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Why me? - 1/10/2007 8:22:02 AM

subdued4service

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A short while ago i came across a profile i found to be well written and clever. i responded to tell Her i admired Her words. Of course i was not worthy of Her attention and so She did not read my email. i posted my comments in my collarme journal and She responded. Since then i have received daily instruction from Her. i understand my obedience to Her instruction pleases Her, which is my goal. Having read Her profile i understand i fall just outside some of Her requirements furthermore i have not sent a face pic something She requires from all those who email Her. She has not asked for one either. my goal is to obey Her and in doing so to develop something more then a casual experience. i do not know what She desires from me. Certainly She could find obedience in other males. i have to think that within the dynamic of this lifestyle the relationship is more then instruction and obedience. Of course on the surface it appears that way but beneath there is more. Devotion, loyalty, adoration. my question is, absent the face pic, She relies only on my words and deeds which brings me to this, why me? i could be hideous.

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RE: Why me? - 1/10/2007 8:29:33 AM

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The hideous are people too.

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RE: Why me? - 1/10/2007 8:47:33 AM

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The hideous are people too.

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No I'm Not!!!! ;-)

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RE: Why me? - 1/10/2007 8:59:14 AM

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ORIGINAL: subdued4service

A short while ago i came across a profile i found to be well written and clever. i responded to tell Her i admired Her words. Of course i was not worthy of Her attention and so She did not read my email. i posted my comments in my collarme journal and She responded. Since then i have received daily instruction from Her. i understand my obedience to Her instruction pleases Her, which is my goal. Having read Her profile i understand i fall just outside some of Her requirements furthermore i have not sent a face pic something She requires from all those who email Her. She has not asked for one either. my goal is to obey Her and in doing so to develop something more then a casual experience. i do not know what She desires from me. Certainly She could find obedience in other males. i have to think that within the dynamic of this lifestyle the relationship is more then instruction and obedience. Of course on the surface it appears that way but beneath there is more. Devotion, loyalty, adoration. my question is, absent the face pic, She relies only on my words and deeds which brings me to this, why me? i could be hideous.

You are not getting what you want or need because your self worth is zilch. So, why you? Because you call your fear and revel in the shadow aspects of the Victim archetype.

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RE: Why me? - 1/10/2007 9:04:36 AM

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ORIGINAL: subdued4service
my question is, absent the face pic, She relies only on my words and deeds which brings me to this, why me? i could be hideous.

Don't second guess her judgement. Obviously your words and deeds are not hideous to her as she continues to grace you with her time, attention, and instruction.

Why you? Why *not* you? Just accept that she has chosen to instruct you for a reason, and whatever reason it may be is good enough for her.

TXssbbwGODDESS

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RE: Why me? - 1/10/2007 9:13:47 AM

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She already assumes your hideous. If you weren't hideous, you'd have a photo.

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RE: Why me? - 1/10/2007 9:51:59 AM

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That's harsh MarcMerkin, I have no photo and I'm not hideous, or at least not according to most of the people I've met.
Also she may be one of those people that know that once you get to know someone image is not that important. They could be the ugliest person in the world and look gorgeous to you if you've just gotten to know them. And yes I've seen this happen. A guy who most people think is ugly, and his wife thinks he's the most hansome guy in the world, and she's not just syaing that, she actually beleives it. So maybe she knows that this happens and has decided since you've pleased her so far then looks are not overly important.

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RE: Why me? - 1/10/2007 11:15:15 AM

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If you know this would please her instead of being such a nervous nelly why don't you just send her a photo of you as a surprise. Then this issue will dissolve.
Maybe you sparked something in her desire to be an online Domme to you and the photo requirement is for people she expects to see face to face.
Maybe she's not qualified your communications enough to feel she needs one yet.
Maybe instead of saying maybe you should just ask her why.
suzanne

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RE: Why me? - 1/10/2007 5:17:07 PM

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Have you seen a pic of her? You appear to be relying on her words alone, as well.

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RE: Why me? - 1/10/2007 5:40:06 PM

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Or there is a reason why some of us have no pics...for example, I have do not have a digital camera. You are a fucking idiot.

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She already assumes your hideous. If you weren't hideous, you'd have a photo.

