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RE: How do you know when you find your true Master? - 1/10/2007 7:14:51 AM   
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Status: offline 		very good thread........It is  very interesting to hear mature people talk about the lifetyle rather than the bs most feed on in hte chat rooms....Thank You

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RE: How do you know when you find your true Master? - 1/10/2007 8:33:46 AM   
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Status: offline 		you will know a true master by his skill level. all real masters can braid whips, perform all aspects of shibari and have a vast knowledge of all aspects of bdsm. anyone else is as they say...a jack of all trades!

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RE: How do you know when you find your true Master? - 1/10/2007 8:36:17 AM   
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RE: How do you know when you find your true Master? - 1/10/2007 8:45:18 AM   
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RE: How do you know when you find your true Master? - 1/10/2007 8:52:59 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Padriag

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ORIGINAL: Archer

Personally I think the One true Master/ soulmate stuff is crap.
Now that will upset a few folks, but it's my view.
Personally I think there are several really good matches for each of us out there people who we can form viable loving fulfiling relationships with, rather than a single "soulmate".

A study I read years ago (I forget which one it was) made the claim that statistically for each of us there was an average of 50,000 people with whom we could find romantic bliss.  Course for some of us, that 50,000 happens to all live on another continent.... LOL

I do believe in the concept of "soulmates", even if I don't believe in souls.  There are those special individuals you meet with whom you share a deep connection.  I've experienced it in the past.  I'm also self aware enough to know exactly why it happened, what it was about her that allowed that to happen.  There wasn't anything mystical too it, it was a matter of the kind of person she was and how that meshed with who I was at the time.  I also know it can happen again, provided I find someone with whom who I am now meshes with just as well.

So to answer the OPs question... only you can know when you've met the right person.  And sometimes, you might be wrong.  You're human and we all make mistakes.  Sometimes we get hung up on all the wrong things and miss a real gem.  Sometimes we trust the wrong person and let ourselves be fooled.  It happens to us all.  All we can do is try to learn from each experience, try to get to know ourselves better, know better what is really important to us and keep following our hearts while still listening to our heads.


As usual, someone else has said it better than I could.


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RE: How do you know when you find your true Master? - 1/10/2007 8:54:27 AM   
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ORIGINAL: subsidize

you will know a true master by his skill level. all real masters can braid whips, perform all aspects of shibari and have a vast knowledge of all aspects of bdsm. anyone else is as they say...a jack of all trades!


Must be a lists of tests that have to be passed before a Master's certificate is awarded..........


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Just because you are well educated, articulate, and can use big, fancy words, properly........does not mean you are right!

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RE: How do you know when you find your true Master? - 1/10/2007 10:04:38 AM   
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There is no supposed "One" True" Master for each submissive. That's like saying there is only one person for us in the world. Be Realistic.

There are many people we fit and meld well with. Some better then others. But just because someone seems perfect in every way, it still might not mean they are the one for you.

You know you are with a good partner when the chemistry is right, when you have more in common then just your kinks, when everyday you just want to be with them, near them, talk to them. But even then, it's not a guarrentee that you're meant to be together long term.

being kinky doesn't mean anything more then being vanilla when it comes to finding the right partner. Life is life and that never changes.

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RE: How do you know when you find your true Master? - 1/10/2007 10:49:03 AM   
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Is it by luck, by the intimate connection of the heart and soul, is it some magical paradigm?  Is it the wings he creates for you to fly that only he alone could?  Is it the spark of fires in his soul that ignites you to become one with him?


mirkala wants to meet that in her life.

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RE: How do you know when you find your true Master? - 1/10/2007 8:58:21 PM   
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RE: How do you know when you find your true Master? - 1/10/2007 9:39:11 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Archer

Personally I think the One true Master/ soulmate stuff is crap.
Now that will upset a few folks, but it's my view.
Personally I think there are several really good matches for each of us out there people who we can form viable loving fulfiling relationships with, rather than a single "soulmate".



You would be correct, in a sense. A soul mate is anyone who can make us happy, who helps to make our lives whole and from whom we learn life lessons.

A twin flame is more akin to the "one true love", for they were born a part of our soul. When we meet them, we know them and remember them forever. Even if our encounter was a brief second.

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RE: How do you know when you find your true Master? - 1/10/2007 9:39:15 PM   
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Status: offline 		For someone who is "knew" to the scene you seem to know alot of terminology to apply your sarcasm with. There are some that are going to think your answer serious and waste their time responding, just as I am doing.

To the OP, a nice pair of comfortable shoes are hard to find. They can last you years, sometimes for the rest of your life as you get them resoled, and mended. Sometimes you may go through many before you find a pair that you decide you like enough to keep around for a long time. As long as the shoes are comfortable, and you like how they look, then do not worry so much how long they will last, if you like them enough you will likely keep them around for a very long time.

I do not buy into the "one true" person idea. We find someone that  we are attracted to, we find if there are similar interests, we look for other things that may endear them to us, and then we make a judgement as we go. I hope you can find someone that you consider your one true Master, but if you think there is only one then it is likely you will never find them in this huge world. I think you should just look for a good pair of shoes.

Orion


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ORIGINAL: subsidize

you will know a true master by his skill level. all real masters can braid whips, perform all aspects of shibari and have a vast knowledge of all aspects of bdsm. anyone else is as they say...a jack of all trades!

