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RE: Master says you are smothering Him - 1/9/2007 12:10:13 PM

littleone35

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I call my Master every morning but thats because that was set in place 11 months ago sometime i call him at night too but that is not a set rule. It is true it is upsetting when someone changes things all of a sudden. He should not have yelled at you for doing what you always done, but you 2 need to talk about this. Good luck.

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RE: Master says you are smothering Him - 1/9/2007 12:35:28 PM

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He just got back from the dentist, some people get traumatisd from dentist visits, maybe he was just a bit off kinda...or maybe he was in pain or...

Define some rules of contact between you both. When Master and I were chatting we spent every minute of everyday either chatting or on the phone (so there goes the theory of "the less attention the more they want" out the window)..by the time he got here I was glad cause I could finally get some sleep

Even now we are together, we are always together except when he is working or I'm with a client, he even comes home in his lunch break, we like being around each other..so yeah everyones different..work out the rules between you.

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RE: Master says you are smothering Him - 1/9/2007 1:30:21 PM

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He'd have done a lot better to admit his fear of dentist's ahead of time and say that he would call you once he was feeling better. By throwing a tantrum he's lost some of your respect. By changing the rules with no warning he's lost trust.

I wouldn't call him anymore and I would keep conversations short. I'd stop sharing things and if I was asked about it I would inform him that as per his instructions I was trying not to smother him. Then I'd let him get himself out of the mess he got himself into. Part of being dominant means taking the responsibility for things, not just the perks. I'd want to know that he was capable of apologising for handling things extremely poorly and how he proposed not to repeat this in the future.

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RE: Master says you are smothering Him - 1/9/2007 5:18:22 PM

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     I am one of those people that needs space and hates smothering.   It works for my relationship because Master is the same exact way.   We have never done the daily phone call thing.   Yes sometimes he will call twice in the same day, sometimes, we will talk everyday for a week straight, but normally we talk every few days.   It's always been that way for us because when we met, we began our relationship as friends. Neither of us were seeking a romantic relationship, so we began as friends and over time we developed a deeper bond, but by that time we had already developed a foundation of trust and security.
   I guess I kind of enjoy, speaking every few days and catching up on things.   Even when we are together, there isn't a huge need to spend every second together talking.    For me there is something golden about being able to be together in the same room, silently enjoying each other's company.

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RE: Master says you are smothering Him - 1/9/2007 9:50:28 PM

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Maybe he was just having a really bad day. His trip to the dentist may not have been a pleasant experience for him, he may seriously hate it. Maybe he had treatment that caused him pain and is a bit of a baby when it comes to pain and this causes him embarrassment and he's not likely to tell his submissive that now is he. The way he behaved was wrong towards you as you hadn't actually done anything wrong.

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RE: Master says you are smothering Him - 1/10/2007 12:54:21 AM

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your whole post smacks of petulant pouty tantrum, and emotional manipulation. and is quite frankly probably going to come off to the top as emotional manipulation too.

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I wouldn't call him anymore and I would keep conversations short. I'd stop sharing things and if I was asked about it I would inform him that as per his instructions I was trying not to smother him.

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RE: Master says you are smothering Him - 1/10/2007 3:15:53 AM

sweetnsoftinpa

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i thank E/everyone for their replys. we did talk lasy night and He has said that He was sorry. that He had handled that badly and did not mean to take out His trip to the denisit on me. He told me that i did nothing wrong. He does not want to set up a call schdule because He said it is to constricting for Him, but it is ok to talk every other to every few days. so i do thank you again.

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RE: Master says you are smothering Him - 1/10/2007 3:34:58 AM

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I'm glad you got that problem resolved. I think LA has it right. You needed to talk and you did.

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