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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

Go get drunk, fuck a lot of girls, break a few hearts, let yours get ripped out a few times and THEN start trying to figure out what you are doing.

At your age you could become a talented top but being a dominant requires a lot of life experience and self knowledge, something few people aquire before their 30s. 

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ORIGINAL: strata

I need some advice on afew things, and thought what better place to ask then here. Im relitivly new to the liftstyle, Ive been in it for alittle longer then a year at this point. I concider myself to be a dom. Now i've done some of my research on the lifestyle, Ive asked people who have been in it longer, but i still have my questions. The biggest problem i have right now however, Is i dont have much, if any, Personal expereance when it comes to the lifestyle. So at times, im not ever sure where i should start with anything, Or how i can even get deeper in. It seems as though most of the people i meet or talk to, do not wish to waist their time, helping a novice really gain the knowlage and expereance that will help later on in life. Im wondering if anyone else has had a problem like this before and what they were able to do about it.

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ORIGINAL: MadRabbit

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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

Go get drunk, fuck a lot of girls, break a few hearts, let yours get ripped out a few times and THEN start trying to figure out what you are doing.

At your age you could become a talented top but being a dominant requires a lot of life experience and self knowledge, something few people aquire before their 30s. 

I have to say this is some of the best advice your going to get. Take it from someone a bit closer to your age.

Read books, find a local community, practice on your own, and find some cute girls to have some kinky sex with or just want someone who is dominant in the bedroom and vanilla everywhere else.. There is seminars and educational events at the communities you can attend to learn how to be a Top.

Being a dominant, however, isnt an overnight thing. Its a life long process, a path. If your serious about having a D/S relationship and serious about owning another human being, then just forget about it for awhile. As Michael said above, it takes a lot of life experience and self knowledge and self improvement, as well as time, energy, resources, and commitment. Going to college, beginning a career, having a steady income, and ironing out all your personal issues has to come first. Personally, I am stable and comfortable enough to have a submissive on a part time basis, but I still have plenty in my own life (years to go) before I can even realistically consider a full time live in relationship.

Take a good look at your own life. Often are you late for work? How many jobs have you gone threw in the last year? How often do you pay your bills on time? How many mornings out of the week begin with hangovers? In your encounters with women, what came first...your dick or their best interests? Do middle aged adults compliment you on your maturity? If you were a submissive, would you give up control and responsibility to you?

Also...no offense, but just the blunt truth....after reading your profile, I can tell you have a lot to learn about dominance, submission, and power exchange. Your pets are real, living, breathing people with emotions, fealings, expectations, and needs and they arent simply players in a game for your amusement either.

However, if you are willing to listen and learn and you have what it takes, the more experienced and wise dominants in the communities will teach you. Very few on collarme.com that dont know you in realtime will take time from sub hunting to give answers that are going to take a lot of time for you to wrap your head around completely. Take the time and patience to find them and get your bearings first before even thinking about taking on a sub.

There is a LOT more to directing and handling someone who has entrusted you with their bodies, mind, and heart then just saying "Suck, it bitch" when you feal like it.

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ORIGINAL: MadRabbit

If you were a submissive, would you give up control and responsibility to you?

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ORIGINAL: solia

No whining.  Initially, this is addictive and you may want your partner to magically be available when you want and if they are not because they have a life as well, NO POUTING about it!  No whining, no poo-poo head mopping around and asking for reassurance that you 'do it for them.'  No calling a million times in an attempt to wear them out.  No drive bys to see if they really are doing what it is that is keeping them from your desires. The 'I don't have a life or any goals that I'm fulfilling pouty boy thing' is a most unattractive trait in any type of relationship and should lead to immediate firing in my book.  Communicate, negotiate and schedule.  It's just like dating. 
Take care!

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ORIGINAL: MadRabbit

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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

Go get drunk, fuck a lot of girls, break a few hearts, let yours get ripped out a few times and THEN start trying to figure out what you are doing.

At your age you could become a talented top but being a dominant requires a lot of life experience and self knowledge, something few people aquire before their 30s. 

I have to say this is some of the best advice your going to get. Take it from someone a bit closer to your age.

Read books, find a local community, practice on your own, and find some cute girls to have some kinky sex with or just want someone who is dominant in the bedroom and vanilla everywhere else.. There is seminars and educational events at the communities you can attend to learn how to be a Top.

Being a dominant, however, isnt an overnight thing. Its a life long process, a path. If your serious about having a D/S relationship and serious about owning another human being, then just forget about it for awhile. As Michael said above, it takes a lot of life experience and self knowledge and self improvement, as well as time, energy, resources, and commitment. Going to college, beginning a career, having a steady income, and ironing out all your personal issues has to come first. Personally, I am stable and comfortable enough to have a submissive on a part time basis, but I still have plenty in my own life (years to go) before I can even realistically consider a full time live in relationship.

Take a good look at your own life. Often are you late for work? How many jobs have you gone threw in the last year? How often do you pay your bills on time? How many mornings out of the week begin with hangovers? In your encounters with women, what came first...your dick or their best interests? Do middle aged adults compliment you on your maturity? If you were a submissive, would you give up control and responsibility to you?

Also...no offense, but just the blunt truth....after reading your profile, I can tell you have a lot to learn about dominance, submission, and power exchange. Your pets are real, living, breathing people with emotions, fealings, expectations, and needs and they arent simply players in a game for your amusement either.

However, if you are willing to listen and learn and you have what it takes, the more experienced and wise dominants in the communities will teach you. Very few on collarme.com that dont know you in realtime will take time from sub hunting to give answers that are going to take a lot of time for you to wrap your head around completely. Take the time and patience to find them and get your bearings first before even thinking about taking on a sub.

There is a LOT more to directing and handling someone who has entrusted you with their bodies, mind, and heart then just saying "Suck, it bitch" when you feal like it.