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What's it like to be 'given' to another man? - 1/2/2007 9:32:03 PM

luvme2

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In some master/slave relationships part of the terms of the contract is that the master can give any of his slaves to any man or even woman he wishes any time he wishes. Before I would ever agree to that clause in my contract, I would like to know what it's like. Can any of you share experiences as to how it goes and what it feels like?

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RE: What's it like to be 'given' to another man? - 1/3/2007 5:27:33 AM

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you joined this site less than a week ago saying you are not looking for a relationship but are open to online play...

I dont see how "sharing you with others" is an issue here.

But...yes..it has happened to me once. What it felt like was obedience. The fact that I was shared with a female when I am not in fact bisexual made it even more of a matter of obedience. It is not something I would agree to again.

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RE: What's it like to be 'given' to another man? - 1/3/2007 6:08:46 AM

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If you are into it it can be enjoyable. I have done it and first experience was weird but I did it and as some have said you can feel obedient. Some enjoy it more than others.

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RE: What's it like to be 'given' to another man? - 1/3/2007 6:21:46 AM

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Are you talking about being given sexually or being given to someone else in order to serve them within a D/s construct - meaning would they be dominating you? Or would it be both?

Would you be submitting or simply bottoming?

Would this be for SM activity or D/s activity?

Would your Master be right there or would you be on your own, alone with this other person?

Would your Master be participating?

What would be the limits of the situation in which you're being given?

What would your options be if the one you were given to didn't follow whatever limitations your Master set?

Would your Master continue to have a say in what was happening to you?

Would it be temporary or permanent?

Would you have any recourse (beyond leaving of course, since that's always an option) that would not damage the relationship between you and your Master?

What would your Master's plan be to keep you safe?

Personally, before asking any of us what it's like, your first questions should be those of clarification to someone you're working out the terms of your contract with.

Being given to the Master who is your Master's friend in order to help get a house ready for a party is significantly different from being given for pleasure, or to be mutually shared from that time forward, or even to be given for a longer amount of time.

Each situation can be as different as the people involved.

juliet

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RE: What's it like to be 'given' to another man? - 1/3/2007 7:21:54 AM

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In any relationship it is important to clearly negotiate what is and what is not acceptable. If you have any doubts about your partner's trustworthiness, you likely are not ready to go this far. Clearly agreeing to the limits and scope of what is and is not allowed for everyone in the relationship is important even outside BD/SM.
If I have full trust in my dominant's sense and honor, I can agree to obey anything like this that Pleases her, knowing she will have fully insured my safety before anything happens.
Being given to other women is truly a wonderful rush, and this fills me with incredible sweetness whether I am told to be their slave or their master. The rush intensifies exponentially with each additional woman involved.

Being given to other men removes all vestiges of power from me and takes me very far into the depths of submission, degradation and humiliation, whether I am told to dominate them or told to submit to them. If they are allowed to enjoy me sexually this gets very much deeper than simple impact or bondage play, as I truly am oriented to women.
One needs to thouroughly think through things like this as a relationship developes, and one needs to open up and talk to your partner about it,

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RE: What's it like to be 'given' to another man? - 1/3/2007 7:37:38 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: luvme2
In some master/slave relationships part of the terms of the contract is that the master can give any of his slaves to any man or even woman he wishes any time he wishes. Before I would ever agree to that clause in my contract, I would like to know what it's like. Can any of you share experiences as to how it goes and what it feels like?

Well usually it's hot and intense- being valued as an object, being useful as a trade, being desired by another. Those all get me hot and squishy inside.

But sometimes it's annoying, sometimes it's boring, sometimes it's hard to keep from laughing at the other person, sometimes it's scary because you don't know them and you're stuck in their house for a weekend.

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RE: What's it like to be 'given' to another man? - 1/3/2007 7:50:44 AM

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In general, it is pure objectification of a very high intensity and probably not for most. It can also be scary when you are loaned out to a person you do not know, quite fun, and as LA put nicely, boring and a little bit of a nuisance when it takes up a lot of time.

I do know the first few times it happen to me the aftercare of my owners showing me how much they were happy with me doing it was very critical. I did need to see them caring for me and a high level of physical affection from them afterwards.

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RE: What's it like to be 'given' to another man? - 1/3/2007 7:59:00 AM

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My late Master did that once and for me it was thre worst experience of my life it was only for sex. Some people like it i hated it. When he told me to do it again i refused it led to a severe punishment, but i just could not do it again. For me i at least have to like a guy before i have sex with them. My Master now does not share and that is good because for me now not being shared is a hard limit.

Matt's littleone

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RE: What's it like to be 'given' to another man? - 1/3/2007 8:08:34 AM

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Master used a man on me just as he would use a dildo or any other implement. It was done by Master and for Master and I performed in a way he found pleasing and that made him proud. Both times this occurred Master was in the room, and once when it became scary for me, he was right there, holding my head down for the rest of the duration, which made me feel secure.

When he made me dance for the man, it was my Master that I danced for, as I regularly do anyway. The only difference is there was an additional audience. When he made me touch the man, again, I was doing as instructed, for my Master.

I felt small, on display, objectified, and powerless to my Master. It was rather wonderful.

The energy between my Master and I made these events something to behold. I look forward to the next time.

