LadyHugs
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Dear Trampler, Ladies and Gentlemen;
In reference to your post, to which your opinion was that male Dominants should mentor other male Dominants and that Female Dominants wouldn't know how to mentor as a man, a female who is new in dominating others, I wish to make some observations and comments.
As a mentor, most of those I've mentored have been men who identify as Dominant. Some of these new to the scene men were met by other men who were dominant, with cold shoulders and not helpful at all. Some men seemingly see new men coming in as competition. And, perhaps competition is good but, I've watched new dominants struggle. As a woman, I'm not into the male games. I've seen female dominants work better under mentoring by male dominants.
When the technical skills for whips, canes, bondage and such are well on their way; the art of domination is gender neutral. So is the art of submission. In my opinion, both men and women should participate in education and skills exchanges.
I also see dominant skills similiar to any authority based position; such as police officers, fire fighters, EMTs, military soldier, officers in para-military and or military venues. Women have also ridden on motorcycles, are documented in such in manner. So, those trained and or placed in a position as to need to do what was often deemed men's work and or men's place--women have gone into those positions by choice and or necessity.
Relationship matters in D/s and or M/s, BDSM and or S&M. Genders may have some impact but, dealing with individuals--is not about sex it is about the human factor. The benefits of both genders is great.
I wish that genders were not automaticly cancelled out of consideration as the the quality and quantity of skills, knowledge and or experiences.
In summary, in my mind's eyes I see when there is any exclusion from resources as it applies to education and skills; it is no difference from bold prejudice against any sex, any race and or any belief and or practices within the community at large. True, a male dominant may not be able to fully know what it is like to be a female dominant, nor would women know what it is like to be a male dominant. It can carry on over to not knowing what it takes to be a Black domina or a Gay Asian Dominant. Further carrying, would go to those dominants who were in submission prior to going into Domination and those who have never submitted period. In my mind's eyes I see--all opportunities to learn from others should be seized and not exclude any resources based on gender, color or preferences of their BDSM practices.
Just some thoughts.
Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs
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