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RE: Does Mature Dommes(40-60) enjoy young men? - 1/6/2007 7:36:54 AM   
mam


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Status: offline 		I prefer my age or older. We seem to be on the same wavelength mentally.


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RE: Does Mature Dommes(40-60) enjoy young men? - 1/6/2007 8:40:54 AM   
MysticFireTopaz


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Status: offline 		Personally, I since I am seeking a sub or slave who would be My life partner as well, I would prefer someone around My own age (plus or minus ten years, roughly.)  I find I can relate to people around My own age better, and have more in common with them.  Also, I am not sexually attracted to men young enough to be My son, nor do I develop romantic feelings toward them.  In addition, I REALLY don't like it when the man I am with can be mistaken for My son.
 
When I was newer to the lifestyle, I did actually own a few slaves considerably younger than Myself (15 - 22 years younger).  While the BDSM aspect of the relatonship was fine, I felt that I did not have that much in common with them outside of the lifestyle.  I was also not sexually or romantically attracted to any of them. 
 
So for what I am seeking now, I would prefer someone fairly close to My own age.  I am sometimes approached at play parties by younger men, and will play with them casually if I like them as a person, but they are not what I seek in a life partner.  However, I do know some Dommes prefer subs much younger than themselves.
 
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RE: Does Mature Dommes(40-60) enjoy young men? - 1/6/2007 9:34:19 AM   
boy4StrictAunt


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ORIGINAL: MysticFireTopaz

Personally, I since I am seeking a sub or slave who would be My life partner as well, I would prefer someone around My own age (plus or minus ten years, roughly.)  I find I can relate to people around My own age better, and have more in common with them.  Also, I am not sexually attracted to men young enough to be My son, nor do I develop romantic feelings toward them.  In addition, I REALLY don't like it when the man I am with can be mistaken for My son.
 
When I was newer to the lifestyle, I did actually own a few slaves considerably younger than Myself (15 - 22 years younger).  While the BDSM aspect of the relatonship was fine, I felt that I did not have that much in common with them outside of the lifestyle.  I was also not sexually or romantically attracted to any of them. 
 
So for what I am seeking now, I would prefer someone fairly close to My own age.  I am sometimes approached at play parties by younger men, and will play with them casually if I like them as a person, but they are not what I seek in a life partner.  However, I do know some Dommes prefer subs much younger than themselves.
 
Lady Topaz



Lady Topaz I agree that you have to have an attraction with either other as well. I have found myself before thinking seriously about a marriage with a woman in her 40's and I think I would be ok with it as long as everything was worked out before hand vanilla side and all.

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RE: Does Mature Dommes(40-60) enjoy young men? - 1/6/2007 7:04:38 PM   
poplolly


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ORIGINAL: TxBlkMistress

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ORIGINAL: LadyEllen

I'll be 40 in December - does this mean I will be counted as mature? And have to act like it? Can anyone give me some pointers?

Another question; its said that women mature earlier than men. Does this mean, that if I stop the HRT now, I might be able to evade becoming and having to act mature for another, say ten or twenty years?

I dont wanna grow up!

Petra Pan
age 39, forever




LOL...yeah that "mature" thing got me too....now that's one thing I've never been accused of (being mature)....LOL

and never will...


As I've told My UM's:  I may have to grow older, but I don't EVER have to grow up! 

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RE: Does Mature Dommes(40-60) enjoy young men? - 1/6/2007 7:06:29 PM   
TxBlkMistress


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quote:

ORIGINAL: poplolly

quote:

ORIGINAL: TxBlkMistress

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyEllen

I'll be 40 in December - does this mean I will be counted as mature? And have to act like it? Can anyone give me some pointers?

Another question; its said that women mature earlier than men. Does this mean, that if I stop the HRT now, I might be able to evade becoming and having to act mature for another, say ten or twenty years?

I dont wanna grow up!

Petra Pan
age 39, forever




LOL...yeah that "mature" thing got me too....now that's one thing I've never been accused of (being mature)....LOL

and never will...


As I've told My UM's:  I may have to grow older, but I don't EVER have to grow up! 


amen!  lol

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RE: Does Mature Dommes(40-60) enjoy young men? - 1/6/2007 9:44:09 PM   
lunamor


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Status: offline 		boy4StrictAunt,

Keep the faith, maybe not everyone's into being a "strict aunt" but there are women who love to spend time being pampered, obeyed and occasionally feared by sweet, respectful younger guys.
I've been seeing a 29-year old for not quite 2 years, and today I had lunch with a 30-year old.
Neither of these relationships is going to be 'life partner' but I'm very carpe diem :-)
If you don't already know them, check out owym sites like www.agelesslove.com (can I say that?) or similar.
Anyway, keep looking, and good luck.
Lunamor

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RE: Does Mature Dommes(40-60) enjoy young men? - 1/7/2007 1:50:54 AM   
preetymistress


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Status: offline 		i am looking for a toilet slave for full toilet slave for daily toilet service. i am not finding one. any dome has similar experence?

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RE: Does Mature Dommes(40-60) enjoy young men? - 1/7/2007 8:54:31 AM   
BossySSBBW


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Status: offline 		I have misgivings about considering a 20 something male for the reasons many have stated here about wanting a life partner, but also I would have doubts about his wanting to be with a woman who ages and let's be real, aging breaks down the body.
Does he plan on the physical things that can come with aging and living with an older woman?
Will he stand by her in all things?  The future is a very unpredictable thing.
I think older men tend to think as we older women do.
Good luck with your search.

