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RE: What am I? - 1/6/2007 4:20:27 PM

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I learned long ago,nothing comes easy! When it does, You may not fully understand How lucky you are.

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RE: What am I? - 1/7/2007 5:58:55 PM

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But of course, miss. you are a little blonde girl, and SOMEONE has a big weekend planned, n'est pas?

E.

Nah, not this weekend. Im in training.
Big competition on Thursday.

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RE: What am I? - 1/7/2007 6:23:05 PM

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ORIGINAL: LotusSong

Actually, it wasn't any thread that motivated me.. but the lament I hear when someone says that they "are struggling with their submission/dominance". While learning everything might be difficult, it is my opinion that ones "essence" would win out.

My first time bottoming, was extremely difficult for me, as was the second time. I had no desire to continue to explore it. When I topped, I flew. I knew right then.

i think there is a difference between one who is not sure if they ultimately want to submit or dominate, than the one who knows they want to submit but because of (perhaps) not being 'used to' submitting, they have some sort of struggle with it. i would say that was probably the case for me where i was used to taking charge at work and with my kids but knew that is not what i wanted to do with a partner. i guess it's not always easy to 'fall into' that dynamic but i was very clear (with myself) that this is what i wanted. So my struggle was not with being submissive or dominant but rather with 'how do i submit when i am not used to it?'

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RE: What am I? - 1/7/2007 10:00:30 PM

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ORIGINAL: LotusSong

When I see a post of someone who is not happy with what they are.. or are having trouble with their chosen identity (I'm talking Dom/Sub/Switch etc) I think.. if you have to work at it.. maybe you are in the wrong path.

What do you think?

i don't think wanting/needing to work on something necessarily means you're on the wrong path. Yet, if a person is working against themself because they think they're "supposed" to be a particular way, then they're probably going to have to wake up one day and realize there's nothing to prove and they can be whoever and however they choose.

i work on my submission not because it's not who i am, but because i want to express it better, let go of the fears involved with it etc. But it's more a labor of love than anything and i find great fulfillment and joy when i can see my own progress.

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