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RE: What's it like to be 'given' to another man? - 1/3/2007 8:25:19 AM

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well based on the way the question was worded, when you said "given" i immediately thought of being given away permanently, as in, transfer of ownership. obviously that would devastate me. but if you're simply talking about being temporarily "given" to another, or as we call it, loaned out, that is something very very different. my Master has frequently loaned me to others, Men only, mostly Dominants, tho there have been some vanillas. each experience is unique and each man is unique. the purpose may vary...sometimes i may be whored or slutted out, simply for my Master's perv pleasure at that moment...sometimes someone else may assist him in his training of me...sometimes the purpose is humiliation or more common, degradation. sometimes the purpose is purely discipline. never is the purpose my pleasure, tho in rare cases this has happened.

often sexual use and service is involved, sometimes not. there are no universal limits as to what others may or may not do to me...it depends on the individual, on what my Master has decided he wants from that person and how much he trusts that person. rarely am i told of any limits that a particular Man i serve must adhere to...that's not my business. my business is submitting, serving, pleasing to the best of my abilities. being unquestioningly obedient to anyone i serve just as i would for my Master. it's important to him that i serve others just as i would serve him. there have been times when in being obedient to someone else i had to serve, a limit set in place by my Master was crossed. for instance, with a particular person my Master might tell them that my swallowing of any fluids is strictly forbidden, and that person, when alone with me, may proceed to cum and urinate in my mouth, ordering me to swallow it all. afterwards, when i tell my Master all that occured, he will be very pleased knowing that i did as i was told in every instance, without hesitation. He will be very displeased with the person who he had me serve, and deal with that person himself in his own way.

sometimes it has been very, very difficult, physically, emotionally, mentally, serving another. there have been times when after a particularly hard service, usually involving degradation, i've fallen into spells of depression lasting days or even weeks. sometimes it has been very cold and emotionless for me...like a big nothing. sometimes it's been enjoyable. but always it's been a valuable learning experience.

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RE: What's it like to be 'given' to another man? - 1/3/2007 9:55:09 AM

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W/we have had a couple different instances when Master has given me or shared me with others. I found it very exciting. The first time I was tied up to the bed and left as a gift for one of His friends. It was a wonderful time and Master was very proud of me. I can't say that it has ever been just a "matter of obedience" as some others have commented. I don't believe my Master would ever have me do anything that He knew wouldn't turn me on.

Sincerely,
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RE: What's it like to be 'given' to another man? - 1/3/2007 10:07:48 AM

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I've gotten some questions on the other side about how it could be "boring" to me.

Let's just say when you've been bought or traded to a dom and he thinks he's the height of intensity and sadism to be doing something like this and that because I "allow myself" to be traded so easily that I must be really some type of serious slut...and ends up just spanking you for a few minutes before getting hard, having you give him a blow job for another two minutes before he gets off, praises your glories for another 10 while snuggling you to make sure you're not all traumatized and then patting you on the head and sending you back.

It's really not that interesting for me. Specially because my place at that point is to become his fantasy girl and create the illusion that he wants to have.

Think of it like being a Ferrari, rented out, and then being driven at 30 mph for 20 minutes. If a Ferrari could be bored, it would be.

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RE: What's it like to be 'given' to another man? - 1/3/2007 2:57:49 PM

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I've been loaned out by a previous Dom, typically just to his friends. Either to give them a treat, or as embarrassment to me, i don't know. Maybe both. But it was never horrible...

EDIT: Except as Lucky stated above, the boredom aspect. I get stuck with someone who acts like they're so into it, but they don't really do anything with me.

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RE: What's it like to be 'given' to another man? - 1/3/2007 5:27:36 PM

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i kind of like to be given to others for sex. it allows me to be slutty but absolves me of being a slut since i have no control of who i have sex with.

of course my Master is very sensitive about this and so far has always insisted upon being in the room.

m

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RE: What's it like to be 'given' to another man? - 1/3/2007 8:49:13 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: daddysprop247

well based on the way the question was worded, when you said "given" i immediately thought of being given away permanently, as in, transfer of ownership. obviously that would devastate me.

This is an interesting prospect. I can not see anyone ever owning me as my Master does. I was talking to a friend recently and said I doubt I would ever let anyone "in" to that sacred place in me which Master occupies. However, he has mentioned to me the option of bequeathing me to another in the event of his death, which will likely be before my own. To this I can only say that I trust him explicitely with such an act, and would feel grateful that he thought of leaving me in good hands. It would, however, never be the same.

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RE: What's it like to be 'given' to another man? - 1/7/2007 7:49:56 AM

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I served a Master who had a lot of female friends and he regularly offered me to them. My first experience was with a woman was under those circumstances. I have always -- well, felt grateful to have known Masters who are such gracious hosts, have such endearing friends, and who enjoy seeing my surrender and submission.

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RE: What's it like to be 'given' to another man? - 1/7/2007 8:25:52 AM

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I've never experienced it...can't say that it does much for me, but since I've never had it happen.....

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RE: What's it like to be 'given' to another man? - 1/7/2007 8:33:18 AM

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Do you mean permanently given away or burrowed out for a visit with someone else?

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RE: What's it like to be 'given' to another man? - 1/7/2007 9:42:29 AM

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I am curious, for those who have been given to others sexually by their Masters, was "safe sex" practiced?

I understand the trust and devotion to your Master, but if he chose to give you to a stranger without requiring "safe sex", would you still do it?

Please understand I'm not looking to judge, I'm just wondering if there is a limit to that trust/devotion when it could be a detriment to your own health?

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RE: What's it like to be 'given' to another man? - 1/7/2007 10:00:11 AM

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i love it and think it is hot....i am not talking of permant trade here though i have no experiance with that.

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