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attending munches alone - 1/3/2007 6:15:25 PM   
defiantbadgirl


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Status: offline 		I have received invitations to 2 munches/play parties in my area from local online bdsm groups. Although I am interested in attending, I'm not sure if it's safe to go alone. Is an unattached sub or switch fair game to any dom to drag off and torture? Has anyone had a bad experience going to a play party alone or am I just being paranoid?
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RE: attending munches alone - 1/3/2007 6:20:38 PM   
Kalira


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Status: offline 		Personally, I stopped going to munches when I first came back from Texas; I had had some bad experiences there ( not with being 'unattatched' but with others thinking they had to 'protect' me since my Master had passed away ). For the most part though, I have found munches to be pretty informal; depending on the group itself and it's own set of rules and protocals. Going by yourself should pose no problem; you have a way of letting others know that you are not to be taken advantage of ( and that is meant in a GOOD way )

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RE: attending munches alone - 1/3/2007 6:21:09 PM   
julietsierra


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Status: offline 		Before I met my Master, I ALWAYS attended alone. In fact, I felt that munches and play parties were safer than bars. I enjoyed myself immensely. I made friends I hold dear, laughed a lot, got to see who played and how they played and learned a lot about myself along the way. Frankly, I liked going on my own verses with another submissive. That way, when I wanted to leave, I could. Someone always walked me to my car and made sure I got on the road safely.

The people I had problems with were NOT people who were attending that function.

juliet

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RE: attending munches alone - 1/3/2007 6:24:27 PM   
agorwarrior


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Status: offline 		In the KC area the munches are just friendly get togethers at a public restraunt and kidnapping and torture are not allowed at the parties. I am a member of most of the groups in the local area, if you are coming to KC, email me with any questions. I know that Witchita has a very respectable group as well. If you are worried, set up a safe call or take a friend. I wish you well, and have fun.

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RE: attending munches alone - 1/3/2007 6:27:48 PM   
defiantbadgirl


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Status: offline 		How does one dress for a munch? I don't have much in the way of revealing clothes.

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RE: attending munches alone - 1/3/2007 6:30:40 PM   
sublizzie


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Status: offline 		I tend to end up going to munches after work, so I just wear what I wore to work.

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RE: attending munches alone - 1/3/2007 6:31:02 PM   
slavemaia


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Status: offline 		i think munches are pretty safe - the concept that a Dom is going to haul us off and do unspeakable things to us - ahem - sounds like an interesting fantasy, but that's about it. Munches are a great way to get to know and stay connected with others. i used to go quite a bit. Any advances made to me from a Dom were always respected if i expressed i was not interested.

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RE: attending munches alone - 1/3/2007 6:31:58 PM   
defiantbadgirl


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ORIGINAL: agorwarrior

In the KC area the munches are just friendly get togethers at a public restraunt and kidnapping and torture are not allowed at the parties. I am a member of most of the groups in the local area, if you are coming to KC, email me with any questions. I know that Witchita has a very respectable group as well. If you are worried, set up a safe call or take a friend. I wish you well, and have fun.


Both invitations were for play parties/munches in Wichita. Nice to meet another on here from KS.

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RE: attending munches alone - 1/3/2007 6:34:56 PM   
whisperedsighs


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Status: offline 		It would depend on who is attending.  Is it a munch or a play party?  I would do the munch as they are usually in public places.  I wouldn't do a play party unless I knew the people first, as they tend to be in private homes. 
It is not standard for single submissives / switches to be fair game to be dragged off and tortured, but use common sense.

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RE: attending munches alone - 1/3/2007 6:35:35 PM   
crouchingtigress


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quote:

ORIGINAL: defiantbadgirl

How does one dress for a munch? I don't have much in the way of revealing clothes.


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RE: attending munches alone - 1/3/2007 6:39:37 PM   
julietsierra


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Status: offline 		I wear skirts and nice shirts/blouses.
I very rarely wear jeans - but then, I very rarely wear jeans anyway.
Black seems to be the color of choice.
Because munches are most often in public venues, keep the revealing things for more private moments and change into them at the party if you choose to attend.

juliet

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RE: attending munches alone - 1/3/2007 6:39:39 PM   
defiantbadgirl


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Status: offline 		I just noticed that there are 2 almost identical threads about attending play parties/munches alone lol

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RE: attending munches alone - 1/3/2007 6:41:58 PM   
Tikkiee


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Status: offline 		Munches are usually...not always...but usually pretty informal. Nothing more than meeting in public places to meet new friends and talk everyday talk. Play parties, depending on who is giving the party, or where it is at...that will depend on the clothing. Best choice is to ask the person who invited you what their protocol is for such things.
 
As for being worried about 'unwanted' advances...most are pretty courteous and polite; though you can run into the annoying one every now and then.
 
I have been known to throw a punch or two for having someone place a hand where it was not invited ; it usually gets the point across.

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RE: attending munches alone - 1/3/2007 6:42:55 PM   
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Status: offline 		Everyday dress for munches, most are in very public places and we don't want to stand out as strange or different. At least here in the midwest we don't. I have heard a lot of good about the T T group in Witchita and I am on their list, it looks like they have a great munch coming up on the 27th. I don't know about other groups in that area, but some of the people here make that long drive.

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RE: attending munches alone - 1/3/2007 6:45:38 PM   
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Status: offline 		Don't get drunk.  Don't drool.  Don't poke dominants in the eye with a fork.

Pretend it is a family reunion with cousins you have never seen.  Don't go looking to play or to be cajoled into it right away.  Just because your cousins from Gumshoe, North Dakota eat their own boogers don't mean you have to.  When you are absolutely sure that your cousins can be separated into booger pickers and other hideous sections, then you may start slowly, say just pick your nose.

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RE: attending munches alone - 1/3/2007 6:48:33 PM   
bbwdommelilith


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Status: offline 		Defiantbadgirl:
That's because this thread made me think about the upcoming play party :-)

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RE: attending munches alone - 1/3/2007 6:48:53 PM   
defiantbadgirl


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Status: offline 		Thank you. Actually both invites are a combination of munch and play party. I can't really ask the person who invited me because I was invited by 2 yahoo groups I signed up for and don't know any of the members personally.

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RE: attending munches alone - 1/3/2007 7:02:46 PM   
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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

Don't poke dominants in the eye with a fork.


Well you're no fun Ron!!   

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RE: attending munches alone - 1/3/2007 7:18:34 PM   
bandit25


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Status: offline 		I've never heard of anyone getting dragged off or even seen as "fair game".  You may find that more people will talk with you if you are by yourself, but that's a good thing.:)

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RE: attending munches alone - 1/3/2007 7:30:08 PM   
unownedredhead


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ORIGINAL: agorwarrior       kidnapping and torture are not allowed at the parties.


I just had a great laugh.  Thank you Sir.  I enjoyed that.  Could you imagine?  Right there at the restaurant?

still gigging,

dina



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