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So what? - 1/16/2007 12:37:17 PM   
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I personally am getting so annoyed with people that think that others should not have or have expectations of others that seem unattainable to their views.  My question is so what?  Do we choice a substandard association because we have to give benefit of the doubt and to further believe that somewhere under there that skin lies a decent human being filled with emotions, empathy, kindness when in early encounters they have shown none of the above.  Where in this book of life does it damand that anyone settles for less than they feel is their worth, or with someone that is incompatible?  Why should anyone settle for someone that does not fit within our daily lives?  Because they are Dom, and there just aren't enough good ones to go around?  Reading through various threads I hear the echo's that submissives have expectations far from reality, in my mind this also suggests discretely that we should settle for less than our expectations.

Hammer my thoughts here as much as you care to, but when I go looking for someone to complement my life I am seeking the whole package (body, mind, and spirit), and its connection with my body, mind and spirit.  My expectations are to find a complement, and because I value these things in my life; to have someone enter my life that does not value these things in themselves and me, is less than a complement. So call these unrealistic expectations, but remember your dictates have little consequential barring on how I live my life or how and/or when I attain satisfaction.

A rant cause I am tired of the discrete hummms and haaaaaa's at how people chose to select whom will and whom will not be part of their lives, especially when the hummms and haaaaaas have no direct relevance to these lives.

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RE: So what? - 1/16/2007 12:53:22 PM   
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Amen! I am totally there with you, I want to manifest what I want in this life, I will do so. People outside of my intimates and their opinions do not impact me though really.

Here is the deal, I expect to be successful and happy no matter what.... better than expecting to be an unhappy failure, huh?

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RE: So what? - 1/16/2007 1:17:21 PM   
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I think your topic is a bit confusing. On one hand your getting mad with people talking about unrealistic expectations and on the other hand you are talking about its ok to find a complimentary partner.

I think its healthy for people to be realistic with themselves in regards to the potential partners they are looking for. It could save a lot of heartache, desiring something that is never gonna happen (or quite unlikely to happen and even if it did probably will amount to a break-up within a short time due to incompatability) is going to lead to suffering.

Finding a complimentary partner is important..and to do that, you need to be realistic.

If you arent attracting the kinda people you "think" should be in your life, maybe a good hard look at yourself and affecting some change to make you more atractive to the field you want to play in is in order. Nothing wrong with that at all...and its being realistic.

Example: Someone could desire me cause I'm hot..but if they didnt have their shit together, they are going to appear very ugly and unattractive to me..so if they really wanted to play in my field of site, they would have to do heaps of self-improvement. That would be a realistic approach.

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RE: So what? - 1/16/2007 1:24:42 PM   
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A rant cause I am tired of the discrete hummms and haaaaaa's at how people chose to select whom will and whom will not be part of their lives, especially when the hummms and haaaaaas have no direct relevance to these lives.


Do you really think people care?

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RE: So what? - 1/16/2007 1:27:30 PM   
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well, disgression is the better part of valour in these hemming and hawing scenarios.



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