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attending a play party alone - 1/3/2007 6:26:55 PM

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I am planning to attend my first real play party; I will know a few people there, but I don't have a sub to accompany me. Am I likely to find some others there in the same situation, or am I likely to end up feeling like the last kid picked?

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RE: attending a play party alone - 1/3/2007 6:32:43 PM

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That would depend on the play party. I wouldn't focus on trying to be able to play that night, and just focus on having great conversations with people.

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RE: attending a play party alone - 1/3/2007 6:34:38 PM

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The last kid picked? Doubt You'll have much trouble as a Femdom. In any event it ought to be fun and interesting. Maybe You'll learn some new techniques (another word for evil ways to torture a slave/sub). i went to play parties before i was collared and found them interesting even when i only observed.

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RE: attending a play party alone - 1/3/2007 6:43:05 PM

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Looks like we both had the same question at about the same time lol. I'm seeing helpful advice on both posts.

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RE: attending a play party alone - 1/3/2007 7:25:47 PM

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Actually as a female dom going alone, you'll likely be MORE attractive :)

Go for it, nothing wrong with going alone. I've gone many times to parties solo.

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RE: attending a play party alone - 1/3/2007 7:58:27 PM

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Dear bbwdommelilith, Ladies and Gentlemen;

I always go to play parties alone. I've never been pressured to play or perform. I also do not try to go in as an over powering dominatrix either. In going to parties, I am always mindful that I am the guest.
Some do know who I am and some do not. I treat all the same-- with respect.

I am of the old fashioned sort, to which being discrete was appreciated so, I wear attire which is street appreciated and nothing wild, like provocative clothing as to attract attention to myself. My toy bags remain in my trunk until I need them, when I am finding myself asked to do a scene. Otherwise, my toy bag will be subjected to being rifled through and or things stolen, in the way and a tripping hazard as everybody seems to carry similar gym bags for their toy bags. I do change into my dominatrix uniform/attire once inside the premise and I leave in street clothes. In cold weather, a coat is lovely as to cover up the attire you're wearing.

I would recommend checking in with the host/hostess for their rules.
Most will include scenes with sex and sex encouraged--some do not.
Some designate certain rooms for sex and scenes, some that is zero sex allowed. Some will restrict fire and or wax play, water sports.
It really is governed by common sense as it relates to the premise itself.

Most play parties that have 'bring food to the table' will have the list of what to bring assigned to you and or a list of things needed for the table. It isn't written in stone but, hosts/hostesses who know some folks are financially strapped are asked to bring the least expensive items.

I highly recommend making contact with the hostess/host and let them be your guide.

Respectfully submitted for consideration,
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RE: attending a play party alone - 1/3/2007 8:09:44 PM

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You are far more likely to be approached by almost every sub male in the place especially if he is alone. Indeed, even when I had a sub or slave with me, single male bottoms would approach me. Now that was at TES parties or at the clubs in NYC.

At a private party you are less likely to be randomly approached to play. More likely to have conversation first too.

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RE: attending a play party alone - 1/3/2007 8:14:53 PM

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Greetings.....

Due to a variety of reasons....i have attended many events as a single.....up to and including S/mer camp last august......i always have a good time....and in a good 90% of the cases have not engaged in play....For me it is a chance to see old and dear friends that live somewhat distanct from me....to meet new people ....and to just enjoy the atmosphere and energy of a crowd i have much in common with....

People of all types are endlessly fascinating to me....so it is always a positive experience .....i tend to be the social butterfly type.....who loves to be out and a part of the community....Life is short.....Enjoy!!!!!!

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RE: attending a play party alone - 1/10/2007 11:59:24 AM

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go for it...you may have even more fun as a single...

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RE: attending a play party alone - 1/10/2007 12:08:14 PM

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The first play party i went to was alone. Aside from being an eye-opening experience for a newbie to the world of BDSM, i did feel a bit out of place going unescorted. However, because i had contacted the host and His slave before hand, i was well attended during my visit.

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RE: attending a play party alone - 1/10/2007 12:13:52 PM

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There are many that come alone. You won't feel left out if you mingle and get to know others.

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RE: attending a play party alone - 1/10/2007 1:28:39 PM

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Heh... You will be popular as heck. Go, have fun.
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RE: attending a play party alone - 1/10/2007 1:54:33 PM

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Yup...no big to go alone. You'll prolly be in high demand.

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RE: attending a play party alone - 1/10/2007 1:58:01 PM

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Lots of good advice here, so here is an anecdote instead!

Three times now, I've been to some sort of event/party/whatever alone - though not by choice.

First one was the South West Alternative Market & Party (SWAMP) in Bristol; I had a look around the market, got myself a drink and sat down next to a bunch of ladies from south Wales. Within minutes I was part of their group - really friendly people.

Second was a club in Wolverhampton and third was a club in Birmingham; both occasions, a pointy stick dipped in dog poo would have come in handy LOL! (to beat off the single guys there!)

So, though yes, I know the feeling you have, 'cause I have it myself, I'd say going off my experiences (limited though they are), to just go for it.

The only advice more than anyone has given so far (I think) is that you dont have to play with anyone or do anything you dont want to, just because youre there and being chased/begged.

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RE: attending a play party alone - 1/10/2007 2:19:29 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyEllen

both occasions, a pointy stick dipped in dog poo would have come in handy LOL! (to beat off the single guys there!)

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And tell me you didn't like this just a little ;-P

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RE: attending a play party alone - 1/10/2007 2:55:41 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: ToGiveDivine

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyEllen

both occasions, a pointy stick dipped in dog poo would have come in handy LOL! (to beat off the single guys there!)

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And tell me you didn't like this just a little ;-P

Oh! It was AWFUL!

AWFULly great, that is.

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RE: attending a play party alone - 1/10/2007 3:24:28 PM

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ORIGINAL: bbwdommelilith

I am planning to attend my first real play party; I will know a few people there, but I don't have a sub to accompany me. Am I likely to find some others there in the same situation, or am I likely to end up feeling like the last kid picked?

Don't worry about it. You're a chic. You have the advantage. You can go alone and still be Elvis.

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