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RE: men wearing heels in public - 1/4/2007 9:29:01 AM

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well first my feet only hurt if the shoes are the wrong size but I agree in a business setting I would not wear them but out in public the store the mall or a party you think it is cool and would you think I was gay or trying to make a statement

I have to add.. I would notice, yes. I'd look long to evaluate if they actually went with the outfit... then go on my way.

I was in a similar situation . While standing in a Sprint store. a gentleman came in wearing a wool skirt as part of his outfit. All I thought was.. why the hell is he wearing WOOL in June in Arizona???!

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RE: men wearing heels in public - 1/4/2007 9:36:16 AM

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Seems similar to what I'd read was a world class pickup line for use by a straight man to quickly get a woman's adoration or approval:

"If I weren't gay, you'd be so mine."
Works im sure.

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RE: men wearing heels in public - 1/4/2007 3:37:04 PM

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If I saw you on the street, I wouldn't assume automatically that it was a fetish or said anything about your sexuality.

I see a guy who wears a skirt every once in a while and think of it as a fashion statement. One time, years ago, when he was still cool and I still liked him, my ex wore one of my skirts (a tie dyed, hippie type thing that went down to his ankles) during a party we had. I don't remember his thinking, but I'm sure it was to make some kind of statement.

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RE: men wearing heels in public - 1/4/2007 5:05:32 PM

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I would honestly think the guy looked stupid or silly in high heels.

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I guess what I wonder is how do women feel about seeing a guy dressed nice in a business suit wearing clssy high heels

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RE: men wearing heels in public - 1/4/2007 7:17:23 PM

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Being a male sub with CD tendencies, i'd probably:
assume it was fetish-related
admire your gumption (yay gumption!)
not make any assumptions one way or the other about your sexual preferences vis-a-vis gender
be annoyed if i found out you were an artist just looking to get a reaction out of people

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RE: men wearing heels in public - 1/4/2007 7:54:55 PM

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I think it would be the same old double-standard.

SHOCKING: If a guy is feminine in public...SHAME...BAD!!!...You fag!! Im gonna kick your ass!

NOT SHOCKING/ACCEPTED/NORM : A woman being as masculine as she likes....no problem..."wow..you look nice today"

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RE: men wearing heels in public - 1/5/2007 2:20:46 AM

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I would honestly think the guy looked stupid or silly in high heels.

It depends if the shoes pull the look together.

My gripe is that the DESIGN of many womans shoes would Just Look Plain Dumb on most ugly-guy feet...

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RE: men wearing heels in public - 1/5/2007 4:15:01 AM

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I would honestly think the guy looked stupid or silly in high heels.

It depends if the shoes pull the look together.

My gripe is that the DESIGN of many womans shoes would Just Look Plain Dumb on most ugly-guy feet...

Mileage WILL Vary...

Ur kidding right? I shop for most of my dressy shoes in a shop in Blackpool which is opposite 'funny girls', the best drag show night club in the UK (in my opinion). I often try shoes on with the boys, most of them are regulars there and half the time they look better in them than me.

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RE: men wearing heels in public - 1/5/2007 6:21:37 AM

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I love high heels but I am straight I wear high heeled womans boots out in public what are the forums thoughts is it a fashion statement or a fetish?
It can be either a fashion statement or a fetish, or both, or neither.

If I saw a guy wearing heels in public (except in a public gay bar) I'd ask him out.

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RE: men wearing heels in public - 1/5/2007 8:18:18 AM

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I love high heels but I am straight I wear high heeled womans boots out in public what are the forums thoughts is it a fashion statement or a fetish?

I would think I was back in the 80's again... It might be a fashion statement.... But a really bad one unless your name is David Bowie or something.

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RE: men wearing heels in public - 1/5/2007 12:04:43 PM

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I love high heels but I am straight I wear high heeled womans boots out in public what are the forums thoughts is it a fashion statement or a fetish?

Initial reaction? fetish - but that is an indictment of my prejudice that only a man with a fetish would wear women's accessories.

On reflection, it could just as easily be a fashion statement (it depends on the motives of the individual).

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RE: men wearing heels in public - 1/5/2007 12:51:55 PM

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Right or wrong, people judge others by how they look. If I saw a man out in a public setting dressed as you described, I would just shake My head and figure he was just looking for attention. Because people judge others on appearances, you would definitely get all manner of attention (positive and a lot more negative I'm sure) Imagine the conversation a Parent would have to have with their unmentionable when they ask "Mommy, why is that man wearing lady shoes?"

I'm a Domina...and I enjoy wearing leather corsets, boots, skirts and various other fetish type wear. But, I also know that there is a time and a place for everything...and going to the grocery store or other *vanilla-venue* dressed like that would simply not be appropriate, or acceptable. (though I MIGHT consider going to the car dealership like that--keep those damn salespeople AWAY lol)

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if you like high heels so much, then purchase a pair
of men's shoes with a higher heel if you want to
wear them with your business suit. Just don't say I didn't
warn ya when your tendons shrink up on ya and it's
painful to walk without them lol

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RE: men wearing heels in public - 1/5/2007 5:46:25 PM

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Right or wrong, people judge others by how they look. If I saw a man out in a public setting dressed as you described, I would just shake My head and figure he was just looking for attention

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I'm a Domina...and I enjoy wearing leather corsets, boots, skirts and various other fetish type wear. But, I also know that there is a time and a place for everything...and going to the grocery store or other *vanilla-venue* dressed like that would simply not be appropriate, or acceptable. (though I MIGHT consider going to the car dealership like that--keep those damn salespeople AWAY lol)

i've never understood the assumption that anyone who makes themselves look "different" is doing it for attention. Being a Dominant Woman makes you "different", in many ways far further from accepted societal conventions than a mere choice of footwear would make a man- is that just for attention as well?

You can choose to deny yourself pleasures in order to fit in, or you can decide that since you're not harming anyone you can indulge them, and random bystanders be damned.

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RE: men wearing heels in public - 1/5/2007 6:07:29 PM

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dave,

It's not a matter of not being allowed to, it's a matter of understanding what you're getting into.

It's like running across a highway: Yes, legally, it is always the driver's fault when they hit a pedestrian, but does that do you any good? No.

So understand that the world is the way it is, and if you still want to do it, gopher it.

Yours,

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