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RE: Why me? - 1/10/2007 5:46:07 PM

michaelOfGeorgia

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i recently had a Mistress express an interest in me and, after several emails, things seemed to be looking up. a collar was mentioned in time and She seemed very taken with me...now She doens't even read any of my emails. guess it's time to move on.

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RE: Why me? - 1/10/2007 5:46:07 PM

bandit25

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Although he may very well be a fucking idiot, you could take a "regular" photo scan it and then upload it if you really want a pic.

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RE: Why me? - 1/10/2007 5:46:26 PM

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She already assumes your hideous. If you weren't hideous, you'd have a photo.

Or a half-photo of your self in the shadows.

Just kidding.

But seriously, first impressions are supposed to carry the weight of yourself, but is that ever how it really works? Maybe she's looking past her initial reaction. Or maybe it's just mind games...

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RE: Why me? - 1/10/2007 6:13:31 PM

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Maybe She's keeping Herself amused with you while waiting for someone better who will obey with a PHOTO to come along!

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RE: Why me? - 1/10/2007 6:37:21 PM

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Now that was way harsh! LOL!

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RE: Why me? - 1/10/2007 7:32:19 PM

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It's 2007. Digital cameras first appeared in the early nineties, you can even buy disposable ones now. Scanners have existed just as long. Not having a picture is an excuse.

Not wanting to show your picture can be explained away, but I can understand someone who wants to see a picture.

I automatically assume, when someone doesn't want to send a picture, that they are either lying about something, overly self-conscious, or not capable of connecting two cords together and double clicking a few times, none of which being a trait I look for.

There's always an excuse, but rarely a reason.

Yours,

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RE: Why me? - 1/10/2007 9:36:53 PM

lucreziaborgia

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subdued: if your goal is to obey Her, why do you purposefully dis-obey her?

Could it be you are the little white mouse in her experiment? Or does she pity you?

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RE: Why me? - 1/10/2007 10:35:02 PM

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No, you are all wrong. You are harping on the pic thing which is silly. i am far from hideous, this is my point. " Get a ditigal camera, loser," you're losing site of what i am saying. i explained the situation and yet it seems people are fixated on the visual. It has nothing to do with how She views me nor is it how i view myself. my question was relating to how She viewed my words and actions absent my own pic. In otherwords, how does She view me absent a pic. That is what it is all about, right? I t isn't how one appears but rather how one obeys. The hideous comment was meant to inspire debate, it wasn't a self reflection nor was it indictment of myself. In the original post i said, i could be hideous. i do relate to Her words alone. i never said, i am afraid to post a pic.. i never said, i have no pic to post. Yet that is the inference from those who cannot read. i thankYou for those who responded and wish You all well as i am rather pleasant to look at. Quite striking, they say.

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RE: Why me? - 1/10/2007 10:48:05 PM

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While its really hard to actually fathom some people dont care about looks.
I am one of those people and met several without ever knowing what they look like until they got to My door.I go by the conversations I have with them to judge whether they are a GOOD person not a whether they are handsome/pretty.

I would soooo much rather do a session with a "unattractive" person than one who thinks they are all that because they are good looking.As a matter of fact some of those "pretty boy" types are turned down when asking for another session.
My pet rock has a better personality than they do....LOL

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RE: Why me? - 1/11/2007 6:00:46 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: subdued4service

No, you are all wrong. You are harping on the pic thing which is silly. i am far from hideous, this is my point. " Get a ditigal camera, loser," you're losing site of what i am saying. i explained the situation and yet it seems people are fixated on the visual. It has nothing to do with how She views me nor is it how i view myself. my question was relating to how She viewed my words and actions absent my own pic. In otherwords, how does She view me absent a pic. That is what it is all about, right? I t isn't how one appears but rather how one obeys. The hideous comment was meant to inspire debate, it wasn't a self reflection nor was it indictment of myself. In the original post i said, i could be hideous. i do relate to Her words alone. i never said, i am afraid to post a pic.. i never said, i have no pic to post. Yet that is the inference from those who cannot read. i thankYou for those who responded and wish You all well as i am rather pleasant to look at. Quite striking, they say.

I think when all communication is done online, it is very possible to focus on the words and develop some sort of relationship without having seen each other. It appears that you both are focused on each others words since no pics have been exchanged, and that seems to work for you both. Issues can arise if/when there is a decision to meet offline, in my opinion, because we build ideas up in our heads, and everything may not be as we once thought.

Be well,
Julie

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