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RE: How do you know when you find your true Master? - 1/10/2007 10:48:59 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Tontita

i agree completely with Archer.  The soulmate crap is crap.


actually that is not exactly what he is saying....... he is talking that there is not a singular soulmate concept... but the potential of many people that could exemplify an intimate connection of such level that it could be considered a soulmate to a person

As a person that is Poly... I am fortunate to have a intimate relationship with two individuals that are my soulmates.  This is not to regard that we our spiritual souls are specifically faithed to be mated together.  It is more a reflection of a deep intimate connection that is bonded by physical, emotional, intellectual and a spiritual foundation.  Because I am poly... I have opened myself to be bonded to more than just one individual.  However, the two individuals that I have brought into my life doesn't equate that their isn't others out there that couldn't be just as deeply connected to me.  But, by my choice... I am not prepared to open myself to others in the future.  I have found and picked my flowers.. the rest are for others to pick as they choose.

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RE: How do you know when you find your true Master? - 1/10/2007 10:55:11 PM   
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ORIGINAL: sapphireC

Is it by luck, by the intimate connection of the heart and soul, is it some magical paradigm?  Is it the wings he creates for you to fly that only he alone could?  Is it the spark of fires in his soul that ignites you to become one with him?


you know when you take that leap of faith and choose!!!

you also know when he is not the one, and you pull the parachute cord after taking the leap!

In otherwords..

You know he is the one as long as you choose that he is the one. 

It is a continual choice that validates your orginal leap of faith that he is the one.

< Message edited by KnightofMists -- 1/10/2007 10:56:20 PM >

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RE: How do you know when you find your true Master? - 1/10/2007 11:02:46 PM   
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Status: offline 		When you feel like you have met your true master, then you have found him. He will be your true master until he isn't anymore. If your true master and you part ways, there will always be someone else come along to master you truly too.

My point is only this, you may meet the master of your dreams tomorrow, spend a year or two together, part ways, would that make the time you spent any less? Enjoy each moment for what it is, for it is real and true in the moment it exists.

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RE: How do you know when you find your true Master? - 1/10/2007 11:17:30 PM   
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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania
My point is only this, you may meet the master of your dreams tomorrow, spend a year or two together, part ways, would that make the time you spent any less? Enjoy each moment for what it is, for it is real and true in the moment it exists.


Yes it could... it all depends on why the individuas parted ways.... if one parted because a person's orginally choice was given based on information or knowledge that was deceptive..  would be very different than if they parted because their interests grew in different directions.

I have had a relationship in the past that I very fondly remember and savor for the experience..... I have had a relationship in the past that I hold no fond regard or savored moments for.  One was honest the other was not.

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RE: How do you know when you find your true Master? - 1/10/2007 11:31:20 PM   
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ORIGINAL: KnightofMists

quote:

ORIGINAL: juliaoceania
My point is only this, you may meet the master of your dreams tomorrow, spend a year or two together, part ways, would that make the time you spent any less? Enjoy each moment for what it is, for it is real and true in the moment it exists.


Yes it could... it all depends on why the individuas parted ways.... if one parted because a person's orginally choice was given based on information or knowledge that was deceptive..  would be very different than if they parted because their interests grew in different directions.

I have had a relationship in the past that I very fondly remember and savor for the experience..... I have had a relationship in the past that I hold no fond regard or savored moments for.  One was honest the other was not.


At one time I would have agreed, and yet I find myself grateful for what came before. My first was who he was, which I believe he lacked some integrity, it ended poorly. I wished for friendship either way, but he could not accept that either. There was anger, disillusionment, and sadness. But he was what he was to me, and I truly submitted to him. In those moments  I learned about things deeply held within me will never cease to be, even though "we" ceased to be. In the moment it was what it was.

How do you know your true master? When you truly submit yourself to him. As he said the first time I got on my knees for him, he will always be the first to receive my power, and one gives a little piece of themselves when they truly submit. I can never get that back. I really have no desire to anymore.

But he was not "The One". I do not believe in "The One". I am my Daddy's now, he gets my submission. He is truly my Dom. We exist in this moment, hopefully in many many moments to come. It is what it is, no matter what where it goes. What he teaches me about myself (which is ten fold what I learned from my first) will always be. He will take a piece of me with him where ever he goes. I gave it to him.

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RE: How do you know when you find your true Master? - 1/11/2007 1:05:33 AM   
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Status: offline 		i know when i was a young lady- i would look into a mirror at midnight on Halloween and wonder what my "prince"  would look like.  During my years of learning lust- i searched for a prince that could stream a mirror and now as i get older- i hold a mirror under His nose, if he can "fog it"...... oh lord how i am changing.

i agree with the O/others. Do not hold out for your "phantom lover" He does not exist anywhere but in our minds. Enjoy meeting and learning and true- when you meet a good match- you will know it in an instant and have no need to ask.  Until then enjoy and be open to all kinds of possiblilities.  The ending may surprise you, you may meet a Man you never would have thought in a million years would be your "true" Master.

An old stats prof: used to say- "keep it simple, it will complicate itself more than enough later on in the experiment." 





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RE: How do you know when you find your true Master? - 1/11/2007 8:30:53 AM   
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Status: offline 		How will you know simple in a weeks time he will be that asshole you never want to see again and out everywhere you can for not being perfect, It will of course be totaly his fault that he is human and has flaws that he is not that perfect fairytale person. There are no knights on white horses no pot of gold at the end of the rainbow just humans doing the best they can, if you find one you are atracted to whos smelly feet you can put up with and you find the fact he scratches his balls in public from time to time endearing, then take a chance and see where it goes.

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RE: How do you know when you find your true Master? - 1/11/2007 9:50:22 AM   
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RE: How do you know when you find your true Master? - 1/11/2007 10:45:04 AM   
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Status: offline 		'Acceptable' seems like a difficult enough beast at times.

Where do you feel 'true' would fall on that curve?

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