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What is your fantasy? - 1/13/2007 3:39:18 PM   
cuddleheart50


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Status: offline 		Ok, This is a rant!  I am getting so tired of doms writing me and asking me what is my fantasy!  My fantasy right now is for everyone to stop asking me what my fantasy is!  Have you ever heard of getting to know a person first, then asking what their fantasies are?  Ok, I feel better now.

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RE: What is your fantasy? - 1/13/2007 3:44:48 PM   
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cuddleheart50
 
No doubt! it seems that "ALOT" of Dom's what to know what turns you on, your kinks,fantisy's and so on. I often ask the same question. " Why not get to know someone as a person first!?"


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RE: What is your fantasy? - 1/13/2007 3:46:20 PM   
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Did you read one toady?
What did your Master and you do this morning?

actual questions from the stalker Dom until i blocked him

i agree some don't want to know you first and consider the art of conversation and knowing a woman to be overrated.


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RE: What is your fantasy? - 1/13/2007 3:48:22 PM   
cuddleheart50


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Status: offline 		Thank you ladies, at least I'm not the only one who feels this way.

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RE: What is your fantasy? - 1/13/2007 3:58:21 PM   
LadyEllen


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Status: offline 		Tell them you've always liked Lord Of The Rings as your favourite fantasy genre.

You know, getting Legolas smoking that Hobbit weed stuff, then a bit of Goblin. No SAMs.

E

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RE: What is your fantasy? - 1/13/2007 3:59:18 PM   
slavejali


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Status: offline 		I kinda think a lot of people use internet exchange to a large degree as interactive porn. Which is all good. We all know people read and get off on porn and wouldn't it be more exciting if that porn was interactive lol. I can see where those people are coming from and so don't worry at all when that kinda stuff happens...they will just find my pages, unstimulating and move on quite quickly unless I decide I want to have a bit of fun and play along too. I think the main deal is, just keep things in perspective, then things won't upset you so much.

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RE: What is your fantasy? - 1/13/2007 4:00:20 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: cuddleheart50

Ok, This is a rant!  I am getting so tired of doms writing me and asking me what is my fantasy!  My fantasy right now is for everyone to stop asking me what my fantasy is!  Have you ever heard of getting to know a person first, then asking what their fantasies are?  Ok, I feel better now.


so um  does this mean you not gonna share your fantasy???  *smirk*

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RE: What is your fantasy? - 1/13/2007 4:03:26 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: KnightofMists

quote:

ORIGINAL: cuddleheart50

Ok, This is a rant!  I am getting so tired of doms writing me and asking me what is my fantasy!  My fantasy right now is for everyone to stop asking me what my fantasy is!  Have you ever heard of getting to know a person first, then asking what their fantasies are?  Ok, I feel better now.


so um  does this mean you not gonna share your fantasy???  *smirk*


You know she could write it out for all of us and then when they email her asking for it, she can refer them to the post where she outlines her deepest fantasies...then again, that might not be the best idea

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RE: What is your fantasy? - 1/13/2007 4:07:44 PM   
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Status: offline 		so um  does this mean you not gonna share your fantasy???  *smirk*

Only with you...

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RE: What is your fantasy? - 1/13/2007 4:51:14 PM   
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Status: offline 		They are looking for masturbatory material.
I can understand that question within the context of a getting-to-know you scenario.  But in the first emails?  No way.


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RE: What is your fantasy? - 1/13/2007 8:20:49 PM   
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ORIGINAL: KatyLied

They are looking for masturbatory material.
I can understand that question within the context of a getting-to-know you scenario.  But in the first emails?  No way.



I agree with this. I have no problem if after some time they want this specific question or maybe early on they might be poorly wording the question of what is a passion for you in this area, but in the first or second message it almost always looks like it is them wanting something to make their cock hard.

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RE: What is your fantasy? - 1/14/2007 12:10:38 AM   
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yeah, back in the day I once would ask chicks their fantasies, as since mine were so vivid and colorful and very detailed, I was sort of amazed at the frowns and clam-ups I got. Didn't take long for my dumbass to figure out that:

a.  chicks just don't have fantasies
b. they're not about to tell you.
c. they are so general as to be "subject only"
d. their fantasies are no one's business, and certainly not offered up as free "wanking material."
e. all of the above.

I'm sure there's a reason I maybe havent listed, like them fearing you'll sully their reputation by telling all your buddies. And I think the very existence of this thread is indicative of the womanly mindset which somehow takes exception to such things. I'm guessing deep down, ladies just don't really want anyone, or perhaps any man knowing what they think about a fender bender, much less their sexual fantasies, since ive even gone as far as to force a couple chicks I had tied up to tell me their juiciest one or take the consequences...you guessed it, they both gladly took the consequences. What did I do to em?
Like I would tell any of you secretive lil hotresses.

hehe, it hurt 'em so good.
...more than you deserve to know...lol.