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RE: Does Mature Dommes(40-60) enjoy young men? - 1/7/2007 9:10:25 AM   
LTRSub4U


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Hey boy4 don’t you think your attitude is a bit out of line for a sub. Throwing cheap shots at a Mistress is not a good way to make a positive impression. The Mistress that has been playing with me is what you would call a mature woman, she doesn’t consider younger subs due to their lack of maturity as you have displayed here. If we go out she doesn’t want it to appear she has robbed the cradle. Not only that we have many common areas of interest that most younger men wouldn’t share. Each person is different, has different desires and interests. Focus on making yourself available to a Mistress that is interested in what you have to offer. Always remember you are there to meet up to her expectations and she has no responsibility to meet any of yours. If you develop that kind of attitude you will probably have a much easier time of finding what you are looking for.

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RE: Does Mature Dommes(40-60) enjoy young men? - 1/7/2007 10:10:25 AM   
lunamor


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RE: Does Mature Dommes(40-60) enjoy young men? - 1/7/2007 8:50:46 PM   
DommeChains


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Status: offline 		Stay optimistic my dear.  There are dominant women who adore younger men.  I married one 24 years younger than myself and we have worked out quite well.  I have had submissives from the entire age spectrum but tend to have the best connections with those younger than myself.  It is not that I am into age play....because I am not lol....but because I love the energy and the appreciation for an older, accomplished female that I have encountered with younger men in contrast to men nearer my age. 

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RE: Does Mature Dommes(40-60) enjoy young men? - 1/8/2007 3:30:04 AM   
lunamor


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I love the energy and the appreciation for an older, accomplished female that I have encountered with younger men in contrast to men nearer my age. 


Yup...what she said.

Lunamor

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RE: Does Mature Dommes(40-60) enjoy young men? - 1/21/2007 3:25:55 AM   
submale2006


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Status: offline 		This is in response to preetymistress' post regarding her search for a toilet slave. I have been searching for years for a mistress into this; however, haven't had any luck with finding at least someone in my own country. If you don't mind me asking, where are you from. I hope by some chance that you are close by.

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RE: Does Mature Dommes(40-60) enjoy young men? - 1/21/2007 7:20:45 AM   
MistressWolfen


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Status: offline 		Too funny Sue, that is EXACTLY what I was thinking. Darn a nice holiday and some fine dining are just what this ole gal needs :)

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RE: Does Mature Dommes(40-60) enjoy young men? - 1/21/2007 10:21:36 AM   
MistressYlwa


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Status: offline 		Guess it doesn't really matter, at this point. I prefer older, but gave gave his profile a look. Guess what I found? Nothing. He was gone. Just a boy who was looking to play around and then delete his profile. Another loser, like we don't have enough of them already. At least he wasn't on long enough to mess with too many people on her. LOL
 
Mistress Ylwa

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RE: Does Mature Dommes(40-60) enjoy young men? - 1/21/2007 1:31:13 PM   
gothicdiva


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ORIGINAL: LTRSub4U


Hey boy4 don’t you think your attitude is a bit out of line for a sub. Throwing cheap shots at a Mistress is not a good way to make a positive impression. The Mistress that has been playing with me is what you would call a mature woman, she doesn’t consider younger subs due to their lack of maturity as you have displayed here. If we go out she doesn’t want it to appear she has robbed the cradle. Not only that we have many common areas of interest that most younger men wouldn’t share. Each person is different, has different desires and interests. Focus on making yourself available to a Mistress that is interested in what you have to offer. Always remember you are there to meet up to her expectations and she has no responsibility to meet any of yours. If you develop that kind of attitude you will probably have a much easier time of finding what you are looking for.


I disagree with you, LTRSub. For one, I think that the "boy" in question is not only young, but appears to be a "newbie" to the scene. I don't think that it was his intention to "offend" anyone or to get "flamed." If the Mistress in question was offended, etc., she certainly could have spoken up in her own defense and I believe that she would have. I also totally disagree with your statement that "a Mistress has NO responsibility to meet any of a sub's expectations." A Mistress does have the responsibility to her sub to meet certain expectations/standards just as much as the sub does to her. To not do so is unconscionable. Just a few of these things are trustworthiness, respect (things such as limits), communication, confidence in her ability/skills, being honest and straightforward , etc. All of these things should be expected of BOTH parties. Anyway, I digress and do not want to get too "off-topic." Good luck to you Sub4 in your search for a Mistress that will suit YOUR needs.

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RE: Does Mature Dommes(40-60) enjoy young men? - 6/12/2007 3:44:24 AM   
maledave7


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Status: offline 		As a sub, I do prefer an older Domme. When I was younger and working at a hotel it seems that, many of the other workers were older women. I found them easier to talk to about different things. I find it easier to submit to an older Domme. They say that wine improves with age I believe Dommes do too.

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RE: Does Mature Dommes(40-60) enjoy young men? - 6/12/2007 4:53:08 AM   
Lashra


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Status: offline 		I'm 40ish and I prefer subs in their mid 30's. Althought my previous sub was 17 years younger than myself, that turned out to be a big learning lesson for both of us.

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RE: Does Mature Dommes(40-60) enjoy young men? - 6/12/2007 10:27:47 AM   
MHOO314


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Status: offline 		I personally do not, at one time I thought I did--as was mentioned before, the eye candy was fun, however being a Domina is what I am at all times, and conversation with someone younger is very hard---and understanding where an older persons head is at times gets lost on the young---I have found that too many want to play Mommy and son--I am sooooooooooo not there--My dream is a man close to My age (45 or so +) but with My same energy level--now that used to be a tough find---note I said used to be---<smiles>

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