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CreativeDominant -> RE: What am I? (1/6/2007 3:26:17 PM)
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ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie
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ORIGINAL: MagiksSlave
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hope I made sence though Miss
Magik's slave
You made sense to me.
Sometimes figuring out what we are is hard, no question about it. Sometimes reaching toward what we know we must become is even harder. My Master used to tell me, "If it was easy, anyone could do it." It can be very difficult for any "type" of person to become true to themselves. That's why therapists do so well. We all have baggage we need to get through. We all (most) have barriers, that need to come down. I knew with all that was within me that I needed to become what was truly inside me and needed to come out. But it was scary as hell and difficult as hell to plow through the crap that had been heaped on me over the years so that I could freely submit. It was hard work. I am amazed at my Master's ability to be patient and intolerant at the same time. He laid out the path for me, and let me figure my way down it. I had to overcome a lot of internal demons to do that.
I wonder, though, if what the OP means is if something feels forced and unnatural, then is it wrong for them? While my journey has been difficult, it has felt "right" the entire time.
Of course...this can be taken to an extreme also. Someone can state that they want to be that submissive that is deep inside them but they never seem to make it or they never seem to find the right dominant to bring it out in them. Is it really true that there has never been a dominant/submissive that could not bring it out in them or is it that they fought the dominant every step of the way because they were afraid of what was within or is it that they fought the dominant because there really wasn't anything within their soul even if it was in their mind or is it that the fighting...for whatever reason...finally wore out the most patient of dominants?
Some people go through their lives never seeming to find that person who brings out the best in them. I am divorced and so I know that someone could say that I never found the right person. Depends on your point of view...if your view is that you are only successful if you find someone who changes and grows just as you do and whose interests remain complimentary and/or interesting to you for the rest of your life then no, I have never found that person. If your point of view is that you learn and grow and change for the better because of this person and the relationship works for a long time and you end up a better person than you were when you started the relationship, and this betterment remains even after the relationship ends, then you have found a person who brought out the best in you. Even if they or you walk away from each other, for whatever reason. There are times I cannot stand my ex for many varied reasons. But I know that for awhile...a fairly long while...she was the one who brought out the best in me.
By the way...before anyone thinks I pick only on submissives...the first paragraph could, with a few changes, most likely fit a few that call themselves dominant also.
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