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RE: What is your fantasy? - 1/14/2007 8:00:16 AM   
cuddleheart50


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Status: offline 		My fantasies are not for strangers.  Once I get to know a person really well, then I have no problem telling them.

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RE: What is your fantasy? - 1/14/2007 8:09:33 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: cuddleheart50

My fantasies are not for strangers.  Once I get to know a person really well, then I have no problem telling them.


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RE: What is your fantasy? - 1/14/2007 8:42:54 AM   
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Status: offline 		Here is what I hate:

When a potential date asks questions- but doesnt offer equivalent information to me. The premise is he- and he alone will decide if it is worth it. SHOCKER: it is a 2 way street.  YOU can want me 1000%, but if I have no information on you, then you are just another bozo!!!! 

I cant want you- since you offerred me nothing. You did not trigger the mechanisom in my brain, that says-"hey this man is worth my time".

Gentlemen, alot of you do this.  If your life is missing a female- this is why.

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RE: What is your fantasy? - 1/14/2007 9:05:44 AM   
feylin


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Status: offline 		I actually enjoy writing out a fantasy and certainly enjoy reading erotica.  In fact, I find it more of a turn on than watching porn.

Last year I wrote out my idea of an exciting, wonderful evening and showed it to a male friend.  He ripped it apart ~ all constructive criticism to be sure. It need more of this and less of that. <blinks> Uh huh.  I took my porn and went home! lol

I feel reluctant to share the story with anyone I do not know.  Still, it is not my deepest and darkest either.  I doubt I could ever put that down on paper and, if pushed, would probably take the consequences as well.  There is always that fear that someone else will be apalled at your very darkest thoughts.  Heck, sometimes I am appalled, albeit turned on.

Holding out until you spell out the "consequences,"
Christine

To the OP:  I recently (just last week, I think) received an email on CM that said the following:

m or f

I was overcome by the succinct yet sweetly touching interest in that simple line (sans punctuation).  Wrote him my life story, sent my address, phone number and social security number promising to be his forever if only he would bless me with another message.  I was praying for an "L."  Yet to receive it.  Maybe I'll just go ahead and order cable.  hehe

Its the picture isn't it? I'm looking a little longshoreman-esque?

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RE: What is your fantasy? - 1/14/2007 9:32:15 AM   
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There is a dom from CM that I have become rather close with.  I finally decided to let him read some of the stories I had written, so that he could see my fantasies and what I crave.   He did the same thing as feyline mentioned ... he told me things that were missing or what there was too much of ... and then he told me I should make changes and rewrite it ... hello?!?!  This is MY fantasy ... why would I change it to your thoughts and opinions ... needless to say ... I have never sessioned with him because I feel he doesn't quite understand what I need and enjoy ... although I now know his needs and preferences very well, thanks to his input, hehe.


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RE: What is your fantasy? - 1/14/2007 9:45:05 AM   
MySweetSubmssive


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Status: offline 		I *completely* get you on this one! 

I think a lot of women need to know someone before they share that part of themselves.  Just because this is a site that's about BDSM and sex does not mean that we (I) want to talk only about that and with a stranger.  It gets draining.  It's part of the reason I'm taking a break from looking for a while.

Guys like mgdartist may find it perverse and unfathomable, but nothing turns me on more than a juicy intelligence, kindness and willingness to defer to my desires. 

MSS

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RE: What is your fantasy? - 1/14/2007 9:48:36 AM   
DonkeyHoetee


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Status: offline 		I thought I would chime in with the scenerio I find myself turned on with these days:
 
My current and most charged fantasy I envision, and do hope to treat myself to sometime this year, is to submit myself to the power(s) of 2 dominants - a scene, where I'm enslaved by a mistress AND a master simultaneously.

(Could be 2 mistresses, though I more find myself in my richest fantasies dominated by M & F.)

Recently, I had an powerful, intense, and elegant session with a lovely Bay Area Dominatrix.  ... good friend of mine ... my fantasy often involves a scene with her and another dominant ...

Well, the range of activities in the fantasy overflow from my imagination ....

(the "brain"... what a sex organ!)

I think 2007 will be a good year ....

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RE: What is your fantasy? - 1/14/2007 9:48:38 AM   
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Status: offline 		It is a little foreward I suppose, but there really isn't any faster way of "getting to know" a person than sharing fantasies, and I think it's more interesting than playing 20 questions. How far into an online relationship do you have to be in order to ask about fantasies?

I've talked to women on here where I know every detail of their lives except what their fantasies are - others get to the point more quickly. I think men see it more as an exercise in imagination, we're going to fantasize whether you give us anything or not - women see it as more revealing, i.e., they feel more vulnurable in sharing their fantasies.

Recognizing that sharing fantasies skirts the line into cybersex, which isn't for everybody - I've never even tried it although I might one of these days - it is safe sex, after all.

But not making any judgements one way or the other, I'm curious as to what the reticence is based on.



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