profiles but if it's a new restriction they may not.

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RE: Etiquette question - 12/31/2006 8:21:25 PM

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Salacious most people are more than willing to help or just bs but becarefull how you word it cause they might get the impression you want them.....
jk I only said that cause that just happened to me, I sent someone a neutral, or what I thought was neutral email and they felt the need to tell me they weren't intrested. I was floored and am still trying to figure out what I said to even give them that impression or if they said that to everyone that emails them the first time. Have a happy new year!!

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RE: Etiquette question - 1/1/2007 5:14:13 AM

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Asking if you can put a question to them might make a good first message. It is polite, a bit intriguing and saves you from rambling on at someone who might not be listening.

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RE: Etiquette question - 1/1/2007 6:48:50 AM

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my experience here has been very positive in regards to e-mailing with questions.

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RE: Etiquette question - 1/1/2007 6:55:25 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: justheather

I know regular posters who are gratified by correspondence from people eager to further explore concepts, to seek out knowledge or to cultivate a friendship. I think it's a fine idea to extend a compliment and request a dialogue. The worst that person can say is "Im sorry but I dont have the time right now" and Im sure that either way they will be grateful for the compliment.

To seek out new life, and new civilisations, to boldly go where no man has gone before.

You can email me anytime.

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(the last sentence was mine of course, Ron)

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RE: Etiquette question - 1/1/2007 7:06:19 AM

julietsierra

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quote:

ORIGINAL: mnottertail

To seek out new life, and new civilisations, to boldly go where no man has gone before.

You can email me anytime.

James Tiberius Kirk
(the last sentence was mine of course, Ron)

Wow! That can be quite an "Enterprise!!"

To the OP:

I'd suggest just e-mailing. What's the worst they can say?
If it's "no" then you can just ask someone else. If they say yes, then you're miles ahead.

However, since you're contemplating doing such a thing, my only suggestion would be to choose people to ask whose views reasonably mirror yours. That way, the information you receive will build on what you already have.

Have fun. I know of few better ways to learn other than asking questions.

juliet

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RE: Etiquette question - 1/1/2007 11:34:01 AM

LadyHugs

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Dear Salacious40, Ladies and Gentlemen;

I can only speak for myself however, I welcome respectful notes and or E-mails. I don't mind being of help off the forums and or on the forums.

Respectfully submitted,
Lady Hugs

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RE: Etiquette question - 1/1/2007 11:45:59 AM

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I shall stick with the majority opinion, mail away, but keep in mind any response you get may not actually be what you really wanted to hear.

The people I talk with most have actually been those that have mailed me because of forum postings rather than anything I have scribbled down on the other side

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RE: Etiquette question - 1/1/2007 12:08:23 PM

Salacious40

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Thanks to everyone for the feedback on my emailing question!

I appreciate all the opnions, thoughts and suggestions.

You made my 'first time' posting a positive experience!!

Wishing everyone a happy and adventurous New Year!

Thanks again for your help.

e

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RE: Etiquette question - 1/1/2007 1:29:14 PM

RedSavageSlave

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I dont ever mind emails from people who are respectful and I get quite a few "congrats" and such..

What I dont like are the ones who email me with a compliment and then I send a return thank you..Suddenly its..you sure are "____" (fill in the blank) Read my profile and tell me if you are interested. Or some such nonsense. I mean please..if your trolling..just be honest about it the first email. I really hate time wasters.

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RE: Etiquette question - 1/1/2007 4:38:34 PM

Carrianna

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Personally I have, also to see what someone has written means more than a picture... In my humble opinion that is..

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RE: Etiquette question - 1/2/2007 12:11:50 AM

DomDog

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Like emdoub, I'd prefer to see the question posted publicly, not only will you benefit from the multiple opinions; but, perhaps someone with a similar question will also benefit.

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RE: Etiquette question - 1/2/2007 1:06:30 AM

CalliopePurple

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If you do mail someone asking them for advice, keep in mind they may have filters in place to send certain things to bulk mail. Something I forgot until the other night, when I was looking through mine and found several very nice people here who asked me things at least a month prior because I had filters for over 40 and out of the country. I've taken them off, though, so a similar thing doesn't happen again. It's not as if the trolls find me easily.

*knocks on wood, sprays troll repellant*

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