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hisannabelle -> RE: How do you define yourself/your relationship? (1/4/2007 9:13:54 PM)

submissive, bisexual female in a polyamorous, 24/7 d/s relationship with a wonderfully dominant man.

something like that, yep.



Serenityy -> RE: How do you define yourself/your relationship? (1/4/2007 9:15:58 PM)

Hello Katzschen
 
I define myself as a kajira who is unowned at the present time.
 
I wish you the best.



hejira92 -> RE: How do you define yourself/your relationship? (1/4/2007 9:19:06 PM)

Oh boy, this is tougher than you think. Master and I discuss this often. We came from different places in our definitions of sub/slave and Master/Dom.
 
Before Master and I met, I thought of myself as a slave and He thought of Himself as a Dom. My views were that a Dom/sub relationship is that of the bedroom- other than scenes (which would be totally negotiable) the relationship is pretty much equal or vanilla. I saw an M/s relationship as one that encompassed the psychological as well as the physical; encompassing 24/7 ownership. He viewed slaves as not requiring care or consideration- not to be cherished as he would His sub. So, we did not define ourselves.
 
But, He is a Dominant who finds his greatest pleasure in the mindfuck - maybe more than any other aspect of power exchange. He owns me, He molds me to His vision of me, He controls me. So, to my mind and experience- He is a Master. At one point, I asked permission to call him Master. He had never considered Himself a Master before, but it fit.
 
So, to answer the question. Master is Master. I am still somewhere on the continuum of sub---slave. I think I lean more towards slave, but Master has not changed His definition of such, so I must use His nomenclature and call myself a "collared sub".
 
I do hope some of this makes sense. It is past my bedtime[:o].
 
 



cacodylic -> RE: How do you define yourself/your relationship? (1/4/2007 9:28:45 PM)

demi-frustrated aging hetero quasisub, still looking for some semblance of a relationship...



ownedgirlie -> RE: How do you define yourself/your relationship? (1/4/2007 9:36:23 PM)

I am an owned slave and property to my Master.

hejira, what happened to your lovely photo?



hejira92 -> RE: How do you define yourself/your relationship? (1/4/2007 9:52:27 PM)

I took a new one in my new permanent, locked collar and I am waiting for approval. (from cm- Master already gave permission for me to post it)
 
Thanks for asking. I wish I could be as concise and to the point as your answer, but we are still evolving. I am most definitely Master's Property, but He would not give me the title of slave. Ah, do these names really mean anything?  I know my place and to whom I belong. That's all that really matters.



ownedgirlie -> RE: How do you define yourself/your relationship? (1/4/2007 10:18:58 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: hejira92

I took a new one in my new permanent, locked collar and I am waiting for approval. (from cm- Master already gave permission for me to post it)
 
Thanks for asking. I wish I could be as concise and to the point as your answer, but we are still evolving. I am most definitely Master's Property, but He would not give me the title of slave. Ah, do these names really mean anything?  I know my place and to whom I belong. That's all that really matters.


Congratulations on the new collar!  I can't wait to see the pic.

Two and a half years into this, and I continue to evolve.  It never stops! And no, the names do not mean nearly as much as knowing your place and where you belong.  That seems pretty concise to me. :)  My best to you both.



Adrenochrome -> RE: How do you define yourself/your relationship? (1/4/2007 10:27:50 PM)

I'm the Master in a full-time relationship that is, effectively, total power exchange. My property is xkittenishx, and she correctly self-identifies as my slave. Currently, we've known each other for over a decade, and have been in our current relationship for just shy of a year. We're currently working towards the long term goal of not living on opposite ends of the continent from one another. :)



katzschen -> RE: How do you define yourself/your relationship? (1/4/2007 11:26:09 PM)

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ORIGINAL: hejira92


Ah, do these names really mean anything? I know my place and to whom I belong. That's all that really matters.

No, titles do not matter. The question is just one of pure curiosity.


Thanks for all the great answers so far again. =^-^=



greeneyes1962 -> RE: How do you define yourself/your relationship? (1/4/2007 11:37:08 PM)

right now i call my self submissive to my Dominant, after i move across the country to live with him, i will be his slave.



akbarbarian -> RE: How do you define yourself/your relationship? (1/4/2007 11:40:08 PM)

I was, and wish to be again a carpenter in the ways of submissive woman that I call slave and property.  Now if only I wanted to write an erotic story about furnature to go with that definition.  Beating her into alignment with my hammer, stripping her finish off and such.  Oh wait I did!  Sortof.



slavejali -> RE: How do you define yourself/your relationship? (1/5/2007 4:05:21 AM)

Definition of my self: "free spirit"
Definition of my relationship: "united"
Defintion of my role within that relationship: " in bondage"

Free spirit, united, in bondage ..yeah that works for me [;)]



onestandingstill -> RE: How do you define yourself/your relationship? (1/5/2007 5:10:19 AM)




A hopeful sub girlfriend to a brand new Master as my guy just came into the BDSM world after he met me 9 weeks ago.





sweetnurseBBW -> RE: How do you define yourself/your relationship? (1/5/2007 6:24:03 AM)

a slave , lover and property of Master. [:D]



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: How do you define yourself/your relationship? (1/5/2007 6:59:20 AM)

My relationship is open polyamorous, vanilla based, switch.




LuckyAlbatross -> RE: How do you define yourself/your relationship? (1/5/2007 7:00:32 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Sinergy
I dont think that the reality of the question "How do I define myself and my wewationship" and the reality of the answer can ever co-exist.  If I twuely undewstand both the question and the answer, I fear I will be instantly replaced by something even more bizarre and inexplicable.

Although most people who know me tend to believe this has already happened at least once.

Just me, etc.

Sinergy

Lord knows it's happened to me a few times.



Ambrosius -> RE: How do you define yourself/your relationship? (1/5/2007 7:09:31 AM)

I'm a (polycurious [:)]) switch in a monogamous relationship with a switch. We've been together almost 6 years, exploring bdsm for the past year and a half or so.



Mercnbeth -> RE: How do you define yourself/your relationship? (1/5/2007 7:20:13 AM)

We define ourselves BY our relationship.

A "Master" because I am responsible for a "slave". A "slave" because she has surrendered to a "Master". A "relationship" which is defined by the responsibilities we have for taken on for ourselves and each other.



thetammyjo -> RE: How do you define yourself/your relationship? (1/5/2007 7:59:48 AM)

I am the head of my household which includes one husband I am the wife and friend of and one slave I own. We are a family.



MsLayla -> RE: How do you define yourself/your relationship? (1/5/2007 8:07:20 AM)

I'd have to say a Dom/Domme relationship where submissives are loved and seen as part of the family. 



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